greenfairie Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 I wonder if my ex thinks of me. I mean, how does it work with exes? It's difficult to believe that an ex would ever think about you post BU.
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 I wonder if my ex thinks of me. I mean, how does it work with exes? It's difficult to believe that an ex would ever think about you post BU. At this point, does it even matter if the ex thinks about you? My ex can think about me till the cows come home but I could honestly care less what she does or thinks.
Author greenfairie Posted December 4, 2013 Author Posted December 4, 2013 At this point, does it even matter if the ex thinks about you? My ex can think about me till the cows come home but I could honestly care less what she does or thinks. Well yeah, it matters somewhat to me to know that I was important to him and was a part of who he is now. I'm not like you, not caring. 1
organizedchaos Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 Well yeah, it matters somewhat to me to know that I was important to him and was a part of who he is now. I'm not like you, not caring. For your own sake to move on with your life and heal, you need to get to that point. 2
cavalier99 Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 Well yeah, it matters somewhat to me to know that I was important to him and was a part of who he is now. I'm not like you, not caring. That is BS to lay that on Confused who defintly cares and has helped ton of people on here. I agree with him. We dont care what they think of us now. ..at all. That fact that they appreciated us in the RS should be enough for us. You did date right? So obviously they cared. The fact that they do or most likey dont now isnt our concern and just will hold you back from getting over things. Cav
Mariposa10 Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 If we're talking about LTR, I'm sure they do. It's normal, nothing to dwell on though...
Salvatore85 Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 To answer your question, absolutely I think about her. It's quite stupid but she's still on my mind a lot. I spent 5 years with her, 3 of those years we lived together and she was my bestfriend. While I'm capable of sticking to NC and have done so since March with the only hiccup being her texting me on my birthday in August, it doesn't mean I don't think about her and what might've been? But the truth is that does me no good. It's hard for me to get full closure since I'm stuck in a lease with her that I wasn't able to get out of until this upcoming January. While I'll always love her and I'm sure I'll think about her from time to time my main focus is moving on with my life. She did me pretty dirty so the odds of us ever getting back together are extremely thin because I hold grudges fairly well. It's okay to think about your ex from time to time however you cannot allow it to consume you. This is about healing and wondering whether your ex misses you is something you'll simply never know and you'll drive yourself crazy trying to figure out. Take care of yourself first and foremost, this won't be your last shot at love, not even close.
jba10582 Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 Of course I think about things, and as I do I am focusing on re-programming my mind to use the learnings and memories of the past rather than try to dwell on the emotions of what happened, to become aware of them and acknowledge they exist, (so as to not resit them but to take them for what they were). They become usefull in telling stories or relating to other people because you may be in a situation where you grew together with them and they were a big part of your life at one point.
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