Axee Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 Its been 2 months since I have been on NC. I think Loveshackers give the most appropriate and correct response. I had a pretty good relationship, was treated well (apart from giving me more time) But my bf was unable to commit to me , I gave an ultimatum to say yes and make it happen or say no and walk away and he chose to say "it wont work out" So right I now, I alternate between periods of intense anger and periods of understanding . Somehow I feel cheated as I was led to believe this marriage will take place .I want to send him a text stating "You broke my heart into a thousand pieces.I was so serious and true about you but you were never serious about me.You played with my feelings and my heart .You can ask your friends you family anyone if you did the right thing .You let go of me in a second in spite of spending so much time together.You cannot go all out for anyone. You are a cold and emotionally aloof guy .Never tell anyone again that you are ethical and you keep your word because you dont .The only person you think about is you" Another side of me stops me from sending this as I dont want this text to be the one reason we dont get back together. And it tells me to continue NC.But the anger and indignation asks to me to stand up for myself. What do I do?
d0nnivain Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 Don't send it. Posting it here got it out of your system. A cleansing techinque I like involves printing it out & burning it. Just be safe with the fire. 1
OpheliaSong Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 Ultimatums usually end in failure or resentment. Do not send this if you want to retain any dignity. Post here and rant all you want. I am so sorry you are hurting. A big hug (((Axee))) 1
MoooOinkBaaa Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 Maybe he just doesn't want to waste time getting married?
Author Axee Posted December 3, 2013 Author Posted December 3, 2013 But what about saying "What you did is not OK !" Why should I be silent ..How will the msg go across that he did not do the right thing .. ( for me and for anyone else in the future) .. Silence just shows my acceptance?
d0nnivain Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 It's not OK. But if you send the message you are still reaching out. You are still saying that he's important to you. You are not accepting what he did. Even if you send it, he won't care. He also won't change.
Simon Phoenix Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 But what about saying "What you did is not OK !" Why should I be silent ..How will the msg go across that he did not do the right thing .. ( for me and for anyone else in the future) .. Silence just shows my acceptance? Do you really think he's going to read that and say "Oh yeah, I was wrong, you're totally right!"? Not going to happen. He's going to laugh it off and think you are a spaz. It would be a really horrible idea for you to send something like that. The only way he'll reconsider his actions is if you let him do it himself. 1
Jules78 Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 It's not OK. But if you send the message you are still reaching out. You are still saying that he's important to you. You are not accepting what he did. Even if you send it, he won't care. He also won't change. THIS! Do not do it! You will feel a million times worse if you send him any text, email, whatever. I promise you this!
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