BarOfButter Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 For the past two months, I've been talking to and seeing this great woman. She's the best person I've ever met, and she feels the same about me too. We're both the same age, and have a lot in common in our beliefs. Basically, there's a really great connection there. We're still have a lot to do in terms of trying to figure out our lives, where we're going, what we're going to do career wise, etc. So far we decided to take things slow before we make actually start using the title boyfriend or girlfriend. However, we've been already treating each other like we're dating, such as spending lots of time seeing each other and talking on the phone, making sacrifices in our lives to see each other. She recently said that she's kind of lost her sense of individuality over the time we've been seeing each other and needs time to herself to figure out where her life is going. I kind of feel the same in the way that I've been spending lots of personal time with her instead of working on some life projects I had been putting off. So she wants to take things even slower, but we're not sure how to go about it. We're thinking it means seeing and talking to each other less or whenever we have time so that we have more time for ourselves and developing our own lives first before we officially start dating. But at the same time, we both totally miss each other too much. Our human emotions would want us to see each other more and more and get more intimately involved. So there's generally lots of confusion as to what to do, and how one goes about finding ones sense of self, so it wont get lost while being in a relationship, while having time for ourselves.
d0nnivain Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 It's a process. . . usually of trial and error. As you mesh together more it gets easier because you can do the mundane things like food shop & possibly laundry together.
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