sprocker84 Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 Friends, Here is where my story starts. I had a girlfriend for 6 years and for that 6 years, 5 years we spent together in the same place and 1 year she migrated to another place(LDR). A brief history in our relationship for the details is that our 5 years together was a blast there were some ups and downs but everything was cool and was settled. Until one day she got a letter that she would be migrating to another place far from where we lived. We talked about it and we decided that after she migrated she would come back for me specifically (2years) and i would go back with her. She said that the only thing that could make me go with her was when she would come back we would get married. It didn't bother me. At first she was so understanding that every time we talked about the "wedding" she said we would go for the practical one in our place its called a CIVIL wedding. I was very happy about it because our dreams would come true. This was when the sad part came. The next few times she called and we talked it was about the "wedding" and one time she said she deserved a better one and changed the plan to a CHURCH wedding because she would follow her religious belief. I was shocked and I told her that I couldn't afford it for now because its to expensive in our place. After that the situation got worst and I said lets plan about it and not rush into things because she just changed the plan. After that she would blame me for not having a high paying job that would aid in the wedding and she would tell me that "you will just marry me because you want to go here for an easy entrance"( what can you say about that guys?). One day she said things don't work anymore and called it quits. She still messages me but not like the old times. She tells me that she still cares for me but she needs time to think about what she really wants and leaves it all to GOD that's her specific sentence. Ive had this long relationship for 5 years here in our place with minor problems but things started to change when she migrated in a new place far from our culture and she just transformed into a new person not the GF that i had once. Im really bothered about this guys. Any help or advice? What can you say? Thanks.
Philosoraptor Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 Well she moved away and new experiences will change your life path. She decided she wanted a church wedding and it became important to her... when you could not provide that she decided that your relationship wasn't worth working on. Regardless, she's berating you horribly and wasn't willing to put in the effort needed to sustain the relationship. 2
Author sprocker84 Posted December 2, 2013 Author Posted December 2, 2013 Hey Man thanks a lot. I really needed a second opinion because i just really needed some advice. What else can you say about this?
Philosoraptor Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 There isn't much more to add. She wasn't willing to put in the effort and instead decided to end things. You deserve someone who is willing to work through issues. 1
Blastbeat Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 1. It sounds like she is being immature. Changing the plan and blaming you may be her way of not accepting responsibility in not wanting to commit to you. The best remedy for this is to give her the cold shoulder for a while. Show her what it's like to miss you. 2. Love isn't about money. She's blaming you for not having a high paying job. Does she have one?? And that didn't matter before did it? Try to be the tough one here bro. Give it to her straight, tell her to stop being a b**ch and ask her what she really wants. If that doesn't include you then she can have her God and you can have a life with a woman that deserves your attention. 1
Author sprocker84 Posted September 12, 2014 Author Posted September 12, 2014 thanks Man. ive read your advice and you are right. i havent loged in but imn over her already. thanks MORE power to you!
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