udelgirl Posted December 31, 2004 Posted December 31, 2004 i met this guy in my poly sci class and we started talking a lot, and now over xmas break he's initiated getting together and hanging out and going to the park and talking and stuff. we have a lot in common, except looking back on our conversations now i think i might've accidentally 'rubbed in' that my family can afford a lot more than his can (oh, we go to florida every summer to go boating, it's so great, have you gone before, we've gone here, there, bla bla bla) and now i feel like a total biotch, especially considering he's never really been out of state or overseas. i don't want to tell him i feel bad or anything, but i don't know if there's anything i can do to make myself seem more humble? this guy is really cool and i don't want to intimidate him.. i mean he's opened up a lot to me, and told me how his family isn't very well off.. and when he came to pick me up, i mean my house is pretty large and mansion-like.... i mean should i like invite him out or something? i think he shares the car with his family so it's hard for him to get a ride. i don't know what to do...
agnf666 Posted December 31, 2004 Posted December 31, 2004 I think that it will be fine, just as long as you don't rub it in that you are well off. That may make him think that you are better then he is and then you have the problems. I would let things go the way they are. Spend time at his house and with his family. Make it seem that the material things are not what matters it's him!
Author udelgirl Posted December 31, 2004 Author Posted December 31, 2004 i've been hanging out alot lately w/ this guy in my poly sci class, we have a lot in common and really enjoy spending time together (at least i do..) and at first he was really into calling me and getting together but now i let him know i really like spending time w/ him and i don't know if i've intimidated him or something by asking him out on our last 'date' together? he doesn't really initiate getting together anymore.. what could that mean you think? i know that old saying let the guys do the chase but i don't know.... i don't know how to steer this thing to make it more of a relationship than friendship... i mean, how does that thjing happen? how can i be like affectionate or induce him to like want a relationship? i'm sorta boyish and usually guys i'm interested in turn out just wanting me as a friend, a really good 'sister' to them. but always at first they seem really interested in a relationship and that 'desire' dies off, could it be something that i am doing? i don't know how these things work i haven't really been in a 'relationship' before (btw i'm in college, yes i know that's pretty sad..)
Groovy Posted December 31, 2004 Posted December 31, 2004 He may just like you as a friend and since knowing your feelings is keeping a distance to not mislead you OR he did want to take the lead. Unless you said you love him or directly asked him on a romantic date I wouldn't worry. If you scare someone off for just saying you like them, than they just aren't the right guy for you. If your not submissive than don't fret over men who want that. Don't change who you are.
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