Nanners Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 I was on facebook yeserday and saw this cute girl on my friends list that I graduated high school with a few years back. To make it even better she goes to the same university as me. I look on her profile and found her number and decided to give texting her a try. Heres how the convosation went: Me: Hey whatsup? Her: Hey who is this? Me: _______, I think I clicked on the wrong name on facebook is this ____ After 20 minutes she texts me back ( in this time she changed her profile pic) Her: Yes it is Me: Sorry about that I clicked on the wrong name on facebook. Looking at it now we go to the same school. Have you ever been to ______ on campus? Her: Its ok. And no I dont think I have Me: I work over there I thought maybe seen you over there. If you don't mind me asking what are majoring in? Her: Oh not me. Im majoring in nursing. Me: I've must of seen you over at the nursing hall since once a month I go around all the halls tearing down posters on campus. Her: Hmm.... im not in the program yet so you couldn't of seen me over there.. im mostly hang around ____ and ____ hall. Me: I have a class over at _____ hall on tuesdays/thursdays at 9:30-11. Maybe I've seen you over there at thay time? Her: Yeah, thats maybe it. After that I decided to end the convo by not writing back. What does everyone think, did I play my cards right to hopefully get to meet her? Also what should my next step be?
Sweetgirl28 Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 I'm not sure what your next step would be. Personally, messages from a stranger on FB would creep me out, especially the "I think I've seen you before" messages. If you really want to see her, you should ask her directly. Maybe invite her to go to a campus event or ask her to hang out with you when you have time to kill.
MidwestUSA Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 The whole 'must have clicked on the wrong name' thing is a turnoff. Am I reading correctly that you got a phone number off Facebook and these were phone texts? That's a lot of trouble to go to for a mistake, and she saw right through it. You should have been honest with a Facebook message: 'hi, I see you're a friend of Mary's, she and I graduated from high school together'. If you hear from her, great. But now, to just happen to run into her is gonna seem stalkerish. But, I wish you luck.
d0nnivain Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 Go up to her in person soon . . . at whatever hall you were talking about & introduce yourself.
Dark_history Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 Go up to her in person soon . . . at whatever hall you were talking about & introduce yourself. Yea and make sure to bring a ski mask, some rope, and a white van with no back windows for some comical effect 1
d0nnivain Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 Yea and make sure to bring a ski mask, some rope, and a white van with no back windows for some comical effect That joke may backfire.
spiderowl Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 I think it would have been best to be entirely honest with her. You saw her in a friends list, thought she looked nice, looked at her profile and saw her number, so you thought you'd be daring and contact her. At least that way, she can see how you got her number. Otherwise, I think if I received a text from someone claiming to see me somewhere who had somehow got my number, I'd be pretty worried about it. Frankly, if you want to take this forward, I'd confess the truth and say you thought she looked great and wanted to get to know her and that you were stupid not being straight from the start. Ask if you can start again and get to know her.
TB Rhine Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 I think I may have missed something; did you say you saw the girl on your friends list, or on the page of one of your other friends? At any rate, Facebook is becoming more and more of a dead end when it comes to meeting people - ofttimes you can't even message someone if they're not on your friends list (or the message goes into that awful 'Other' folder). I remember the Old Days, maybe 6/7 years ago, when it was at least middlingly acceptable to message a girl out of the blue and say Hey, you seem interesting, let's get to know each other - it just doesn't seem like that's done anymore. People have become increasingly obsessive about their privacy settings, who can see what on their profile, who can contact them, etc., and that's a net it's very easy to get caught in if you try to transgress those boundaries at all. My advice - stick to OkCupid and other explicit 'meet people' sites for dating fodder. And, in the future, definitely message someone on Facebook rather than preemptively taking the interaction into the real world. Facebook has become a mine field, and you negotiate it recklessly at your peril.
ShyGuy5 Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 If you have the courage to do this, then you will be fine. You might might not get this girl though.
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