SER Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 (edited) My SO went to his home and friends for Thanksgiving, which is less than an hour away from where we live. I made some cookies from scratch for him to take to his family since I was spending Thanksgiving in town with my family. I wasn't really invited to his, as he assumed I was staying here and I assumed he was going there. When he left to go to his hometown on Wednesday, he said he'd let me know what is going on after Thursday because he didn't have any real plans, but he packed enough clothes to stay through Sunday. Didn't hear anything from him on Thursday, so I texted him happy thanksgiving later in the day and we texted lightly. Later Thursday night, both of us were invited to a get together in town for Friday and I texted him that he was invited. He said he might be able to make it and that he'd let me know. So the event was late in the evening... I didn't hear from him all day. So I texted him about an hour beforehand to see if he was going to come and he said that he was leaving one friend's house and was going to see a different friend, so probably not. So I said ok, have fun. I felt a little more sad than upset since it makes me feel like he hasn't given me a thought at all nor has he "let me know" what was going on this weekend. I've driven over there before to hang out with him and his friends, but not so much this time. I understand that he hasn't seen some of these friends in a while and they've come into town and he wants to spend as much time with them as possible. I'm not upset about that, I hope he has gotten to spend some good time with them. I just feel like I've been swept under the rug when the holidays are supposed to be spent with your loved ones and yet, I don't seem to get any of this time with him this weekend. I spend the majority of my free time with him, as my life is really busy. This means only a couple of week nights and I usually try to keep the weekend open for him. But I always get Sunday nights, as he goes on Saturdays back to his hometown to spend with his friends. So I never get a whole lazy day with him , it's always a couple of hours and then wake up for work. So wi that said, I feel like I'm not really a priority or like I'm not important enough to remember or spend time with. Is it unreasonable or am I expecting too much? I feel like if I was so important or meant that much to him that he'd make some effort to spend part of this holiday off with me. But he hasn't and I'm not sure that he sees anything wrong with that. Edited November 30, 2013 by SER
Recommended Posts