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nevergoodenough

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Am4Real Established Member

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I was being facetious due to the OP’s [highlight]resistance[/highlight] however your point is extremely valid given the realities of his confession.

 

Time for bed, this thread has wore me out. :-) Night all

 

 

True, but that is the OP's problem. If he's got a rage issue, his gf is smart to steer clear.
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nevergoodenough Established Member

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I feel she really did love you at one time and could still be fond of you. But it is likely her family got involved when you made threats and became abusive.

 

What would make you feel worse than anything, and this could realistically happen, is that if you continue to contact her, she can take out a restraining order against you. Her family is not going to let you continue bothering her and they will take action.

 

If you had a daughter, would you want an abusive fella like yourself coming around? I think not.

 

You're in denial about the situation and I really can understand that. But all I'm saying is you really don't want it to get to the point where the police are involved.

 

I wish you all the best...

 

All I'm saying is she did love me, I think she could still love me and not want to be with me because of the things I did. While I don't think I "abused" her, I know that her parents and friends are going to tell her not to be with me. I don't know that it's a reflection of her lack of love for me though. That's my pov and I'm not suggesting a plan where I constantly bother her is going to work. I just wanted to know what to do to make it more likely she talk to me in the future. That was all I asked for when starting this thread, which has caused me a great deal of pain in the end.

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All I'm saying is she did love me, I think she could still love me and not want to be with me because of the things I did. While I don't think I "abused" her, I know that her parents and friends are going to tell her not to be with me. I don't know that it's a reflection of her lack of love for me though. That's my pov and I'm not suggesting a plan where I constantly bother her is going to work. I just wanted to know what to do to make it more likely she talk to me in the future. That was all I asked for when starting this thread, which has caused me a great deal of pain in the end.

 

lol you're funny.

 

We've have answered your question till we are blue in the face. DO NOT TALK TO HER AT ALL WILL BE THE BEST CHANCE OF HER TALKING TO YOU AGAIN.

 

To be honest, I dont really know why she would at this point. Your blackmailing and anger issues are probably pretty concerning to her currently. I can see the anger issues glaring through these messages too lol. I can also imagine this isnt the first time.

 

You have these massive blinders on because you dont WANT to believe what four pages of people are telling you. We've ALL seen this 1,000 times on here. Your story is no different and what you are doing now will end you.

 

So by all means, dont listen thats fine. I hope things go well I really do.

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We are telling you there is nothing you can do because it's the truth. We have all wanted our exes to come back right after the breakup, but we ultimately realized there was nothing we could do about it. When people are done, they are usually done. All of our exes loved us at one point, and we were happy. Marriages break up everyday. It happens. A lot of marriages are still together and miserable. I'm sorry, but it's a part of life we learn to accept. You can only control yourself.

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So is there anything I can do to make it more likely she speaks to me in the future?

BC1980 Established Member

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So is there anything I can do to make it more likely she speaks to me in the future?

 

Don't talk to her at all for a good, long while. Several months at least.

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nevergoodenough Established Member

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Don't talk to her at all for a good, long while. Several months at least.

 

And then initiate again or leave it up to her? The last text I sent her was two weeks ago.

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And then initiate again or leave it up to her? The last text I sent her was two weeks ago.

 

 

As I've said to you numerous times, if she wants to talk she will let you know. Until then do nothing.

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All I'm saying is she did love me, I think she could still love me and not want to be with me because of the things I did. While I don't think I "abused" her, I know that her parents and friends are going to tell her not to be with me. I don't know that it's a reflection of her lack of love for me though. That's my pov and I'm not suggesting a plan where I constantly bother her is going to work. I just wanted to know what to do to make it more likely she talk to me in the future. That was all I asked for when starting this thread, which has caused me a great deal of pain in the end.

 

And we've all answered you over and over but you won't listen.

 

You can't DO anything but leave her the hell alone! Anything else and she will NOT talk to you ever again.

 

You must let her miss you and let her come to you. Disappear, vanish from her life. Only then can she reflect.

