loverman25 Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 (edited) I don’t know where to start so I’ll just begin, first loveleft me a long time ago. We met, I sawher, I took her, great for about 8 months, loved her. Anyway she fawked her ex, I let it go, then Iwent traveling, came back, she was acting weird. No sex, I didn’t even notice, anyway, come tofind out the female was cheating with a new dude, cool (her friend told me). I broke up with her, it dragged out for amonth, she hurting me with words, me doing the same then complete NC. Fast forward 2.5 years she randomly contactsme on facebook, I ignored it for a few months, then responded, gave her a calland that was that. A few months later, Idecieded “I’m going to curse her out”, so I sent her a facebook message crusingher out. New years roles around so Isend her a happy news years message. Sheresponds and says I don’t think we can be friends because I was stillanger. I curse her out again. In my mind, that was the end it. A year later, she sends me a facebook messageand ask’s if I can send her something, I wore when we were together. I told her no. Fast forward another year later, she contactsme again and ask me some stupid question you can google (something I told her when we were together), I reply back trying tobrush her off, then she says she’s engaged and hopes I find Christ, sonaturally I responded and said Allah Akbar and congrulations.. The last time I seen her was 5+ yearsago. She cheated n left is how I look atit in my mind. So I guessing, why is this female contacting and tell me she’sengaged, whats weird is, she was talking in the third person when she responded(after I brushed her off via words/text )and said she was engaged like “she’sengaged, we hope you find Christ”, so I’m thinking, did she go physco on me (talkingin the third person) or something n why is she telling me she’s engaged like Ihaven’t seen her in 5+ years or talk to her so whats the point of that. I did love that girl, loved her to death, thought about her for what 2.5 years everyday, then it started to fade. I kind of wish I never found out, maybe then we would of hooked up once in a while and talked once in a while, like how its suppose to be. Edited December 2, 2013 by loverman25
d0nnivain Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 What do you mean you would have hooked up & talked once in a while, like it's supposed to be? I don't think it's supposed to be that people intentionally communicate with thier EXs. Be polite to them when you accidently bump into them, sure but not arrange things & no talking. She's enagaged. I don't know why she told you but she did. For your own sanity unfriend her on FB & all other social media or you are going to be miserable for the next several months as you see all the pictures of the happy couple & read all about the wedding planning. 1
AShogunNamedMarcus Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 So I guessing, why is this female contacting and tell me she’sengaged, whats weird is, she was talking in the third person when she responded(after I brushed her off via words/text )and said she was engaged like “she’sengaged, we hope you find Christ”, so I’m thinking, did she go physco on me (talkingin the third person) or something n why is she telling me she’s engaged like Ihaven’t seen her in 5+ years or talk to her so whats the point of that. You think those were other personalities in her head or something? They were breaking the news to you for her and the lot of them hope you find Christ? 1
Author loverman25 Posted December 2, 2013 Author Posted December 2, 2013 (edited) We do not speak at all. NC 5+ years, maybe 4 conversations total total in that time, more like short text phrases. we are not FB friends. We have 0 contact. Practically near zero. Just found it odd she contacted me out of no where and said she was engageded, personally I think she's single and lieing personally. Probably lonely and misses me @AShogunNamedMarcus Could be..... You know their crazy if she talks about herself in the third person. Come to think of it, maybe she is engaged, maybe it was the finiance, who REPLIED to her facebook text she sent me. Maybe it was her room mate, if she has a roomate, Who knows, who cares Edited December 2, 2013 by loverman25
MidwestUSA Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 Just found it odd she contacted me out of no where and said she was engageded, personally I think she's single and lieing personally. Probably lonely and misses me I seriously doubt she misses being cursed out. Delete her from all your social media to be sure you don't do this again. She may have told you she's engaged in the hopes that you'll leave her alone. Maybe try finding Christ? 2
Author loverman25 Posted December 2, 2013 Author Posted December 2, 2013 (edited) @MidwestUSA I don't have her in ANY CIRCLES. We are not facebook friends. I deleted all our mutual friends from FB 5 or 6years ago. I do not contact her. I do not message her. We do not have any social connections online or off. She contacts me via Facebook 2.5 years after the split. I cuss her out NC She contacts me every 1-2 later years via facebook. She asks me to send her my hat. I tell her no because she cheated years ago. Actually I told her I lost it. NC She contacts me again another 1 year asking me a question you can just google, I respond with "Your probably single" She then tells me she's engaged and hopes I come to the love of Christ, then I say "Allah Akbar, lol Congratulations baby girl, Congratulations" Her telling me she's engaged with the hopes of me leaving her alone does not apply in this particular case. I'm a Catholic btw. Edited December 2, 2013 by loverman25
Sugarkane Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 Just block her. Although it would make more sense if she was the dumpee and trying to rub her engagement in your face. 1
Author loverman25 Posted December 3, 2013 Author Posted December 3, 2013 (edited) @Sugarkane It is puzzling. Perhaps that was her ultimate objective.. I cannot block her for two reason(s). a) I will know that I blocked her and she will still be in my life because I know she's blocked. b) That will make her think in her mind that I had some sort of emotional reaction to the news of her engagement which she may or may not be lieing about which would cause her in her mind to think I still have some sort of feelings for her. The best course of action I think, is to let sleeping dogs lie, and add the term "mental" to her resume. Edited December 3, 2013 by loverman25
MidwestUSA Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 Yea, let sleeping dogs lie. That's the best way. Hopefully, in time, you'll hear less and lees from her (and the voices in her head!). Happy holidays to you! 1
Meadowgreen Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 She sounds a bit... unhinged. Block her. 1
Sugarkane Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 Who cares what she thinks! At least you won't have to put with these confusing messages and "voices in her head". @Sugarkane It is puzzling. Perhaps that was her ultimate objective.. I cannot block her for two reason(s). a) I will know that I blocked her and she will still be in my life because I know she's blocked. b) That will make her think in her mind that I had some sort of emotional reaction to the news of her engagement which she may or may not be lieing about which would cause her in her mind to think I still have some sort of feelings for her. The best course of action I think, is to let sleeping dogs lie, and add the term "mental" to her resume.
Author loverman25 Posted December 4, 2013 Author Posted December 4, 2013 (edited) @Meadowgreen Perhaps she is a bit detached... @Everyone. To be honst, I wanted to send her a message on fb and say "Hey Physco, I was thinking about you. I wanted to know if I could have sex with you the next time I was in town, thats what I was thinking....." but I ran it by a female colleague and she said "No, leave that girl alone" and I said "Ok, Fine". First she waited 2 or 3 years in complete NC (getting fawked by whoever) then tries for another 2 or 3.5 years now (after she realizes) to open up communication. The only thing that gives me satisfaction in this for lack of a better word "episode" is the fact; that whore still remembers me to the point where she's been trying for years to "be friends" all the while she's living life and engaged, supposedly..... I guess I'll hear from her when she gets divorced. thank god it isn't me, I would of came home and found that women in bed with the UPS guy or the mail man. on a side note, I think she really is engaged or found someone who wants to marry her, but he's older. I had a dream about it/her and a few days later, the mentalist makes contact. Guess we are still connected somehow or maybe i"m romanticizing, Whatever.. Edited December 4, 2013 by loverman25
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