I Asked Out My Beautiful Hair Stylist Today

[AboveandBeyond]

I've been getting my hair cut for the last 3 months by this beautiful blonde. Each time we have gotten along better and better as we've gotten to know each other. She is one of the nicest girls I've ever met and we have everything in common - I even found out today she's an avid video gamer (she has an xbox one - I was astonished to hear that a playmate looking blonde would be an avid gamer). She's pretty much exactly what I like - a feminine girl with some masculine interests

 

 

She gave me her email address today and I just said f*ck it and I asked her out. Curious to see what her response is. I can't remember the last time I liked a girl so much...at the same time, I'm completely unattached to the outcome as I have no idea whether she really likes me or not. I'm not a bad catch, she actually even gave me a little compliment today so hopefully I hear something back

Edited December 1, 2013 by AboveandBeyond

[ShyGuy5]

You asked her out over email?

[elbe]

You blew it! You must ask in person next time! MUST!!!

[AboveandBeyond]

Heck, I want an xBox One, lol. Did she respond yet? I bet the suspense is killing you. But just assume if she is hot as you say she is then she probably gets hit on a daily bias. But you only live once man.

 

 

I'm sure she gets hit on daily but you did only live once

[AboveandBeyond]

You blew it! You must ask in person next time! MUST!!!

 

 

lol there is no asking her out next time. I will know whether or not she likes me at this point

[ShyGuy5]

lol there is no asking her out next time. I will know whether or not she likes me at this point

 

I hear where you are coming from because I want to know, but sometimes you have to take the chance. You also might stand a better chance if she is feeling you from the conversation you are already having as opposed to when she is disconnected from you in the email.

[AboveandBeyond]

I hear where you are coming from because I want to know, but sometimes you have to take the chance. You also might stand a better chance if she is feeling you from the conversation you are already having as opposed to when she is disconnected from you in the email.

 

 

If you do a good job in a conversation, a girl will think about you for a long while after she leaves

 

 

If a girl is not thinking about after you left, you didn't do a good job and/or you are not attractive to her and it doesn't matter anyways

[d0nnivain]

As you posted this, you were waiting for her answer? I think asking by e-mail is lame at best but she may disagree.

 

 

If she goes out with you, great, good for you.

 

 

If she doesn't are you still planning to get your next hair cut from her? If yes, you shouldn't bring it up if she doesn't.

[AboveandBeyond]

As you posted this, you were waiting for her answer? I think asking by e-mail is lame at best but she may disagree.

 

it was too awkward to ask her out in the store with all her co workers right there, I dunno

 

I wasn't going to ask her out at all, I forced myself to do it because I felt some good signs

 

 

If she doesn't are you still planning to get your next hair cut from her? If yes, you shouldn't bring it up if she doesn't.

 

 

I probably will, she's a good hair stylist. I will just treat it as a platonic thing

[d0nnivain]

If you ever find yourself in that situation again, do a couple of back & forth e-mails, then ask for a phone # so you can call for the date.

[AboveandBeyond]

If you ever find yourself in that situation again, do a couple of back & forth e-mails, then ask for a phone # so you can call for the date.

 

 

I didn't actually arrange a date via email

 

 

I asked her if she wants to go out some time. If she says yes, then I will get a phone number and ask her out

[elbe]

I didn't actually arrange a date via email

 

 

I asked her if she wants to go out some time. If she says yes, then I will get a phone number and ask her out

 

Too many steps, too many places for error. She may not even recognize you from the e-mail address. How did you get her e-mail? That might be what she gives out because imagine how many guys admire her...

 

Don't get me wrong, I'm rooting for you.

[AboveandBeyond]

Too many steps, too many places for error. She may not even recognize you from the e-mail address. How did you get her e-mail? That might be what she gives out because imagine how many guys admire her...

 

Don't get me wrong, I'm rooting for you.

 

 

she gave me her email today. I probably could have gotten her number as well - I got my hair cut by her today

 

 

What it comes down to though is if she likes me, she will say yes. If not, it doesn't really matter how I go about doing it

[ShyGuy5]

If you do a good job in a conversation, a girl will think about you for a long while after she leaves

 

 

If a girl is not thinking about after you left, you didn't do a good job and/or you are not attractive to her and it doesn't matter anyways

 

I hear what you are saying, but the energy will fade, even if she is still thinking about you, it most likely won't be as intense as in the moment. PLus if you did a good enough job, then why wouldn't you ask her then? I understand because I am in the same situation minus the actual talking to the girl. THe email way is a cop out IMO. It is easy and removes you from facing what she is going to say head on. There is nothing really special or romantic about an email. All you need is a chance and I think the best way is in person. Who knows? Maybe a lot of guys are intimidated by her and you asking her out would make her feel special and she might give you a shot.

