NoMoreJerks Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 When I read your clarification saying that he was asking a lot of questions about you, that gave me pause. If he wasn't interested from the beginning, I don't know why he'd ask a lot of questions. So who knows what really happened in his mind. In general, just don't invest so much emotion in a person you haven't met yet. It's unhealthy for a lot of reasons. I think these types really believe in chemistry big time.. like, it's a dealbreaker for them if they don't feel it almost as soon as they lay their eyes on you for the first time. As for the questions, maybe there was some attraction but not enough, so they wanted to find out more about you, to weigh you up against some other woman. I think this is what happened with me on my last date -- this guy came in guns all blazing, and the whole thing felt like torture and a job interview.. where he was yawning the whole time. I think he had come in with a dismissive tone in the first place, because he had met some other woman (as he later told me) -- so I think he was just trying to see if he could get an upgrade on her. *shrug*
Author mysteriouschic Posted December 3, 2013 Author Posted December 3, 2013 (edited) I was just a little nervous during the meet tbh and I was trying to to get close too quickly and thinking about how I should act the whole time I wasn't relaxed. Thinking back he asked more questions to me then I asked him so I could see why he may not have liked it. I wasn't trying enough as I just wasn't relaxed being myself I was thinking too much about how to make a good impression. I don't maybe I'm just not ready to date yet and still a little apprehensive about commitment out of fear of being hurt since my last relationship we got close very quickly. So I'm not sure, I don't think I was myself like I've never really acted like that. An it was just busy we were like just walking around and talking. He asked me more things than I asked him I did ask some but maybe not as much. Also he's the first person I've been on a date with since I've moved on . My ex also texted me a couple days beforehand so I just had a lot on my mind tbh. I was a little quiet that day. It took me time to really look at how I acted the more I looked into it . I was probably a bit aloof at the time and the back of my mind I was thinking don't get too close too quickly .I know usually I'm way different to that. An maybe we just didn't have the chemistry or whatever. An it's hard to know if that friend story was true or not. Maybe I'm not over my ex as much as I thought I was. Thats actually why I did hold off the meetings in the first place because I just wasn't sure. After I decided I should give it a chance just to see. Edited December 3, 2013 by mysteriouschic
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