Robbyrob Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 Me (25) and mf ex (20) are both from Germany. we both broke up in a good way cause of her moving to study medicine in Hungary. she couldnt get a spot in Germany and of course i wanted her to go there and the best for her. We both met when we were in the time we didnt want to have a relationship because of her and my career. but well it came different. we had the most extrovert and intense dates ever. Really we both had the best summer time. She couldnt stop being with me. We both never experienced that feeling of love and butterflies before that strong. I know 3,4 months doesnt sound long but it was so intense the time and all between us was just pure love. we both said we are the other half of each other. we were really harmonizing. before i had relationships with other foreign girls and she even had a relationship of 3.5 years before me, but that didnt have any affect on us. She said she was always dreaming of a guy like me and me like a girl like her. And she knew she could never get over me. We were like so great together. We were never fighting.This summer time was so intense. She completely loved everything about me, from looks to personality.we always said no one will ever understand us what was going on between us, it was all so different. She saw I am different than other boys. When she got accepted to study abroad in Hungary for at least 3 years and she would have liked me to come, which I wanted but she didnt want me to start my career in Hungary for that time. So we tried to be realistic and we ended it in a good way.I highly respected her that she said not to start my career in Hungary, because 3 years is a long time. And she is right. It was just the worst timing for us to have a relationship. we were both very down. so the first 1.5 months we tried to move one but alwaysand stayed in touch, but it was hard to move on without the other person and we were still so deeply in love. she tried to get over me to move on but it never worked. We argued soemtimes because the distance was changing our behaviour. she was always crying and all she wanted was to have me. And even if we knew it wouldnt work for now the relationship between us we wanted to see each other and do all these nice things again. we also said that no matter what, we would always want each other in the future and we wouldnt never call each other ex bf or ex gf. we also were writing in english,even though we speak german which made it special.plus we are both not typical german, we are very international oriented. Then 1 month ago she surprised me in Germany and her family and friends for 4 days but she wasnt herself. She was so cold and different. She was stressed, she needed to see her family and friends and barely had time for me plus at the end she was sick. I can understand that because of the situation, its so hard. She said she loved me so much, but its like im so close but still so distant. Then the last day before she left, I wanted to go around but she said its better to sleep alone cause she was sick. But i thought she didnt want to see me anymore or avoid me because of the situation. I still went there just to see how she was, which kind of made her mad cause she was sick and she was pissed because i said it was a pity that we couldnt spend the days like we were hoping too. So she thought i blamed her which i didnt want to.I started to cry next to her because it was killing me inside not to see her probably anymore for at least 3 years. and she was even more pissed at me. she probably thought i cried cause that she was so cold, but not seeing her made me like this. i wasnt myself. The day after she had to leave she said she doesnt like men seeing crying. Before she went to Hungary and I gave her a letter which I wrote the day before( just a review of our awesome time). She then left.. we ended up not talking to each other for 3 weeks. I thought she needed the space. But it was hard not to talk to her. the first 1.5 months in Hungary before she came back for visiting she never managed it to ignore me or not to write but this time she managed it 3 weeks to not send anything. So I wrote her after 3 weeks: You will always be special to me. I miss you. she wrote back the next day: "thats nice to know" and she told me that she doesnt want to have a crying boyfriend and that it actually helped her to move on she said and get over me. She also couldnt imagine to develop feelings for me now. In this moment back in germany she really thought I was weak. She apologised for being bitchy and cold. I of course forgive her cause its normal because of this difficult situation! but she said she now has a different image of me, and it changed, also because of the distance. Obviously i tried to make clear that i wasnt myself that moment but it didnt let her change her mind. Im still the guy she loved and she thought she always wanted to be with. Im not sure if she sees someone else, at the end it doesnt matter. she even said we were a great couple. But i feeel like i would really like to be with her in the future and i want her to get rid of that thinking that im weak cause i cried one time. Right now i wont contact her or anything. In December she might return, if she wants to see me or will write me for christmas, i dont know. I know 3 years will change a lot. but the great memories will always stay. I will try meeting other girls in the future and im planning to move to Mexico or Australia for some years for work. But id like to be in touch with her at some point in the future. We ended our last conversation, that i said: "Its all said for me, there is nothing to add" Its just that all the things she said were so real before and she alwways meaned it that way. And now she changed her mind about me because I cried and because of the distance. Or is it just a way to get over me to better forget me? Whats the best thing to show her that im not a crying boyfriend even if im far away? Or is it her turn to make the move? also she lives alone there and I can imagine she distracts herself with another guy, they might even come together. but i shouldnt care.She needs to enjoy the years there. it will probably be the time of her life. Will I have a chance to eventually meet her again in a few years?I really hope you can help me.I dont even know if this will be read! If you got any questions let me know. For now ill stay confident, finish my bachelor thesis, move on, be strong and think rational
