Mike_77712 Posted November 30, 2013 Share Posted November 30, 2013 well I have this friend of mine. shes a girl and also my crush! we hang out every day afterschool and I always walk her home. I really like her and her friend's bf thought it would be nice if I got her roses. should I? and should I ask her out when I give them to her? is it a good idea? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 30, 2013 Share Posted November 30, 2013 How old are you? The younger you are, the worse this idea is. Roses are very expensive. Getting roses from a man you aren't dating can be overwhelming. Flowers are a nice gesture but for this 1st approach, I would suggest you go with 1 rose, not a dozen. Save the big spash for Valentine's Day or some other reason for you to celebrate after you are a couple. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mike_77712 Posted November 30, 2013 Author Share Posted November 30, 2013 :pi'm 16,..I don't think she'll mind. dont most girls like to receive flowers? Link to post Share on other sites
Donnie Darko Posted November 30, 2013 Share Posted November 30, 2013 Your idea sounds like a first class ticket to the friend zone. Instead try flirting with her with your words. Tease her. Ask her to go do something (hiking, mini-golf, white water rafting, etc.) and then make a move by holding her hand and/or by kissing her. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 30, 2013 Share Posted November 30, 2013 :pi'm 16,..I don't think she'll mind. dont most girls like to receive flowers? Then do NOT give her a dozen roses. Girls do like flowers & you are on the right track but a dozen . . . it's too much, too soon & will make her think you are a creep with no boundaries. One rose will be fine . . . sweet, romantic, not threatening & should accomplish your goal to get your crush to be your GF. For her birthday or Valentine's day you can get the dozen roses. If you start with a dozen you have nothing to work up to. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mike_77712 Posted November 30, 2013 Author Share Posted November 30, 2013 Then do NOT give her a dozen roses. Girls do like flowers & you are on the right track but a dozen . . . it's too much, too soon & will make her think you are a creep with no boundaries. One rose will be fine . . . sweet, romantic, not threatening & should accomplish your goal to get your crush to be your GF. For her birthday or Valentine's day you can get the dozen roses. If you start with a dozen you have nothing to work up to. Your right a dozen is a bit too much lol. I guess I'll just get her a single idk if I should get pink or red. btw what should I tell her when I give it to her? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 30, 2013 Share Posted November 30, 2013 Hand her the flower. Smile. When she says thank you or what's this for, ask her to do something with you -- see a movie, have ice cream, go to the school dance . . . whatever it is the kids are doing these days. Link to post Share on other sites
AShogunNamedMarcus Posted November 30, 2013 Share Posted November 30, 2013 Flowers are nice, but not roses. Save those for special occasions. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mike_77712 Posted November 30, 2013 Author Share Posted November 30, 2013 hi mike, please don't ever listen to anyone now or in future telling you not to give flowers, notes, etc. the single rose is the best idea, a dozen is too much at your age. but clearly you are a romantic & that's like being a unicorn. see if the flower shop has a cute small card (like 2"x2") for single flowers, & just a simple message like 'hi' is enough because the flower speaks for itself, you don't want to upstage it or give her too much to take in. thank you for being one of the sweet & sensitive ones. j edit: also i'd say get a two-toned rose if you can, like a white with pink edges. or a pink or white one. not red, that's too much. look up the meaning of the different colors online, there is precedent for your gesture wow your welcome!, that soundz great and about the rose color locally they only sell pink and red..which is better? should I ask her out when I give them to her because we always hang with each other and are good friends.. btw u really seem to know your stuff 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mike_77712 Posted November 30, 2013 Author Share Posted November 30, 2013 i don't think so, but it's up to you. i think the rose & a simple 'hi' note say it all. give her time to process that. she may even reciprocate & take the pressure off you to make the next move. that's how it should be, i think. j Yup your right, ugh I just wonder what she'll do when I give it to her? it's gonna be so akward 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mike_77712 Posted November 30, 2013 Author Share Posted November 30, 2013 our love interest chemicals are the same as our anxiety chemicals, it's a scientific fact that much of love is anxiety. to tolerate love one has to get a handle on their anxiety. in 7th grade i got flowers. know what i did? i gave him flowers back, then asked him to the sadie hawkins dance. aww lol what u did was so cool:)...I hope something good happens when I give it 2 her! ps did u guys start dating after that? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mike_77712 Posted November 30, 2013 Author Share Posted November 30, 2013 questions like yours always get a complicated answers from me. i moved away soon after. i kept in touch with friends as much as i could, but as my friends there got older he wasn't in their social circle. he died graduation night in a drunk driving accident. he wasn't the drunk driver. whatever happens, you're doing the right thing & will always remember it as such. j oh that's horrible...im so sorry 2 hear that 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Million.to.1 Posted November 30, 2013 Share Posted November 30, 2013 this thread is awesome. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mike_77712 Posted November 30, 2013 Author Share Posted November 30, 2013 mike, thank you very much. i'm sorry to overshare. a lot of things like this have happened in my 40 years, that's just life you are young, i remember that time, it's full of potential. you met a nice girl & are setting the stage for good memories, & i thank you for jogging mine. j your welcome , and its ok I love stories!..u made the whole rose thing a bit simpler thank you..ugh but actually putting it into action is gonna be tough 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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