Did I send the wrong message & say I'm not interested?

[Ditapage]

I like this guy.. We're just friends and he is cautious about getting in relationships after his last one ended badly. He's a bit on the shy and/or apathetic side when it comes to girls. But he makes an effort to stop me with hello and talk to me.

 

I did a stupid thing and thought I could force him into making a move. I said I'm planning to move somewhere else because "it's not working out for me here" and he seemed disappointed but ended up saying "wherever you go there'll be problems" when I said "something here (which is him but I'm not going to say that) is making me feel sick." Then I said "I need to go where I can make progress" and he said "in what way?" And I said "I want to meet someone." He didn't have much to say to that... Just that "just because you aren't with anyone now doesn't mean you won't be in the future." And he said "nobody can make the decision to stay here or go, but you." And it wasnt exactly the reaction I hoped for.. I expected a guy who asks others about me, flirts, stares, chokes up but talks to me anyway, would encourage me not to leave. The guy is famous around here for not wanting to get married and tells other girls he doesn't want a girlfriend but when I asked him he said he does want to get married.

 

Did it backfire in that saying I want to move away and meet someone isn't telling him I like him, but that I'm uninterested in him? My friend said "why would he say he likes you after you said you want to move to meet someone, you're basically saying there's no one here." I can't think clearly because of this crush.

[ken_25]

This what you get for trying to make him a puppet and say what you want him to say. So that happened, ok let's forget about that. You should reach out to him and set up a hang out of some kind. Make it casual, then if things are feeling right, explain to him in your own way that you like him. Try not to be too insecure about it, try not to over analyze it, be real!

[Mr Scorpio]

I would be apprehensive to pursue a relationship with someone who was ready to leave the area. That would make me feel as though I'd be carrying the burden of being the only reason that person was staying. Sounds like an easy path to a suffocating relationship.

[BlametheIrish]

Say what you mean and mean what you say. That will get you.a direct answer from him. Not all that wishy washy stuff you tried. Sometimes you gitta put your heart on the line for the potential of a good relationship.