an_also Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 I'm almost 5 months out of my breakup and I was feeling particularly low today. Had a good crying session in the moring. So foolishly I decided to look at all the old pics I'd put away of my ex girlfriend. Not a good idea. I feel horrible right now. Just cried my eyes out again. Why do we as humans do things that we know will not have a good outcome? It's like a part of me wanted to feel that acute pain all over again. I just really wanted to see those pics of her. 1
Shaine Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 Delete all her pics. When i get the urge to check his FB, twitter, dropbox, i think first what the outcome will be. I might find something that will just hurt me. Like a new girl. Or a negative post about me. Nope. Id rather not know anything. Id rather be kept in the dark than go through another pain. 1
AnyaNova Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 I'm almost 5 months out of my breakup and I was feeling particularly low today. Had a good crying session in the moring. So foolishly I decided to look at all the old pics I'd put away of my ex girlfriend. Not a good idea. I feel horrible right now. Just cried my eyes out again. Why do we as humans do things that we know will not have a good outcome? It's like a part of me wanted to feel that acute pain all over again. I just really wanted to see those pics of her. I wouldn't recommend deleting them or burning them or destroying them completely. Years down the road she may be a part of your life that you'd like to look back on, even if obviously she is not the one. But definitely put them somewhere very hard to get to (give them to a friend to keep until you know you are safe with them, if you have to) but exert the self-control. Looking at pictures of her will only make it worse for you. 2
me85 Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 I agree with Anya. I usually delete everything but I am not ready to go there right now. Too soon. Wounds not healed. Plus...who the hell knows what will happen in the future ? I don't delete pictures until I start seeing someone else seriously and know in my heart I have moved on.
Author an_also Posted December 1, 2013 Author Posted December 1, 2013 I wouldn't recommend deleting them or burning them or destroying them completely. Years down the road she may be a part of your life that you'd like to look back on, even if obviously she is not the one. But definitely put them somewhere very hard to get to (give them to a friend to keep until you know you are safe with them, if you have to) but exert the self-control. Looking at pictures of her will only make it worse for you. Yeah I'm with you. I don't want to delete them forever because I know one day down the road, I can look at them and not feel as hurt as I did today. The thing is, I put them all on a usb and put them away in my closet. I did this over 3 months ago. I've shown pretty good self control but I have no idea why randomly today I decided to look at them again. I definitely wont be doing that again. 2
Author an_also Posted December 1, 2013 Author Posted December 1, 2013 My other question is, by looking at old pics, did I break no contact in a different way?
strive Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 I want to delete them but he's my kid's dad. She needs those memories. 1
CAdude82 Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 Yes! I made the mistake of looking at his Instagram pics. It brought me back to how I felt after the breakup. :-( I also read through all of the old texts from when we first became a couple. The one that ruined me was "I know this sounds sappy, but I'm excited to see what happens with you and I".
Author an_also Posted December 1, 2013 Author Posted December 1, 2013 Yes! I made the mistake of looking at his Instagram pics. It brought me back to how I felt after the breakup. :-( I also read through all of the old texts from when we first became a couple. The one that ruined me was "I know this sounds sappy, but I'm excited to see what happens with you and I". Yeah it feels like I'm right back when the break up happened. What a horrible setback. I hope the last few months of healing weren't a waste.
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