BlametheIrish Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 (edited) My cousin in in his mid 40's and was diagnised with paraniod schizophrenia in his early 20's. I have never been close with him due to.the age gap and because he has been in and out of jail,group homes and random womens houses after he was diagnosed.,He like many schizophrenics stops taking his meds thinking he is better then ends up getting hurt, hurting someone or ending up in jail. One time he escaped a group home with his gf and moved down south, only to accise her of being in cahoots with the government who.is against him and ended up beating her up pretty bad. He was in jail for a while after that one. I have not seen him since his step brothers wedding 10 years ago. Recently, he stopped taking his meds at the grop home he was in and ran off with his gf. Got **** faced drunk and blacked out. I.forget what condition it is but getting blackout drunk means you dont move in your sleep causing the blood to coagulate and it can result in loss of limb function and worse. He ended up.with worse and in a coma, lost partial use and muscles in his leg and list complete use of his right arm. He was in the hospital for two weeks because of this. The day he got out he ran to his girlfriends house. What a selfish prick!!! Had hus mom, stepfather and father in a tizzy. He also has two kids,he was never there for due to him never getting a grip on his illness. Long story short, my mom wants me to visit him in the group.home while he is healing and is mad at me for not visiting him in the hospital. I told my mom we were never close and I think he needs to be in a locked up place not a group home. She thinks I.should goout of respect for my Aunt and Uncle. As they would surely visit me in the hospital if I.were sick. So I'm really finding it hard to come up.with a good argument as to.why I.shouldnt have to.go. FYI my cousins step brother who he grew up with wont visit him either, he leven refuses to.give him another chance. Im just hoping someone can help me come up.with a logical argument as to why I shouldn't have to.go. I find talks with my mom about sensitive ussues like this to.be very hard, Im usually good at getting my point across in any instance but it's different with her unfortunately. Thanks in advance P.s. Im.very sorry.for all the sloppy typing I.do on this sit. My phone is extremely screwed up making it extremely hard and frustrating to edit my typing. Edited December 1, 2013 by BlametheIrish
AShogunNamedMarcus Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 Could you put your foot down and tell her you've made your decision and she needs to respect it? Then if it ever comes up change the subject or come up with an excuse to end the conversation? Or, would this drive a wedge in your relationship with your mother? I'm assuming you are an adult. You need to tell her you don't appreciate her pressuring you to do something you know you shouldn't do. Demand some respect. That is, if it's not unreasonable. 1
Author BlametheIrish Posted December 1, 2013 Author Posted December 1, 2013 I'm 29 but I'm still.her little girl and respect your elders was driven into.me from a very.young age. For some reason that makes,it harder to stand up for myself. I know I need to put my foot down but it would be easier for me if I had a valid argument to combat the "Do.it out of respect for your Aunt" argument. Ive told her I've never been close with him and I dont respect his life decisions in spite of his ailement. That did not work unfortunately.
AShogunNamedMarcus Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 Tell her you believe that visiting someone in a hospital or home is something for people who have a bond with that person. Without that bond, you could never do something like that. Or something... 1
elbe Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 P.s. Im.very sorry.for all the sloppy typing I.do on this sit. My phone is extremely screwed up making it extremely hard and frustrating to edit my typing. You do all of this on your phone? You crazy broad Are you sure you won't regret not visiting him in the event that he dies as a result of the next stunt? If the answer is "No." then what is the true reason you don't want to visit him? I realize it is really hard to feel bad for someone like this but mental illness isn't necessarily his fault. 1
Author BlametheIrish Posted December 1, 2013 Author Posted December 1, 2013 You do all of this on your phone? You crazy broad Are you sure you won't regret not visiting him in the event that he dies as a result of the next stunt? If the answer is "No." then what is the true reason you don't want to visit him? I realize it is really hard to feel bad for someone like this but mental illness isn't necessarily his fault. If he died I would feel bad for his children and parents more than tge fact that I havent visited him. I realize it isn't,his fault he has a mental illness, but I do believe a decent amount of his life choices were due to being selfish not just schizophrenia. I also believe the system is to blame too, giving him.way to many chances after he proved he can't be trusted to live in a group home many times over. He has done despicable things in his life and although I pity him, I do.not care to ever be around him again. He has a support system so its not like its me or no one. And yeah typing on my phone is awful but my laptop has a virus and a very cracked screen so I make due with what I have 1
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