kim_mc Posted December 30, 2004 Posted December 30, 2004 I just ended a conversation with him just a few minutes ago. I am so damn upset right now. I call his cell phone back twice knowing he just got home and his wife was there. I really didn't care. I posted here a couple of weeks ago my story with this guy. I guess most of the story was about hubby and myself. My MM and I met online in July. We chatted for exactly a week and a half and had several phone conversations before deciding to meet. I had been chatting with one other person at the time MM and I met, I decided to eventually end ties with this person. I never did meet this other person, was a strictly chatting relationship. MM and I wanted to be exclusive chat and love buddies. Something he wanted. I did too however, he was the first to mention it. I too wanted exclusivity with someone other than hubby. Things were awesome back then. We chatted for hours and then eventually started talking on tele. I was laid off of work at the time so most of my free time was spent talking to him, and meeting once a week. We do not live near eachother, so we would meet half way. Or so he would tell me. But after Map Questing directions from his town to our meeting place, I was driving at least 40 more miles. Anyway, one night I decided to go online to leave him an offline message. Well he was in a chat room. My heart sank. Of course there were many excuses, some of which I could not believe. It was the fact that he wanted to be 'exclusive' online and in our relationship. I was a little hurt. Of course the next time we met, I forgot about all of that. A couple of weeks later we were chatting in the morning. He had an appointment later that day, so we ended our conversation and would catch up with each other later on. I had to leave the house and would not be around so decided to go online to leave him a message. Guess what? He was online again. In a chat room. Now, this time, he pretended to be someone else using his profile. I'm not going to even get into it, but it was a completely stupid fabrication, that not even a five year old would believe. I let it go, like I did the last time. Instead I decided to do a little snooping, and created a fake profile to catch him. I know the entire thing is so juvenile. I did catch him you know. We were both under different screen names, however he say he knew it was me all along. I know why bother after this. I'm not sure really. I did have a hard time trusting him though. He did with me as well. Things continued with us. Still meeting weekly, talking. We both decided to try and communicate by talking on the tele rather than online. Not long after the chatting issue, he started discussing plans he had to purchase a territory for a magazine. He owns the territories for two direct mail coupon magazines. He was interested in purchasing two more areas. He was talking to his wife about it, and she was against it. The $ he needed was stashed in some sort of Gov funds that are being held by his father inlaw. Well of course who do you think he asks for the $. Me. I told him I did not like the idea, he understood. I ended up lending him the $ with the promise that his father in law was to give him the $ by Thanksgiving. I would see the $ after. That has not happend yet. When telling me of his predicament, he said that by him purchasing these other areas, would allow him to speed up his leaving his wife. I know, I should not have been so damn naive. And typing this is bringing me to tears. He said so much to me. A possible future....... Still in all we met weekly, talked daily. I guess I thought by doing this, it would prove my true intentions with him. He would see that I was serious about leaving hubby. So stupid I am. Things continued, he was as charming as ever. And then something happened to change things, and i'm not really sure what. It started around first week of Dec. He was not as attentive as he used to be. Our chats and conversations were less interesting. Very little amorous chat or talk on his part. I started to question things, and asked him. His response was that he cares deeply for me, and does not want to have to assure me daily. He should not have to. But when you have feelings, call it womens intuition, like I did/do, I need reassurence. I told him when things start to stray from the norm, it makes me wonder. All he ever says is to trust that he cares and thinks about me, and I should not make things harder between us. With the holidays, things have been pretty hectic. Now this brings me to today. We chated this morning, and he seems to think I have been chatting with someone else, that he knows. I have not of course. This issuse was done back in Oct, or so I thought. He is so sure it was me. He had me so upset all morning and afternoon. What a way to start off the new year. The problem is, I can't evn say to him to F*** Off. He owes me $. I guess meeting on a place such as Yahoo, where it is a fabrication for the most part, makes you wonder if a person is really who you think they are. Ok , know i'm going to hear it from both sides, so lets have it!
missopinionated Posted January 1, 2005 Posted January 1, 2005 Are you kidding??? You're cheating on your husband for real and you're doing it with a guy who's cheating on his wife and you're pissed because he's not exclusive with you?? Can you say DOUBLE STANDARD? AND you fell for that old standard "If you do this for me, it will make it easier for me to leave my wife and oh yah honey, I'll pay you back." If you'd have been smart, you would have said "Sure, you can have the money: where's the contract and I'll be 50% owner, thanks very much." The only thing you proved to the guy is that you can be had in a hundred ways. Both of you are getting exactly what you deserve from this sham. Good grief. The whole thing is a sad, dishonourable comedy. Of course you're questioning his committment: Liars always think everyone is lying to them and cheaters always suspect others to cheat then. Completely logical and predictable. What kind of honesty and committment did you expect from a man who is lying to his wife and you and when you are lying to your husband and this on-line don juan? I feel sorry for your respective spouses. And aren't you both just going to be so sad and wondering what happened when your spouses cotton on to you and leave. Arrghhggh...
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