jc63 Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 Last night, my W lost a family member. This family member had issues for years but the death was still unexpected. My W called me early this morning and told me. I told her I was sorry for her and if she needed anything, all she has to do is call. I want to comfort her but I don't know how giving our situation. I just want her to know that I'm there for her no matter what. I'm thinking about getting her, her mother, and her sister some flowers just to express love and care for ALL of them. Is this a good way to comfort her and her family without being too much? I'm planning to just buy the flowers and leave them on their doorsteps and not say anything.
d0nnivain Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 To my way of thinking death changes everything. I do think you should send flowers & a card Do you have kids? If so call your wife & make definite plans about getting the kids through this or even distracting them so she can grieve.
elbe Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 Don't do anything over the top if you are separated. It's only going to make you look manipulative if you buy them a boat to mend grief. Instead, do what any other respectful adult would do when someone they know passed. Go to the funeral, hug the family members, grieve for yourself, and then move on with life. Death is a part of life.
Author jc63 Posted December 1, 2013 Author Posted December 1, 2013 No kids. I just want to be there for her in anyway I can without putting pressure on her.
d0nnivain Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 Send flowers & a card. Ask what she wants. Go to the wake for the other family members but don't stay if it makes her uncomfortable. 2
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