Okaylouisa Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 Keeping it simple, my boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me around 5/6 months ago, we have recently started messaging each other over Facebook, he had been mentioning dates we had been on in the past, I thought he was interested in me but this morning he sent me a message saying he still has feelings for me and probably always will but doesn't want a relationship and can't see us getting back together, he told me he still wanted to be good friends and wants to meet up on Wednesday. I am extremely confused by this as he was flirting and was the one to initiate contact first, every day. Does it seem like he's just keeping me as an option? What are your opinions on this?
elbe Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 I would recommend against being only friends. This guy was a lover and those residual feelings will always be there despite what your frontal lobe tells you. It does kind of sound like he is keeping you as an option but even more than that he's probably just very lonely. If you still have feelings for him you are only setting yourself up for another heartache by meeting up. 1
Canadiangirl78 Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 It seems like you've already answered your own question. If he says he doesn't want to get back together with you, believe him. He's telling you exactly how he feels. It's now up to you to decide what you're going to do with that information. He's being very open about what he wants or more specifically what he doesn't want. Guard that heart of yours, if you try to read into things you're going to get hurt. Be careful 1
Author Okaylouisa Posted November 30, 2013 Author Posted November 30, 2013 I have come to the conclusion that I really do want him back. He has feelings for me but doesn't ever see us getting back together, how to I work off that? Is there any chance of him changing his mind? We were both eachothers first loves, I see him every day in school and he wants to meet up on Wednesday but as friends, how shall I play it? Should I bring up taking our friendship further? Or should I just accept that he won't ever want me again like he says.
elbe Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 If he says he doesn't ever see you two getting back together, he means it. If you pursue friendship the lines will always be blurred and it is only going to burn you again. 1
letsplaygofish2 Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 I don't know how you two broke up or how long you were together, but rushing into things is never a good idea. How about just being friends for a while? Until you have your own life and can stand on your own two feet, you probably shouldn't jump back into a relationship. It's not healthy for you and not fair to him
Author Okaylouisa Posted November 30, 2013 Author Posted November 30, 2013 I don't know how you two broke up or how long you were together, but rushing into things is never a good idea. How about just being friends for a while? Until you have your own life and can stand on your own two feet, you probably shouldn't jump back into a relationship. It's not healthy for you and not fair to him We were together for 3 years and we've been broken up for about 5 months, we were first loves, i just need some advice on wether it's possible for him to change his mind about never wanting to get back with me :/
letsplaygofish2 Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 You can't get anyone to change their mind or change themselves in order to be in a relationship. If you really do care about him, then you should take this time to work on yourself so that IF you do get back together, you can put your best self forward 1
Meadowgreen Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 Don't be his backburner b**** hun. 'oh yeah, let's be friends, but be sure to stay on standby when I'm lonely and horny on a Saturday night with all these 'feelings' I still have for you'. Screw that noise. NC his ass and move on.
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