SheWillComeBack Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 I am posting this thing here coz I owe to this forum and people helped me here. I was not that active but I read a lot. So I got dumped back in september 13th september to be exact. I was a dumpee and and being dumped in my life for multiple times. I used to think being dumpee sucks. I was clinging to my relation so much that I even chose my username as SheWillComeBack. You can read my thread here and see how hopeless i was. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/431852-broke-nc-today-now-what I lost 10 kgs of weight and and I started looking like a sad zombie. September was hard month for me. I went to therapist and what now. Imagine anything I did that. I was reading one article one day online. And one dumpee was saying she left me and she chose other guy over me and I want her back and his friend told him "why the **** you can't chose?" that phrase changed my way of thinking. It did not happen at once but I applied it slowly in my life. When I missed her I chose not to, when I wanted to contact her I chose not to, when I feel like giving her call I chose not to. Now after two months she came back and "I chose not to take her back". I told her that she can shove it up her ass whatever feeling she has for me. I ****ing lost 10 kgs of weight in one month but I chose to gain it back worked my ass off and gained that weight back and gained 4 kgs on the top of it. I chose to be strong and kick ass. Now bitches can't their eyes off of me and I be like yeah you can't have that. She saw me how good I am doing in life made her come running back to me. We all want what we cannot have. So chose what you want for yourself and you ****ing stick to that then. You are pussy if you don't and you deserve to be dumped. Yes I will be rude coz thats how I was to me. I dated two girls since and I chose now who I will date, If bitch is being bitch I say go **** yourself. I don't put up with their **** anymore. I am done trying to make it work. One wise guy told me that its not going to work if you will try to make it work, more you will try more you will screw up. It is mutual if someone don't want to be with you there is not a single thing you can do to change his mind. So if they say they want break up tell them yeah I was looking to breakup with you anyways thanks you made the first move. Make them feel ****. If they don't value your feelings why the **** would you? You have your family and your friends who know you way before that bitch did. Let her go and more bitches will come, just the matter of time and you will feel awesome again. Meanwhile work on yourself, chose what you want and you ****ing stick to it then. Ladies I am not being disrespectful to you, you can replace bitch with ******* when reading. I am just trying to make a point here. If a bitch/******* don't want you remember you don't want them either. They want breakup give that ****ing thing to them and move the **** on and find some place to place your di*** or vag*** to distract yourself. I say you move on the moment you find someone else. But you will find that someone else only when you will work on yourself and let go on whatever trying to bring you down and always remember "you deserve better" and "you also can choose" Choose to be happy guys that is all it matters. 3
Author SheWillComeBack Posted December 2, 2013 Author Posted December 2, 2013 Haha you guys can come up with a predefined term for almost anything. I was never been better and I am not replacing any 'bitch' i just don't let them run all over me now. And I am def not angry at anyone lol. She is the one who broke up with me saying she don't find me sexually attractive and many women on this forum were saying there is no come back from there. Guess what she is begging for it now. Lol. She dumped me even after i took her back after she cheated on me twice. what you call this kinda girl you tell me so I think 'bitch' is the right word for those kinds. I know how to love and how to do things for someone. But my point here is I am not doing it until i find the right one now.
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 I am posting this thing here coz I owe to this forum and people helped me here. I was not that active but I read a lot. So I got dumped back in september 13th september to be exact. I was a dumpee and and being dumped in my life for multiple times. I used to think being dumpee sucks. I was clinging to my relation so much that I even chose my username as SheWillComeBack. You can read my thread here and see how hopeless i was. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/431852-broke-nc-today-now-what I lost 10 kgs of weight and and I started looking like a sad zombie. September was hard month for me. I went to therapist and what now. Imagine anything I did that. I was reading one article one day online. And one dumpee was saying she left me and she chose other guy over me and I want her back and his friend told him "why the **** you can't chose?" that phrase changed my way of thinking. It did not happen at once but I applied it slowly in my life. When I missed her I chose not to, when I wanted to contact her I chose not to, when I feel like giving her call I chose not to. Now after two months she came back and "I chose not to take her back". I told her that she can shove it up her ass whatever feeling she has for me. I ****ing lost 10 kgs of weight in one month but I chose to gain it back worked my ass off and gained that weight back and gained 4 kgs on the top of it. I chose to be strong and kick ass. Now bitches can't their eyes off of me and I be like yeah you can't have that. She saw me how good I am doing in life made her come running back to me. We all want what we cannot have. So chose what you want for yourself and you ****ing stick to that then. You are pussy if you don't and you deserve to be dumped. Yes I will be rude coz thats how I was to me. I dated two girls since and I chose now who I will date, If bitch is being bitch I say go **** yourself. I don't put up with their **** anymore. I am done trying to make it work. One wise guy told me that its not going to work if you will try to make it work, more you will try more you will screw up. It is mutual if someone don't want to be with you there is not a single thing you can do to change his mind. So if they say they want break up tell them yeah I was looking to breakup with you anyways thanks you made the first move. Make them feel ****. If they don't value your feelings why the **** would you? You have your family and your friends who know you way before that bitch did. Let her go and more bitches will come, just the matter of time and you will feel awesome again. Meanwhile work on yourself, chose what you want and you ****ing stick to it then. Ladies I am not being disrespectful to you, you can replace bitch with ******* when reading. I am just trying to make a point here. If a bitch/******* don't want you remember you don't want them either. They want breakup give that ****ing thing to them and move the **** on and find some place to place your di*** or vag*** to distract yourself. I say you move on the moment you find someone else. But you will find that someone else only when you will work on yourself and let go on whatever trying to bring you down and always remember "you deserve better" and "you also can choose" Choose to be happy guys that is all it matters. #classy 1
Meadowgreen Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 Fair play, OP's way of expressing himself isn't to everyone's taste but I have to respect what he's saying about the dumpee having a choice just as much as the dumper. You can choose to wallow in self-pity and pray they come back to you, OR you can choose to see the opportunity they've given you to find someone better. Sometimes, that someone better is YOURSELF, and that's fine too 2
todreaminblue Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 Haha you guys can come up with a predefined term for almost anything. I was never been better and I am not replacing any 'bitch' i just don't let them run all over me now. And I am def not angry at anyone lol. She is the one who broke up with me saying she don't find me sexually attractive and many women on this forum were saying there is no come back from there. Guess what she is begging for it now. Lol. She dumped me even after i took her back after she cheated on me twice. what you call this kinda girl you tell me so I think 'bitch' is the right word for those kinds. I know how to love and how to do things for someone. But my point here is I am not doing it until i find the right one now. dont put any women in the category of your ex who did you wrong......deb 3
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 Yea I tend to agree I dont think maybe u are as over this as much as u think as there seems to be a lot of anger there still, however I did replace the **** with my ex's name and it did make me feel a lot better ! ;-) x 2
Meadowgreen Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 Yea I tend to agree I dont think maybe u are as over this as much as u think as there seems to be a lot of anger there still, however I did replace the **** with my ex's name and it did make me feel a lot better ! ;-) x Only when that person crosses your mind and your first thought is 'meh'...that is the only time you're truly over someone. It all starts with you knowing you are not only good enough without them, you're BETTER without them. The bull**** of a negative person gets tiring. When you finally cut that crap loose and replace it with self-respect, that's when you can finally start to heal. It doesn't happen overnight though. OP will get there, I'm sure of it.
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