confused 13 Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 hi guys I am writing as I need some advice I am so confused and need help. I have been with my man for over 3 years and the first 2 years were wonderful I live in the remote part of Australia and my family are in Melbourne harry works on the mines and works 4 weeks on and one off, I have known him since I was 22 years old, my husband died 8 years ago and we met a few years later. He used to talk to me about everything but the last year he is being secret about his family re ex wife sons etc and I find things out from other people and that hurts me. He has just recently bought his 24 year old son up from perth I didn't even know he was coming till he was here it was never discussed with me. he advised me he was coming up to get off drugs and save money (which never happened) harry set him up with a job accomandation etc any he just **** in everyones face however in the mean time he has caused us to break up. I am not allowed to talk about his sons ex wife etc and if I do he runs away and sleeps in the car for the night I advised him last night that I would leave and go back to Melbourne and he agreed that was a good idea but I don't want to leave him and all I want to do is talk about us civil and calm I want to know if he does still love me or not but every time I want to talk to him he doesn't want to don't know what to do please help
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 To be honest, if he is unwilling to even talk, like an adult, about this...There is very little you can do. He nonchalantly agrees with you returning back to Melbourne. That is a huge sign that he has no feeling in him for this relationship. Although not every detail needs to be known in a relationship, his seemingly secretive attitude as of late, is bad. He should be more open with you. Less condemning of you. Frankly, his cold behavior over you stating you'd return home, is all that should tell you. This relationship is making you miserable. He does not care. I am truly sorry for your hurt....I know what it is like to care for a person, and they begin to act cold and distant. You need to make healthy choices for you, and you alone. This guy is no longer(if ever) a healthy choice for you. I really am sorry to say this all. I hope another poster gives you better advice...
Author confused 13 Posted December 1, 2013 Author Posted December 1, 2013 Thank you and I also think you are right I feel that I am wasting my time and heart being lonely and sad and I am also making him sad we just had a lot of wonderful plans. thank you for your advise leonie
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