ddspike21 Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 Me and my ex have been broken up for about 6 months, she broke up with me because in our last few months of dating i became clinically depressed and would clam up and become very cold, unaffectionate and have trouble speaking. At the time i tried everything possible to fix it before i went to see a doctor because i hated how it made her think that i didnt care about her. Obviously it reached a breaking point and after she broke up with me i then decided that i obviously should seek professional help. So i saw a pshychtrist and he put me on medication and it worked extremely well. I finally felt like my old self again, the me that she fell in love with in the first place. So i told myself i wouldnt contact her unless i fixed the problem that caused the break up in the first place (my depression), so i sent her 2 messages on FB saying how i've gotten the help that i needed and would love to be able to show her but i havent gotten a reply back so that tells me all i need to know and it hurts like hell.
Nyclovin Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 you get the help for yourself and not for her and therefore have no need to show her how awesome you are now. she knew there was help available to you out there , she chose to leave rather than stay and help you get it. She's moved on and so must you 2
elbe Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 Those feelings are gone. I'm really glad you got the help that you needed, it will help you in your next relationship. It's time to put this girl in your past since she has done the same. Stop trying to take the blame and rationalize the breakup. Emotions are irrational and it was equally her fault. 2
Author ddspike21 Posted November 30, 2013 Author Posted November 30, 2013 you get the help for yourself and not for her and therefore have no need to show her how awesome you are now. she knew there was help available to you out there , she chose to leave rather than stay and help you get it. She's moved on and so must you I got it for myself first and foremost of course, but you're right. 2
AnyaNova Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 Me and my ex have been broken up for about 6 months, she broke up with me because in our last few months of dating i became clinically depressed and would clam up and become very cold, unaffectionate and have trouble speaking. At the time i tried everything possible to fix it before i went to see a doctor because i hated how it made her think that i didnt care about her. Obviously it reached a breaking point and after she broke up with me i then decided that i obviously should seek professional help. So i saw a pshychtrist and he put me on medication and it worked extremely well. I finally felt like my old self again, the me that she fell in love with in the first place. So i told myself i wouldnt contact her unless i fixed the problem that caused the break up in the first place (my depression), so i sent her 2 messages on FB saying how i've gotten the help that i needed and would love to be able to show her but i havent gotten a reply back so that tells me all i need to know and it hurts like hell. I know it really hurts now, but you want to find someone who will stay with you through the difficult times and not cut and run as soon as things get difficult! 1
lovecomesandgoes Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 Glad you're feeling better, unfortunately, 6 months of post-break up is often way too long for any girl to want you back even if they once could not cope with the break up. Look at me, my ex was the most wonderful guy and my best friend, we dated for almost a year and was friends before that, but something shifted, he would blame me for his anger but truthfully I think he had some issues of his own (he was struggling to find a job after graduation and dreaded the min wage job he was stuck doing. Anyway, I decided enough was enough, I done all the crying, the pleading, the questioning, and every other day he would do something extremely sweet to show me he loved me (like buying me a surprise gift, showing up to see me, telling me he loved me and I was beautiful, etc) but all that faded as the bad started to really bother me. I realized I couldn't help him unless he wanted to help himself. I couldn't deal with the thought of losing him at first, for the first few days I broke down at work, driving home, cried, and cried some more. Eventually, I came to acceptance, and girls truly do move on better than guys. I know there are guys who truly miss their ex's years after breaking up, but I haven't heard a single girl say that. Do I miss my ex? Always. He was my other half and when he was nice, he was the best boyfriend ever, he gave me the most lavish and well-planned birthday I ever had in 23 years of my life, but we can't always hold onto our dear memories. I love him from a distance, and I'd give anything to hug him again, but I just can't right now. You waited too long to get help and go back to her, the grace period for girls is usually 2 months even if she seemed obsessed with you, good luck.
AnyaNova Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 But kudos to you for taking the time to work on yourself and make yourself better!
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