kentucky7887 Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 So a couple times month about 4 or 5 of us go out for dinner. We all order whatever we want and at the end of the meal we put our credit cards in a hat and let the server draw. Loser pays the bill and winners tip. I always wondered if this would take the edge off, for who pays as long as you know before dinner. I've never asked or done this outside of friends.
Mascara Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 When I go out with friends, if it's someone's birthday we tape their hands together and they have to drink all night like that. I've never yet tried that on a date either. 6
Author kentucky7887 Posted December 1, 2013 Author Posted December 1, 2013 The person who does the asking, does the paying. I would not be very receptive to this idea on a date. I probably wouldn't go out with you again if you pulled this. I wouldn't say "pulling" its not a trick. But if someone buys me dinner I always leave the tip. If I go to pay and someone says, "I got it" I let them and then tip.
Author kentucky7887 Posted December 1, 2013 Author Posted December 1, 2013 When I go out with friends, if it's someone's birthday we tape their hands together and they have to drink all night like that. I've never yet tried that on a date either. Gotta love sarcasm, but I understand what your saying.
GemmaUK Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 I like that idea a lot! Bit of fun too! It just shows that either party is willing to pay as well. If someone buys me dinner I always pay for the drinks. There was only one time I had been dating for several months where a man insisted on paying for the food and the drinks - his treat for my birthday. He moaned about how much it cost for several weeks after though - around £40 per head - which is about average in the area I live in unless you visit a chain restaurant. 1
Author kentucky7887 Posted December 1, 2013 Author Posted December 1, 2013 Sounds very childish , and have something mean with it. Like let the server do the dirty work. also like a power struggle between the all of you. and on a date this would be worse. and i would say never go on a date with someone like this. its to childish and like you want to show that you have alot of money and also a power struggle. men should be men and pay at the first date/dates. it should not be the womans sorrow. I don't understand what you mean by power struggle. Its ment to be good fun. We all enjoy gambling. Maybe using the terms winner and loser are throwing people off. These are not 500$ dinners maybe 100-150$.
d0nnivain Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 I like the idea very much with friends. I have no idea how this would work on a date. If I didn't know about your thing with your friends & you asked me to do this on a date, we wouldn't go on a second date. If you don't manage the expectations in advance, it comes across as weird.
Author kentucky7887 Posted December 1, 2013 Author Posted December 1, 2013 Maybe tell them about it, and dependong on their reaction offer on 2nd or 3rd outing.
Mascara Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 Gotta love sarcasm, but I understand what your saying. Good. Dates aren't mates
theothersully Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 Gender role. I'm the man, I pay for the dates. Old fashioned.... if the woman wants to contribute, she can get the tip or dessert at another place or pay the parking or whatever.... 1
crederer Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 (edited) hahaha this is in a commercial right now in canada (hockey commercial so not sure if it's in the states) They have "team themed" credit cards where the mascots of each team throws in their credit card (which has their team logo on it). Just thought it was funny cause it was on tv like 2 seconds before I read this post. I wouldn't do this in a group setting cause with my kind of luck I'd be picked every time. But early in a dating relationship I pay every time. Just kind of how I was raised I guess. Once the relationship is established we usually rotate to an extent, but I've always been the one making more money so I still paid the majority of the time. Edited December 1, 2013 by crederer
Shepp Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 I wouldn't do that on a date and I don't think I could even do it with friends! I couldn't watch someone's bad luck mean they have to pick up the whole tab with out ending up saying something like "don't worry mate i'll go halves with you". I think my family have like ingrained that in me from birth!! The words "first rounds on me" just come out before I even know ive said it!!
crederer Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 I wouldn't do that on a date and I don't think I could even do it with friends! I couldn't watch someone's bad luck mean they have to pick up the whole tab with out ending up saying something like "don't worry mate i'll go halves with you". I think my family have like ingrained that in me from birth!! The words "first rounds on me" just come out before I even know ive said it!! haha yah agreed. I do that too. The "first round's on me" implies that someone else gets the second round but that rarely happens
NoMoreJerks Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 If you're comfortable enough to talk about this scenario to someone, it means you are not all that uncomfortable talking about money issues on / after a date, in terms of who pays. Splitting makes me uncomfortable until we go out a few times, because I don't like haggling with money and it just kills the mood. Discussing this ahead of time also kills the mood because you'd be thinking about this when the time comes to pay, rather than going with the flow and just picking up the check... I wouldn't go out with a guy who suggests this.
StanMusial Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 By doing this on a date, you're basically demonstrating you don't want to pay. Or at least leave it up to chance, and not pay based on that. Not only would you look cheap, but you would look like you were trying to NOT look cheap in a roundabout way LOL.
TheGuard13 Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 That is the dumbest thing I've heard all day.
gaius Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 She's not going to be any less turned off by the guy not paying just because the server happened to pick her card instead. 1
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