gogogogo Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 Hey guys need a little help. My ex gf broke up with me about 6 weeks ago. It's been a rough break up for both of us. She's abused me randomly and contacted me every week about random things. Well a few days ago she actually had a valid reason too contact me about photos she wanted so I put them on a usb and dropped them off. I hadn't seen her since the break up and she came out and we chatted for 45 mins or so. She had so much pain in her eyes and I was keeping the chit chat casual. She told Me she has been smoking weed and drinking every day since we had broken up. Then she broke down and cried saying she has to see a therapist because the doctor thinks she may have depression. She's been hanging out with this party girl who is a bad influence on her. So she was hugging me crying and couldn't help but feel sorry and want to help her get off the path she's walking down in life. I'm not inlove with her anymore but I love her and care about her and I just want her to be happy. She said that she was having dinner and movie night with her son and trying to quit drinking and stuff. I have my doubts cause she knows that's what I would want to hear instead of her going out partying every night which is why we were fighting and broke up. I'm still close with her family and friends and her friends say they don't see her cause she is partying with her party girl friend and her family say she isn't her self. I just wanna know any input on what to do? Should I try and help her? Should I leave her to figure it out? I must admit since the break I have done really well I got promoted and work. I've been focusing on gym and surfing and just getting a good sense of who I am. But every time she contacts me and especially after seeing her in person I can't stop worrying about her? I don't know what to do.
elbe Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 What can you do for her? Nothing. She's going to go see a therapist who hopefully can give her a hand. You need to work on yourself. 1
Million.to.1 Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 you won't change her, and you can't "be there for her" if she has broken up with you. focus on the good things in your life and avoid contact with her. She needs to figure this out on her own. 2
Author gogogogo Posted November 30, 2013 Author Posted November 30, 2013 yea i know hopefully she sorts stuff out for her and her son! i know she will contact me soon again as she always does. especially once she sees the usb with hundreds of photos and videos of us having fun
d0nnivain Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 No you shouldn't "be there" for her. That's what she is paying a therapist for. 1
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