It does get better!

[turnerik]

I was just like you, sitting at home, crying everyday, driving by her house, looking at everything on social media hoping for a chance that she wants you back. It took about 7 months, but I am over her. Of course I still think about her everyday, but I no longer miss her, I miss being in a relationship. I can now tell stories about us to my friends and no longer feel sad about missing her.

 

The two biggest things to me that made me realize I am over her was driving past a special place ( trust me there was tons of them) and I don't think of her, over the memory doesn't pop up in my head. The second thing is I can listen to those songs about breaking up, and I no longer cry, I sing my heart out to them and laugh at how I use to be when I hear those songs.

 

I did everything wrong after she left me. I called her constantly, talked to her friends, wrote her poems, threatened to hurt my self, I even went into her house and left a bunch of gifts on her bed. I now realize how silly that is, and I can laugh about it!

 

I can't tell you how long it will take, but eventually you will think of them less and less. I use to think she was perfect and I was nothing without her. I recently learned that the girl that used to get straight A's is now in academic support classes, while I just got a national honors award that only 3000 people In the entire country get, and I have an amazing future ahead of me due to me working my ass off.

 

These boards won't provide a magical way to get them back. For the most part they will tell you what won't work. No one can make you choose which way you go, do your own thing and make mistakes in trying to get them back. If you are anything like me, you will eventually laugh apt what you were doing.

 

My only advice is to try and find your calling. For me I found two. Before we broke up I was an occasional hunter, now I just love being out in the wilderness, even if I do not shoot anything, I found the beauty of the wild. The other thing I love to do is to just get in my car and drive. Find that CD that will ease your mind. For me I found peace driving thru western Wisconsin towards my family cabin listening to Bob Seger greatest hits ( try it, I guarantee one song will resonate with you)

 

I'm sitting home alone on a Friday night at 20 years old, and I'm good. I know I'll be alright, and I promise so will you. I don't know how long it will take for you to get over your ex, but you will! You don't believe me, I know you don't, but sometime in the future you will just being busy one day, and all of the sudden it will just hit you, your over your ex. I wish you the best in your healing, and may god bless you!

[letsplaygofish2]

Thanks for sharing. I'm sitting at home crying right now... so desperate I'm about to go knock on my 70 year old neighbors door so I can cry on her shoulder

[LostInTheWild]

This is the same way I would describe feeling crappy all the time along with the miracle of recovery.

 

You will hate the world, crawl into your bed, and hide out as best as you can.

 

One day, your bones will ache, your skin will feel tired, and everything will feel differently. You will wake up. And feel alive. And attack life where it didn't expect you before.

 

Heal. Let yourself heal.

[letsplaygofish2]

I just got back from my neighbors house. They were having a late week Thanksgiving dinner and I crashed it! They were so kind and understanding. We talked through some things because they knew my ex too. But it was just nice being around people... but thank you. I know it will get better!

 

I deleted his phone number from my phone today. He doesn't have any social media, so that makes it easy...

[Still Searching]

Great post. Not only because of the message, but maybe I'm biased, being from Western WI, haha.

[Khyla]

I was just like you, sitting at home, crying everyday, driving by her house, looking at everything on social media hoping for a chance that she wants you back. It took about 7 months, but I am over her. Of course I still think about her everyday, but I no longer miss her, I miss being in a relationship. I can now tell stories about us to my friends and no longer feel sad about missing her.

 

The two biggest things to me that made me realize I am over her was driving past a special place ( trust me there was tons of them) and I don't think of her, over the memory doesn't pop up in my head. The second thing is I can listen to those songs about breaking up, and I no longer cry, I sing my heart out to them and laugh at how I use to be when I hear those songs.

 

I did everything wrong after she left me. I called her constantly, talked to her friends, wrote her poems, threatened to hurt my self, I even went into her house and left a bunch of gifts on her bed. I now realize how silly that is, and I can laugh about it!

 

I can't tell you how long it will take, but eventually you will think of them less and less. I use to think she was perfect and I was nothing without her. I recently learned that the girl that used to get straight A's is now in academic support classes, while I just got a national honors award that only 3000 people In the entire country get, and I have an amazing future ahead of me due to me working my ass off.

 

These boards won't provide a magical way to get them back. For the most part they will tell you what won't work. No one can make you choose which way you go, do your own thing and make mistakes in trying to get them back. If you are anything like me, you will eventually laugh apt what you were doing.

 

My only advice is to try and find your calling. For me I found two. Before we broke up I was an occasional hunter, now I just love being out in the wilderness, even if I do not shoot anything, I found the beauty of the wild. The other thing I love to do is to just get in my car and drive. Find that CD that will ease your mind. For me I found peace driving thru western Wisconsin towards my family cabin listening to Bob Seger greatest hits ( try it, I guarantee one song will resonate with you)

 

I'm sitting home alone on a Friday night at 20 years old, and I'm good. I know I'll be alright, and I promise so will you. I don't know how long it will take for you to get over your ex, but you will! You don't believe me, I know you don't, but sometime in the future you will just being busy one day, and all of the sudden it will just hit you, your over your ex. I wish you the best in your healing, and may god bless you!

 

You sound so mature for being only 20 years old! Great coping advice!

[Khyla]

I also found that lots of exercise; walking, biking, dancing, doing yoga, etc. and Vitamin D3 has helped, is still helping, tremendously with the overwhelming sick feeling and depression I had after my husband 's sudden death.

[Khyla]

Spending as much time as possible outdoors with nature helps alot too.

[RespectfullyAlone]

turnerik, it's great to hear someone trying to turn their life around for the better after a heartbreak.

 

I don't in any way want to be negative, but for me what shines the brightest about your story is that you are only 20. Imagine going through several bad heartbreaks wereby your partners cheated on you, lied to you, or just left you one day with no explanations. I can't see myself at 40 being able to do what you did, because the one thing I will never get back in my life is time. That's gone permanently now. Your hopes get ripped out of you, your dreams with these people, the things you wanted to do together. You then realize that hope, that optimism you had inside of you, you can feel it escaping, vanishing into thin air. It doesn't come back. Your confidence, or what's left of it, take a further hammering. You feel yourself getting older, and know that you most likely have had all the chances you will ever get at trying to form a successful partnership in life. What to speak of the desire to have a family and children.

 

Reveal in your youth, because you have not yet experienced a life of heartbreak. Hopefully you never will. I wish you much luck and success.

[RDawg]

Turnerik. Great to hear that you have recovered.

 

Now the important thing is never, ever get involved with a woman again. It is the only way to avoid future hurt. Please do not become complacent about this: avoid talking to them and don't even make eye contact with them.