ImmortalHoney Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 BACKGROUND PROFILE: I met her at college. She is shy, introverted and beautiful. I've been seeing her roughly once or twice a week since mid October it's now the beginning of December so a quite a few weeks. I approached her in short exposures to establish comfort in my presence, and afterwards began to befriend her *she's an interesting character*. All weeks leading up to late November have consisted of me just very lightly easing into her comfort zone and being a positive and energetic character in front of her; throwing subtle flirting *with few complements* here and there. I had asked her out the first time a month ago... she flaked. I thought she didn't like me, but she's really just a nervous type of gal. She doesn't mind going the coffee shop on campus nearby or walking around (she doesn't drive). Now, I had a conversation with her as walked her from usual location to the same coffee spot. I was being genuinely caring and asked why she doesn't try to socialize more, I said: "I really think you could meet some interesting friends". SHE TELLS ME SHE DOESN'T NEED ANY FRIENDS. (I didn't bother to question, but was she implying that she wants me to something more to her? Because she definitely likes me and I'll tell you why) On one of our previous walks/hangouts (I'm not sure if I can call this a date), I broke the touch barrier. This was when she said "im cold", she kept saying this and eventually I got the cue and held her close for a short time. I then sat at a table and touched her hair *I asked if she puts oil on her hair (It's really shiny) so I started touching it and gently moving my fingers through her hair. Her reaction so casual and calm that it was almost disturbing that she was so comfortable around me in her personal space (honestly I don't even believe I would be that confortable if she was touching me like that.(I was thinking WTF she's letting me touch her hair... most girls flip out about that sh*t or give some subconscious indication of discomfort.)(I think she likes me). ETC Blah blah blah END BACKGROUND ------------------ Now, my question is whether I should kiss her to further solidify attraction and MAYBE make her my girlfriend. She seems incapable if meeting outside of school and I'm done trying meet her elsewhere when I can accomplish the same goals of a date on campus without all the hassle; but it kind of blurs the line between date and hangout. (although I never explicitly asked her out on a date, I asked to movie and a coffee shop which I later told her that I went with my friends when she didn't show). She's always alone when I see her and I suspect I'm her only guy acquaintance/friend because all the others are intimidated by her looks and don't approach her. PROBLEM: SINCE I'VE NEVER TECHNICALLY BEEN ON A FIRST DATE OFF CAMPUS or established any "hangouts" on campus as dates I worried that it would be premature to kiss her before that. I don't want to scare her away. BTW, I never text her... I only talk to her in person.
d0nnivain Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 Without kissing you two are just friends. It's up to you but I'd try.
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