[johan]

If she's like everyone else, she received and read your email as soon as you sent it. And if she didn't respond right away, meaning the answer is not an easy one for her to provide you. I don't think it looks good for you.

 

Assuming I'm right, I think you'll learn two lessons from this:

1) The customer should never hit on the service provider. She now has to face the awkwardness of dealing with you after she's rejected you and the likelihood things will be too awkward for you to continue going to her. She can expect to lose your business, which will affect her financially. Even just one of those things is enough to build resentment.

2) Asking someone out through email is a bad idea.

 

I'm just speaking from experience. In situations like this, she's the one who should make the first move.

[AboveandBeyond]

If she's like everyone else, she received and read your email as soon as you sent it. And if she didn't respond right away, meaning the answer is not an easy one for her to provide you. I don't think it looks good for you.

 

I would give it until midnight. She worked until 5 or 6 so I doubt she had access to a computer at that point

 

 

1) The customer should never hit on the service provider. She now has to face the awkwardness of dealing with you after she's rejected you and the likelihood things will be too awkward for you to continue going to her. She can expect to lose your business, which will affect her financially. Even just one of those things is enough to build resentment.

 

I am looking at this from my perspective, I don't really have anything to lose

 

There are a million hair stylists near me. Hell my best friend owns a salon

 

If you sit there and think about every reason not to ask somebody out, you're going to have a million reasons not to do it in EVERY situation. You just gotta go for it

[StanMusial]

If she's like everyone else, she received and read your email as soon as you sent it. And if she didn't respond right away, meaning the answer is not an easy one for her to provide you. I don't think it looks good for you.

 

Assuming I'm right, I think you'll learn two lessons from this:

1) The customer should never hit on the service provider. She now has to face the awkwardness of dealing with you after she's rejected you and the likelihood things will be too awkward for you to continue going to her. She can expect to lose your business, which will affect her financially. Even just one of those things is enough to build resentment.

2) Asking someone out through email is a bad idea.

 

I'm just speaking from experience. In situations like this, she's the one who should make the first move.

 

I was thinking the exact same thing.

 

You actually put her in a tough spot.

 

Do you even know if she is available?

[AboveandBeyond]

I was thinking the exact same thing.

 

You actually put her in a tough spot.

 

Do you even know if she is available?

 

 

yea she's definitely single

[ShyGuy5]

What if she really didn't get the email or it went to spam or something

[AboveandBeyond]

What if she really didn't get the email or it went to spam or something

 

 

If it didn't go through correctly, I would get an error message

 

 

Going to spam is very unlikely as there was no images or anything in the message

[johan]

I am looking at this from my perspective, I don't really have anything to lose

 

There are a million hair stylists near me. Hell my best friend owns a salon

 

If you sit there and think about every reason not to ask somebody out, you're going to have a million reasons not to do it in EVERY situation. You just gotta go for it

 

Well, I'm definitely not here to criticize you for something I've done myself. I'm just telling you what I've learned through my own mistakes. And I agree, you have to at least try, even if it's not in a way other people think is the best way.

 

I'd only be critical of you if you prove to be unwilling to look at it from her perspective as well as your own. Mostly because you should have some respect for her and understand you're actually putting her ability to pay her bills on the line. Not to mention understanding her point of view is going to lead to better strategies.

[Versacehottie]

Wow, people are being too critical. OP is right. If she's interested it won't matter that he asked out by email. Though in person or by phone would have been best because it shows the most confidence which is most attractive. I do think the amount of time it takes her to respond is an indicator of her interest. Also why did she give you her email? If the reason of a "friendly" nature or to bond about xbox and such, then it's a positive sign. If it's about booking the hair appointments, then not so much. Good luck! Ps your confidence is pretty good in these posts. Keep it up.

[reddragon588]

Asking out in person is preferable. Asking by phone is next best. It shows courage, and most of all it shows you care.

 

Email can be so impersonal. I get a million emails a day. There is no intimacy associated with it.

 

It's done and nothing you can do about it now, but next time, consider doing the harder, but more attractive thing.

[AboveandBeyond]

Asking out in person is preferable. Asking by phone is next best. It shows courage, and most of all it shows you care.

 

Email can be so impersonal. I get a million emails a day. There is no intimacy associated with it.

 

It's done and nothing you can do about it now, but next time, consider doing the harder, but more attractive thing.

 

The email thing was a last resort for me, although like I said, if she liked me she would have responded no matter what

 

 

No response at this point, what a shame. Move on to the next one next week I guess

[Art_Critic]

Why did she give you her email address ?