jen03 Posted December 31, 2004 Posted December 31, 2004 I think I scare guys off. I mean after every first couple dates, when I talk about my degree (I'm Electrical Engineering) and stuff I've gotten published --not that I show off, the conversation just somehow leads around to it-- guys seem to get intimidated and lose interest. But there is this one that I am really attracted to, and I don't want to lose him, and I think I might be. We had awesome conversation and I think he's great! But after our third date I haven't heard from him, and I'm worried... Should a gal step forward and ask him out now? I've sort of been letting him doing all the inviting. I'm a little older than him and I don't really want to 'compromise' his manhood or anything... or intimidate him even further! Is there a remedy for this? Any responses would be greatly appreciated! Thanks!
moimeme Posted December 31, 2004 Posted December 31, 2004 You've got to find one who has met or exceeded your accomplishments. They can be insecure creatures, these fellows - at least according to John Grey. Given that your profession is dominated by men, you should still have a fairly large field from which to choose.
johan Posted December 31, 2004 Posted December 31, 2004 I agree. You need to find a guy who feels confident enough in his own achievements that he can be proud of what you've done. My girlfriend is also an electrical engineer. I love how smart she is. I have to admit that smarter women are more challenging in general. And the extra challenge isn't always fun. You may be misinterpreting the guys though.
LiveLoveLaugh Posted January 1, 2005 Posted January 1, 2005 Originally posted by jen03 I think I scare guys off. when I talk about my degree and stuff I've gotten published guys seem to get intimidated and lose interest. But there is this one that I am really attracted to, I don't really want to 'compromise' his manhood or anything... or intimidate him even further! Jen, you worked hard for your degree, you need to be proud of your accomplishments and quit worrying about some guys manhood! The right guy will be confident and secure in his own life (regardless of what he does for a living) and will not be intimidated by you, but instead see you as a strong and successful woman, and find it a turn on. As for the guy you are interested in, if he hasn't called, don't call him. If it is because you intimidate him, that is his problem. In your field, there should be no shortage of intelligent men. Just do as much networking as you can, and see what happens. Go to trade shows if possible, the men are endless.
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