Dumped85 Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 Im almost 6 months post BU of a 8 month relationship. I still think of her every waking moment and the what ifs still come up. Im still saddened by it all the time I miss not having her by my side. When will those feelings end, i hate it. I feel so uncomfortable. How are others feeling at around the 5 - 6 month mark?
2fargone Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 2 months and some change. After finding out she had someone else, nothing else mattered anymore. I accepted it and went NC. I'm at the point now where I'm starting to think about not coming here anymore. I'm not thinking about my ex that much, and sometimes when I read something here it actually brings up the thought of her. Nothing more than a flash, but I don't need it...
fluffyfluff Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 At two months I was in shock. It's now 2 and a bit years later. I'm no happier I think about it all the time when I'm by myself. I'm still in a deep pain. I'm very resentful about the damage to my life and my daughters. I'm unable to get past this all and start living again. I still feel very angry and ripped off.
letsplaygofish2 Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 2 days and I'm in slight denial, but am not sad or regretting anything. I just witnessed him spiral into an unstable mental state and am feeling hugely sorry for him. But at this point, there's nothing I can do and I need to let go and let him sort out his life. As for me, I am hanging out with my friends, staying busy and enjoying my alone time. I was done crying a week ago... Wait, am I still in the denial phase or have I moved into acceptance?
CAdude82 Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 Well, it has been 6 months now after we dated for only 5 months. For some reason, this is the hardest relationship to get over. I guess it's because I actually felt true love with this person. The month after I broke up, I was fine. I didn't even have any emotions over the breakup.However, after that month, I started to miss him. We did text every now and then, but then I started texting him more frequently. Not only that, but instead of going NC (This is before I even head of the term), I spent all of October bothering him trying to get him back. In the beginning of October, we went out to dinner and that brought back every feeling I had for him. I ended up texting him that I still have a lot of love in my heart for him and I would like to get back together. I asked him if there was still a chance, and he said yes. However, he wants to stay friends and let things naturally develop. He said we can't just jump back into a relationship after being apart for 3 months (We broke u in early June). Instead of taking it slow, I let my emotions control my actions. I kept texting him asking if he wanted to hang out, and texting him how depressed I was without him. I even went on a dating app and talked to the guy I had suspicions he was seeing. I ended up finding out that he was seeing this guy. I texted my ex and told him what I found out. This weirded him out. He said they have been "talking" for the past few months. He then said, "even if we were dating, you and I are just friends". He said that "I'm an awesome guy" and to text him, just not weird things like what I did. Well, I of course didn't stop there. I was texting him on Halloween and he told me that he had a tattoo appointment. I told him I was going to come and see it. That sent him over the edge and then he texted me that the way I am going about things lately has just been weird and aggressive and that he doesn't know how to react to me anymore. It sucks to know that my actions pushed him completely away. Now I am forced to go NC. I feel now that I have ruined any chance of salvaging anything that could have happened between us. I am still depressed. I still relapse and try to snoop on him on his Instagram and seeing his pictures brings me back to square one. I have to force myself to stop and stay completely NC. What sucks is that our first date was on January 1st. Since that day is creeping back up, I know it's going to bring back memories.
Calli154 Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 I'm at one month BU three weeks NC and I think about him all day. Mornings are the worst and I oddly feel okay at night. Protected in my room. This is hell.
Kingkaneda Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 Its been about 6 months since the breakup. We lived together for 5 years. I still get moments where I feel miserable. Tried dating other girls to get my ex of my mind, worked for a couple of weeks. Then I started recognising things with my new dates about my ex. Like watching my favorite movie with them and stuff. Brought it all back... Even though she broke up with me, this dating suddenly felt like betrayal. Now I just try to focus on sports and friends. But nights like this, where everybody is busy....I feel horrible.
fluffyfluff Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 2 days and I'm in slight denial, but am not sad or regretting anything. I just witnessed him spiral into an unstable mental state and am feeling hugely sorry for him. But at this point, there's nothing I can do and I need to let go and let him sort out his life. As for me, I am hanging out with my friends, staying busy and enjoying my alone time. I was done crying a week ago... Wait, am I still in the denial phase or have I moved into acceptance? I find I float in and out of denial acceptance all takes time.
letsplaygofish2 Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 I screwed up. Just saw him on OKCupid (where we met) and sent him an instant message. We've been conversing for an hour.... fudgeeeeeeee
sedgwick Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 Six years; five years NC. 10-month relationship. Not over it or ready to date at all. Think about him constantly.
Author Dumped85 Posted December 2, 2013 Author Posted December 2, 2013 Six years; five years NC. 10-month relationship. Not over it or ready to date at all. Think about him constantly. How old are you, if you mind me asking?
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