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[trailrunner1975]

From a male perspective.......I say take him up on his offer of NC and stick to it. You are stuck in place until you do this. DO NOT stroke his ego by saying you miss him etc. Easier said than done but necessary to help you move on. You are the number one priority and he can pound sand.

[awkward]

I see a strong woman who is ready to move on from this toxic relationship. That is why you are here reading advice. Just waiting for you heart to catch up with your brain.

 

You don't need him to advise you on how to get over him. That is just stupid. He is stupid, not you. It is going to take time. And you are going to be ok. You will one day look back at this and be glad that you got away from him.

 

He doesn't offer you anything. So yes tell him not to call. Block him. You are strong and can do this. It will hurt like this for a long time if you don't start healing now. Again he offers you nothing. Your future is ahead of you, and he isn't it.

[Cinnimon]

Just wanted to thank everyone who came to my rescue today. I appreciate it more than you'll ever know.

[Mcle]

Remember men are attracted to women who act like they matter to themselves and make themselves a priority. There is no way for you to do that in this situation and you know it.

 

You are hurting because you are a kind person but also because, in this relationship you betrayed yourself. Get away from him. You are so much better than this. Please do not feed his ego, he does not deserve to feed off your pain.

[whichwayisup]

Just wanted to thank everyone who came to my rescue today. I appreciate it more than you'll ever know.

 

No more beating up on yourself. Make us and yourself a promise right now that you won't do that anymore. It serves no purpose at all. exMM makes you feel bad enough, why pour salt into your own wounds.

 

Just cut him off. Change your number, change your email. Be done. He is where he wants to be and yes he may feel awful for hurting you but he damn well knows he can't fix your pain and make it better.

 

He is toxic for you and has done damage.

[Popsicle]

Tell him to go fix himself and his marriage instead of being on the phone and giving advice.

 

You have so many people who care. MM does not care.

 

I remember feeling like MM was the only person who REALLY cared or loved me... he was the one who caused me all the grief. The people who cared were the ones on the side-lines watching me self destruct.

 

So turn to the people who really care- not the ones that cause you grief.

 

This. You must go NC with him and move through the stages of grief. Tell him to never contact you again or you will never progress. This is for your own good.

[WakingUp]

Just wanted to thank everyone who came to my rescue today. I appreciate it more than you'll ever know.

 

 

More hugs ((( ))), it will be OK.

[beach]

This. You must go NC with him and move through the stages of grief. Tell him to never contact you again or you will never progress. This is for your own good.

 

Don't even bother telling him - just block his number and email.

 

It's a gift you give to yourself!

[Star4223]

Weakness isn't measured by crying. Crying is what people do when they need a release. Allow yourself your pain, your tears, your hurt... And don't belittle yourself for your emotions. Feel them and let them go, and then lift your head and breathe peacefully after the release. Wash rinse repeat.

 

I love what you wrote. I too have been crying daily and hurting beyond belief. It seems like I cant concentrate on anything but my own pain and self pity right now and it makes me feel incredibly weak. Why cant I just get mad????? Its a self hate thing right now. How can he NOT have feelings of lose? how can he NOT hurt???

 

Can someone tell me the stages of Grief??

Edited December 2, 2013 by Star4223

[Mcle]

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/inside-out/201309/the-5-stages-grieving-the-end-relationship

 

Here you go. Good luck with your NC.