Natisha Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 Does age difference really matter? I am a single mother(divorced), aged 35, with a 6 year old son and he is 26 years old. I think I made a very big mistake
Pa76 Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 Takes longer for guys to mature. I would look for a guy your age or older.
elbe Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 As a 26 year old male the only thing I would want with an attractive 35 year old women is to make a porno.
Author Natisha Posted December 1, 2013 Author Posted December 1, 2013 Hmmm how serieus is it?also to involve your kid in it? remember you cant bring dudes around everytime You feel like, whatever age.it effects your kid alot. Beside there are a lot of sick men hunting on single mom. because they fall easy sometimes. I think mature and of your age would be better. But dont be to fast. If its posible wait till your kid is 18. so she can choose to leave if your choice effect her Badly. It is so difficult to let him go. The relationship itself wasn't too serious as I broke up before it even reached that stage yet I miss him a lot. We met through work and after spending a lot of time together on a project things just slipped into a relationship. My son loves him and he treats my son well, it's just I am so scared what family members would think and I feel that he might grow bored of me in a few years and find someone younger.
d0nnivain Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 Your problems are of your own making & the solution is up to you too. I don't think age differences matter that much as long as the lifestage points are similar. With your 9 year difference if he was still in college I'd say it may not work. You can reach out for him & confess that your own fears made you nutty & that it was temporary insanity. As long as the break up wasn't nasty you may be able to do some damage control. Does it really matter what your family thinks in the short run? Yes the age may startle them at first but if he's as good of a guy as you say, that will shine though & overcome any minor issues like dates on a calendar. 1
Vinsanity1307 Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 Sounds very familiar..... I dont think age difference matters at all..... I am a 27 year old who was in a relationship with a women 9 years older than me with three kids(twins that are 9 and an 18 year old) and divorced twice. We dated for 5 years and she gets a new job and leaves me. I did everything I could for her especially the first two years. here is my story if interested on the situation maybe can give you a better understanding... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/417902-dumped-after-5-years
JDPT Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 Age can certainly play a tremendous factor. My ex was 9 year older than me. We met when I was 26 (I was literally a kid, just enjoying life) and she was 35 (divorcee with children, trying to enjoy life her way as well). After everything unfolded the way it did, her and I were delusional trying to believe that this would ever work out. We both had different priorities, that plus the lack of communication lead to our demise. Now, 4.5 years later I see that she was never the "one" for me although with her I think I experienced what love truly feels like. You live in learn and I chuck this as a learning experience. It certainly helps you get to know yourself in a deeper level and make better decisions down the road.
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