Tactical Mind Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 (edited) First of all, I have had a wonderful relationship with this amazing girl and she had to move away. When she did, things started to get weird and distant. I don't want to break into specifics, but we broke up around September and after that I haven't looked back. I have focused my energy and time into bettering my situation. I was that dumb guy that would do everything for his girl. I would purposely stop myself from seeing other female friends just to save her a headache, I had this illusion of being the "perfect" boyfriend. I know its a very stupid illusion and I didn't realize it until I started really working on myself. Anyway, my birthday is coming up and she randomly messages me saying that she wants to talk to wish me a good birthday and apologize for how everything turned out. Now I don't have any regret; I have been a little over 2 months of NC and I spent a lot of time really working on bettering myself and I didn't really think much of it so I responded and said it would be okay for her to call. She sent another message saying now she wasn't sure if shed still be able to make the call and I haven't bothered responding. Any suggestions? Edited December 2, 2013 by Tactical Mind title
letsplaygofish2 Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 Was this girl toxic for you? Was she manipulative? If not, she's probably genuinely wanting to wish you a happy birthday. I don't know what she's like... but go with your gut.
Author Tactical Mind Posted December 2, 2013 Author Posted December 2, 2013 I guess it is. I just felt comfortable enough to hold a conversation. She wanted to talk and I didn't see it as much of an issue. I guess what I want to know is if I should make an attempt? I haven't specifically stated our entire relationship but I still do care about her a lot.
letsplaygofish2 Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 I'm sure a lot of people here would say no, but I really don't know your situation so I can't give you advice. Some questions to ask yourself is would it be worth the heartache to hear her voice again? Do you have any hopes of reuniting? Will this open a can of worms again? Can you handle that? 1
Author Tactical Mind Posted December 2, 2013 Author Posted December 2, 2013 (edited) Was this girl toxic for you? Was she manipulative? If not, she's probably genuinely wanting to wish you a happy birthday. I don't know what she's like... but go with your gut. Thank you! And no she wasn't really manipulative and not a toxic relationship I had with her. We just gradually grew apart. It ended because it got to the point that I was doing 200% effort and she didn't seem to be making the attempt so we decided to break it off. It was a bit mutual. Since then I have had enough time to think and grow from the experience. Just need to know if it would be bad to try having a conversation. Just to get perspective I'm sure a lot of people here would say no, but I really don't know your situation so I can't give you advice. Some questions to ask yourself is would it be worth the heartache to hear her voice again? Do you have any hopes of reuniting? Will this open a can of worms again? Can you handle that? I am not looking at hopes of reuniting but I don't mind the friendship we had. I feel like I can handle what I might learn, whether or not its something I'd want to hear. I had some of my best times with her and if she's just honestly wanting to wish me a good birthday and try to talk just to catch up, I'd think it'd be worth a shotm Thank you by the way, both of you! Edited December 2, 2013 by Tactical Mind
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