Milad Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 Me (25) and mf ex (20) are both from Germany. we both broke up in a good way cause of her moving to study medicine in Hungary. she couldnt get a spot in Germany and of course i wanted her to go there and the best for her. We both met when we were in the time we didnt want to have a relationship because of her and my career. but well it came different. we had the most extrovert and intense dates ever. Really we both had the best summer time. She couldnt stop being with me. We both never experienced that feeling of love and butterflies before that strong. I know 3,4 months doesnt sound long but it was so intense the time and all between us was just pure love. we both said we are the other half of each other. we were really harmonizing. before i had relationships with other foreign girls and she even had a relationship of 3.5 years before me, but that didnt have any affect on us. She said she was always dreaming of a guy like me and me like a girl like her. And she knew she could never get over me. We were like so great together. We were never fighting.This summer time was so intense. She completely loved everything about me, from looks to personality.we always said no one will ever understand us what was going on between us, it was all so different. She saw I am different than other boys. When she got accepted to study abroad in Hungary for at least 3 years and she would have liked me to come, which I wanted but she didnt want me to start my career in Hungary for that time. So we tried to be realistic and we ended it in a good way.I highly respected her that she said not to start my career in Hungary, because 3 years is a long time. And she is right. It was just the worst timing for us to have a relationship. we were both very down. so the first 1.5 months we tried to move one but alwaysand stayed in touch, but it was hard to move on without the other person and we were still so deeply in love. she tried to get over me to move on but it never worked. We argued soemtimes because the distance was changing our behaviour. she was always crying and all she wanted was to have me. And even if we knew it wouldnt work for now the relationship between us we wanted to see each other and do all these nice things again. we also said that no matter what, we would always want each other in the future and we wouldnt never call each other ex bf or ex gf. we also were writing in english,even though we speak german which made it special.plus we are both not typical german, we are very international oriented. Then 1 month ago she surprised me in Germany and her family and friends for 4 days but she wasnt herself. She was so cold and different. She was stressed, she needed to see her family and friends and barely had time for me plus at the end she was sick. I can understand that because of the situation, its so hard. She said she loved me so much, but its like im so close but still so distant. Then the last day before she left, I wanted to go around but she said its better to sleep alone cause she was sick. But i thought she didnt want to see me anymore or avoid me because of the situation. I still went there just to see how she was, which kind of made her mad cause she was sick and she was pissed because i said it was a pity that we couldnt spend the days like we were hoping too. So she thought i blamed her which i didnt want to.I started to cry next to her because it was killing me inside not to see her probably anymore for at least 3 years. and she was even more pissed at me. she probably thought i cried cause that she was so cold, but not seeing her made me like this. i wasnt myself. The day after she had to leave she said she doesnt like men seeing crying. Before she went to Hungary and I gave her a letter which I wrote the day before( just a review of our awesome time). She then left.. we ended up not talking to each other for 3 weeks. I thought she needed the space. But it was hard not to talk to her. the first 1.5 months in Hungary before she came back for visiting she never managed it to ignore me or not to write but this time she managed it 3 weeks to not send anything. So I wrote her after 3 weeks: You will always be special to me. I miss you. she wrote back the next day: "thats nice to know" and she told me that she doesnt want to have a crying boyfriend and that it actually helped her to move on she said and get over me. She also couldnt imagine to develop feelings for me now. In this moment back in germany she really thought I was weak. She apologised for being bitchy and cold. I of course forgive her cause its normal because of this difficult situation! but she said she now has a different image of me, and it changed, also because of the distance. Obviously i tried to make clear that i wasnt myself that moment but it didnt let her change her mind. Im still the guy she loved and she thought she always wanted to be with. Im not sure if she sees someone else, at the end it doesnt matter. she even said we were a great couple. But i feeel like i would really like to be with her in the future and i want her to get rid of that thinking that im weak cause i cried one time. Right now i wont contact her or anything. In December she might return, if she wants to see me or will write me for christmas, i dont know. I know 3 years will change a lot. but the great memories will always stay. I will try meeting other girls in the future and im planning to move to Mexico or Australia for some years for work. But id like to be in touch with her at some point in the future. We ended our last conversation, that i said: "Its all said for me, there is nothing to add" Its just that all the things she said were so real before and she alwways meaned it that way. And now she changed her mind about me because I cried and because of the distance. Or is it just a way to get over me to better forget me? Whats the best thing to show her that im not a crying boyfriend even if im far away? Or is it her turn to make the move? also she lives alone there and I can imagine she distracts herself with another guy, they might even come together. but i shouldnt care.She needs to enjoy the years there. it will probably be the time of her life. Will I have a chance to eventually meet her again in a few years?I really hope you can help me.I dont even know if this will be read! If you got any questions let me know. For now ill stay confident, finish my bachelor thesis, move on, be strong and think rational Sorry for your situation. I live in Hungary. I write this cuz I feel you are a strong(stronger than me at least) person: If you google "budapest party" and click on Images, you'll see this country changes anyone in matter of weeks. Too many international people from all around the world study/work here. There is no doubt she had a great time with you. Like you said it yourself, do not rely on her, meet new girls. Good luck
Author Robbyrob Posted December 1, 2013 Author Posted December 1, 2013 Sorry for your situation. I live in Hungary. I write this cuz I feel you are a strong(stronger than me at least) person: If you google "budapest party" and click on Images, you'll see this country changes anyone in matter of weeks. Too many international people from all around the world study/work here. There is no doubt she had a great time with you. Like you said it yourself, do not rely on her, meet new girls. Good luck Yes man you are completely right. She has been to Budapest now two times. She is havign a great time. and i want her to have a great time, but i was irritated about what she told me at the end! like her mind changed. But ill remain strong and meet new girls. Maybe we will get back in touch at some point. and i know for sure the dates we had she can never ever copy! and she knows that too...so the great memories will always stay. thank you man for your support! keep your head up too
elbe Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 google "budapest party" and click on Images WOW!! I am so sorry OP. Move on bro, or move to budapest! That's my new life goal..
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