I Asked Out My Beautiful Hair Stylist Today

[AboveandBeyond]

Why did she give you her email address ?

 

 

Doesn't matter at this point

[truth_seeker]

 

However, since you already have, doing what I advised CAN work. I know because I've done it before. No risk, no reward.

 

You're right that women can change their mind. She may say no now, but down the road after getting more comfortable with the OP, she may change her mind and might want to give him a chance.

[Art_Critic]

Doesn't matter at this point

 

My thinking was that if she gave it to you in order to play Xbox then your misstep IMO was not using it for that and instead using it to try and get in her pants...

 

If you had used it to play Xbox and done that a few times and then asked her out you possibly would have had a different result.

 

Food for thought....

[johan]

My thinking was that if she gave it to you in order to play Xbox then your misstep IMO was not using it for that and instead using it to try and get in her pants...

 

If you had used it to play Xbox and done that a few times and then asked her out you possibly would have had a different result.

 

Food for thought....

 

Art, she can't even afford a smart phone. I doubt she has an XBox.

[AboveandBeyond]

My thinking was that if she gave it to you in order to play Xbox then your misstep IMO was not using it for that and instead using it to try and get in her pants...

 

If you had used it to play Xbox and done that a few times and then asked her out you possibly would have had a different result.

 

Food for thought....

 

I enjoyed her company very much, I don't think she ever thought that I was only interested in trying to get in her pants

 

I think she gave it to me more for work related reasons when I first saw her. We got along very well though (have everything in common) and she made several flirty comments. She also complimented on me for having a nice complexion. I actually felt pretty confident I would get a yes here

 

I'm actually a little surprised that I haven't received an easy letdown. I'm sure she wants to keep me as a customer. I thought I would definitely either get a yes or a convenient/easy letdown

[Art_Critic]

She may still reply...but it might be more along the lines of the easy letdown you mentioned...

[ShyGuy5]

Who knows if she even got the email. That's the one thing about communicating through email, text or Facebook. You don't have the instant feedback and you really have no idea what is going on in the mean time behind the scenes. I wouldn't rush to conclusions right away.

[AboveandBeyond]

Who knows if she even got the email. That's the one thing about communicating through email, text or Facebook. You don't have the instant feedback and you really have no idea what is going on in the mean time behind the scenes. I wouldn't rush to conclusions right away.

 

 

I didn't see a comfortable situation to ask her out today I guess. She was constantly around co workers

 

 

Most people check their email everyday though, I doubt she hasn't seen it

[Titania22]

There is no guarantee she even checked her email after work. If she was tired and wasn't expecting any important emails, it might not have occurred to her.

 

She will get your message whenever she does eventually check her email, and then she will reply. Try not to think about it in the meantime.

[AboveandBeyond]

There is no guarantee she even checked her email after work. If she was tired and wasn't expecting any important emails, it might not have occurred to her.

 

She will get your message whenever she does eventually check her email, and then she will reply. Try not to think about it in the meantime.

 

 

It's all good. It's all a big numbers game anyways

[abby2]

Did you give her a good tip?

 

and are you sure she's single?

 

I would ask for her number so she knows you are really interested in her.

[truth_seeker]

There is no guarantee she even checked her email after work. If she was tired and wasn't expecting any important emails, it might not have occurred to her.

 

She will get your message whenever she does eventually check her email, and then she will reply. Try not to think about it in the meantime.

 

She has the leverage now. She received the email but no one knows if she read it. If she did, she can play it like she didn't get it or hasn't had the chance to check her email - gives her time to think about it, how to respond.

[AboveandBeyond]

I broadly agree with that. Hope you get a nice reply.

 

 

I work in business to business sales for a living

 

 

If people want a certain product, they will buy it. It doesn't really matter how you go about asking for their business

[elbe]

i work in business to business sales for a living

 

 

if people want a certain product, they will buy it. It doesn't really matter how you go about asking for their business

 

well did she reply yet?!

[WhiteButton]

My man i am going to tell you this next time you ask a girl out you ask for NUMBER!!!! NOthing else is accpetable. If she gave me the email after asking her out, i would taken that email and throw it the first garbage can i could fined.

 

Her way of saying no was by giving you the email address. Having said that good job on asking her out, you still came a winner for trying.

[Speakingofwhich]

I'll be surprised if she doesn't reply. You're her customer and for that reason alone I'd think she'd reply. Sometimes it takes a couple of days for people to reply to an email if they're not expecting one (so they don't check email that often), so don't get it right away and then take some time to answer. I sometimes do this.

 

Also, some young people mostly text and don't communicate by email anymore, it seems. So she may not check email that much.

[FloridaKeys]

Hope she contacted you. Any update?

[elbe]

I would say no to anyone asking me out over e-mail realistically -- and I am a sad old man not a cute hair stylist. Better luck next time.

[GravityMan]

I understand (and agree) that it's in poor taste to ask someone out while they're at work, but even so it's very lame to ask someone out over email. Yes, even in this day and age. It's too passive on your part. I'd be surprised if she accepts. Especially since a few days has passed. She's probably read it by now and decided not to respond in the hope that you'll get the hint.

 

I doubt she was romantically interested in you in the first place. Even though she gave you her email address, it still holds true that the most likely scenario is that she was just being friendly to keep your repeat business...and maybe at best become gamer friends outside of work. Sorry.

[FloridaKeys]

I think as long as the email is respectfully written, there is nothing wrong with it, especially in a little bit of a tough situation as the OP had. It can also help out shy guys (not referring to the OP) and can make a rejection a little more tactful or comfortable for the rejector and rejectee.

 

Email not ok, but online dating is ok???

 

Takes balls to ask someone out on email also, if you ask me. You're still putting yourself out there.

[Titania22]

I think we are never going to find out if the OP got a response.

[elbe]

I think we are never going to find out if the OP got a response.

 

Don't hold your breath...

[johan]

I think we are never going to find out if the OP got a response.

 

I think we can already be pretty sure his next date will be with someone else. And probably his next haircut, too.