juju Posted December 31, 2004 Posted December 31, 2004 Im going to sum this up quickly because its such a long story, but it can be condensed. i have dated a much older man for about six months, he had been in a bad marriage for his whole life, we fell in love, we cared deeply for one another, but because of the age difference he didnt want to hurt my family if it was revealed. He left me. he had bought me a promise ring for christmas and left a week later. I understand that he felt trapped. I am afraid he never really loved me.He said he has no choice to leave becasue he is looking out for my future relationship with my family. he said he loves me so unselfishly that he would give me up before destroying my future or hurting my family, he said he cant deal with his guilt of possibly ruining my relationship with my family. was this legitimate or just a way to leave me because he wasnt in love anymore? doesnt true love overcome all obstacles?
missopinionated Posted January 1, 2005 Posted January 1, 2005 Bla bla bla. He is a charmer who has a way of extricating himself from places he doesn't want to be by feeding you a lot of poetic crap. He's done you a great favour. How dare he presume to know your family so well that he knows they'd reject you and how dare he presume that your family cares so little for your happiness that they would reject you on the basis of something so ridiculous as an age difference. He's looking out for YOUR future? I think not. I think he's had his 'day' with you and has moved on to other pastures. Frankly, he sounds like a coward who was not able to tell you the truth, being that he was done with his rebound gig, and that he was out. You are well rid of him. Go find some deserving honest man. Read "The Rules" for fun.
XNemesisX Posted January 1, 2005 Posted January 1, 2005 He is a LIAR and I think you know it. What an idiot. What he is saying is like what one of my friends got told once. The guy told her, "We shouldn't be together anymore because I am starting to love you too much." YEAH RIGHT! Time to move on, girl. I KNOW its hard. But don't try and trick yourself or tell yourself that what he did was so noble and kind. Remind yourself he was lying through his teeth. When he was telling you that bunch of b.s. you should have pointed at his nose and tell him to go look in the mirror because his nose was growing.
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