SteelMagnolia5 Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 I met my MM a couple months ago online and we hit it off right away. His wife knows about the affair and is okay with it. We have spent time together and talked often. After meeting him I cancelled my online account and told him that I did. He said that he didn't cancel his but only because he barely ever goes to check it. That should have been the first red flag. Now I am so confused and just don't know what to do. We had sort of a fight after he went MIA for a couple of weeks...I made a fake profile to see if he was telling the truth about not contacting anyone on that site...he emailed my profile (no pic) saying that he would love getting to know me. What the heck?! And this is after he told me the night before that he likes me a lot and cares about me...I even told him that if he wants someone more experienced he could look for that.... I'm giving him and easy out...to just take it. He said no, he wants me. I just don't get it. I know I should tell him goodbye but it's really hard.
Ladydrib Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 I met my MM a couple months ago online and we hit it off right away. His wife knows about the affair and is okay with it. We have spent time together and talked often. After meeting him I cancelled my online account and told him that I did. He said that he didn't cancel his but only because he barely ever goes to check it. That should have been the first red flag. Now I am so confused and just don't know what to do. We had sort of a fight after he went MIA for a couple of weeks...I made a fake profile to see if he was telling the truth about not contacting anyone on that site...he emailed my profile (no pic) saying that he would love getting to know me. What the heck?! And this is after he told me the night before that he likes me a lot and cares about me...I even told him that if he wants someone more experienced he could look for that.... I'm giving him and easy out...to just take it. He said no, he wants me. I just don't get it. I know I should tell him goodbye but it's really hard. I understand you being hurt because you obviously put your trust in this man. But I don't understand you being confused. We had sort of a fight after he went MIA for a couple of weeks...I made a fake profile to see if he was telling the truth about not contacting anyone on that site...he emailed my profile (no pic) saying that he would love getting to know me. There's your answer. He's lying to you. If you don't say goodbye now not only will he view you as stupid, but you will allow him to continue to hurt you. And I don't believe him when he said his wife knows. He's a liar. 4
Smarter_Now Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 Oh my gosh! You need to read my post from Thanksgiving day. My MM had profiles on several free dating sites, and even two profiles on a cheating site! I wrote about what I was thankful for a year out of the affair. You have the option of getting out before you get hurt. You need to run like the wind in the opposite direction and NEVER look back. Bye the way - this guy is lying through his teeth - his wife does not know about you or his secret online dating life. 3
Author SteelMagnolia5 Posted December 2, 2013 Author Posted December 2, 2013 Thank you for the advice ladies. I am pretty hurt because I did trust him. Next question...should I let him know what I did? About the fake profile?
Smarter_Now Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 No, you need not tell him. Just end it. These men are master manipulators! He will twist it, explain it away, and have you feeling like crap for betraying his trust so fast your head will spin. I know it sounds crazy . . . But that is how these things go. 1
Ladydrib Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 Thank you for the advice ladies. I am pretty hurt because I did trust him. Next question...should I let him know what I did? About the fake profile? No! Not unless you're certain that nothing he could say to "explain" it will influence you. Because that's exactly what he will do. He will try to lie his way out of it. I'm sorry you're hurting. Sometimes the most trusting people are the ones who end up hurting the most. 1
SarahJames Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 OMG NO! Do NOT tell him about the fake profile. RUN in the opposite direction. COMPLETELY stop talking to him. You will LOVE yourself for completely getting this guy out of your life. PLEASE don't think he will be "different". He's NOT. I was in a similar situation. You know what I learned? There are crazy, literally CRAZY, people in this world. These people get satisfaction out of manipulating, and deceiving others. I learned they TRULY exist. These "men" are able to say they LOVE their wives while completely lying to them, betraying them, seeking out other women online for sex, and leading double lives. Do your self a favor - pretend the fake profile never happened, pretend you never even spoke to him. He does not exist anymore. 2
whichwayisup Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 I met my MM a couple months ago online and we hit it off right away. His wife knows about the affair and is okay with it. We have spent time together and talked often. After meeting him I cancelled my online account and told him that I did. He said that he didn't cancel his but only because he barely ever goes to check it. That should have been the first red flag. Now I am so confused and just don't know what to do. We had sort of a fight after he went MIA for a couple of weeks...I made a fake profile to see if he was telling the truth about not contacting anyone on that site...he emailed my profile (no pic) saying that he would love getting to know me. What the heck?! And this is after he told me the night before that he likes me a lot and cares about me...I even told him that if he wants someone more experienced he could look for that.... I'm giving him and easy out...to just take it. He said no, he wants me. I just don't get it. I know I should tell him goodbye but it's really hard. Would you put up with such crap and disrespect from a single man? If no, then why on earth would put up with this treatment from him? Because he's married and you thought he was a safe bet? Give this some thought. You've barely invested 3 months into him, and even then it's been in an affair setting, not real dating out in the open. He is a liar and only looking for side dishes. Cut this MM out of your life. You don't know him well at all and from what I've read that you've said, he isn't worth it at all. End it and be happy that you saved yourself even more heartache and pain.
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