JohnnyLoverBoy Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 ok 2nd time my ex gf breaking no contact.. what if I just say "Not to be rude. but why are you messaging me?" or "Not to be rude. but why are you messaging me? Do you want to get back together?" anybody tried this? I think it's straight to the point and no longer you need to ignore or analyze whatever his/her intention is.
chris21422 Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 It might be depends if it's a good break up or bad. I think though ignoring is better. 1
Author JohnnyLoverBoy Posted November 30, 2013 Author Posted November 30, 2013 Yes I know. or "Not to be rude but what's your intention messaging me?" just straight to the point. I think if you do that you don't need to read anymore or analyze what they want. They you can continue ignoring if they don't say they want to get back together. It might be depends if it's a good break up or bad. I think though ignoring is better.
elbe Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 If you respond at all you are opening up yourself to more dialogue. Unless you are really into arguing like you did in the relationship then I would not advise it.
Logan oO Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 All depends on whether you can talk to them without feeling like you are falling into a black hole of despair. I wouldn't ask the one about getting back together. I'd say - 'We aren't together, and i'm trying to get on with my life and move on, so why are you contacting me?' If they say 'i just wondered how you are doing' well they lost that right when they broke up with you, so just say you'll speak to them if and when the time feels right for you. Or just ignore em, but we all know everyone is just waiting for someone to tell them what to say rather than ignore
Author JohnnyLoverBoy Posted November 30, 2013 Author Posted November 30, 2013 Our break up is not a bad break up at all and I am tired of analyzing this messages from her and I keep on ignoring it. She is not a bad person at all and I feel like a bad guy ignoring it since she been good to me through out our relationship. Anyway I guess we just have to keep ignoring..
Logan oO Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 If you really dont want to deal with it or see it. Download Call Blocker - there is a free version that works fine, i have it for the same reason. You can block their calls and texts. Block her from any social media, IM such as watsapp, BBM etc. If you don't want to do this, then you 'want' to talk to her, or hope that somewhere down the line you'll get back together. Ya gotta ask yaself if you want to find out more, or just let it go
cavalier99 Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 What is your objective? To get over her or to keep in contact with her as her emotional tampon until she finds somebody else? She broke up with you..remember?? If she want to chat like old buddies where does that leave you? If she doesnt respond where does it leave you? If she gives you mixed signals where does it leave you (and no she doesnt want back)? Do you want to recover or keep the pipe dream alive. You need to be selfish in your recovery. F*ck her... so what if she is being nice. Be nice to her in a year. Doesnt matter that it was an amicale BU. It was a BU end of story. Cut her out like the plague if you want to move on any time soon. Cav 2
letsplaygofish2 Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 If you are so inclined to stay in contact, I would recommend that you set boundaries for no contact for at least 2 weeks. That will give you some down time to process. If you want to talk/text again in 2 weeks, then at least both of you will have a fresh pair of eyes and clarity. My ex once said to me, "How about we talk in 2 weeks from now? I know you're hurting and so am I, but I really need my space". 1
organizedchaos Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 Our break up is not a bad break up at all and I am tired of analyzing this messages from her and I keep on ignoring it. She is not a bad person at all and I feel like a bad guy ignoring it since she been good to me through out our relationship. Anyway I guess we just have to keep ignoring.. Um, who's the bad guy for walking away from the relationship? Stop apologizing. YOU were wronged here. Either block or ignore until her true intentions are shown. 1
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