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Am4Real Established Member

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Something in my gut tell me the OP might be a spoof poster...no one can be this ignorant.

 

 

And we've all answered you over and over but you won't listen.

 

You can't DO anything but leave her the hell alone! Anything else and she will NOT talk to you ever again.

 

You must let her miss you and let her come to you. Disappear, vanish from her life. Only then can she reflect.

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OP, there is 5 pages of advice here. You are just choosing to ignore it because it's not what you want to hear.

 

The truth: there is nothing you can do to make her want you again, only things you can do to make her not want you. Leave her alone and let nature take it's course, either way.

 

What you want to hear: do it your way, tell her you love her and you guys can be good together again, then report back to us on how that goes.

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Am4Real Established Member

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Hey you're stealing my advice from page two...LOL

 

Please steal away....though!!

 

 

What you want to hear: do it your way, tell her you love her and you guys can be good together again, then report back to us on how that goes.

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Last time I text her was two weeks ago. Her birthday is Friday. Should I text her for her birthday?

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Last time I text her was two weeks ago. Her birthday is Friday. Should I text her for her birthday?

 

If you truly love this girl you will leave her alone.

 

Contacting her now would be very selfish. She ended it because she didn't want to be with you. Respect her decision and move on. That is the most attractive thing you could do in her eyes at the moment.

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Last time I text her was two weeks ago. Her birthday is Friday. Should I text her for her birthday?

 

The truth: No. You shouldn't text her Friday.. Or ever again. It's over. Nothing you can do will bring her back. You can only do things to make her not come back.

 

What you want to hear: yes. She will be very happy to hear from you. You cared about each other so much at one point, and even though you are no longer together, these feelings might still be there somewhere. If only you can find the right thing to say, or do, she will come jumping back into your arms like nothing happened.

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I think you should hypnotize one of her friends to take her to a hypnotist, who you then bribe so he or she will hypnotize your ex into taking you back. Or you can respect your ex's free will and space, back off and let life take its course while you work on fixing your anger issues. Up to you.

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So is there anything I can do to make it more likely she speaks to me in the future?

 

There are people you can actually help with stuff like that. There is a Doc who lives in Hill Valley who specializes in mending the past by riding in his car TO the past to change the future. It sounds crazy I know, but his testimonials are amazing. The guy who did it before, his name was Marty McFly, was able to get his parents to find love so he could get get back to the future. It's crazy, but this Dr. Emerett Brown does wonders. His "DeLorean" can help you go into the past and mend things with your ex, so you can get back to the future!

 

 

:laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh:

 

Seriously dude, we repeat, there is NOTHING you can do. You have to let it go and maybe there will be a time in the future it can happen, but if you keep doing what you are doing, there will not be.

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I just heard a podcast where this lady was saying her boyfriend breaks up with her all the time. She said they would have broken up three years ago if she just let it go when he said he didn't want to talk anymore. She fought for him and that's why their still together. Just a thought...

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I just heard a podcast where this lady was saying her boyfriend breaks up with her all the time. She said they would have broken up three years ago if she just let it go when he said he didn't want to talk anymore. She fought for him and that's why their still together. Just a thought...

 

So you want to be in a relationship where you're constantly breaking up? And you think that's the sign of a healthy relationship?

 

Just go do what you are intending to do. Let us know how it works out. Do it today. She might forget about you if you don't.

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Look, what you gotta do. Is get two guys to carry you on golden throne into her place of work. Have another guy in the background playing a romantic song.

You need to be naked but wearing a bow tie and silk boxers.

The two guys will carry you in and set you down in front of her.

Then, get on your knees and tell her 'I love you baby, and i will never stop fighting for you'

Then carefully place a red rose into her hands and kiss her dearly.

 

That ought to work.

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Screw waiting for her birthday, just text her. Sometimes you've got to touch the stove to know it's hot.

 

 

I agree with this. After all this advice, I say just go ahead and contact her. You obviously don't want to hear otherwise so just get it over with so you can begin to heal and move on.

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I just heard a podcast where this lady was saying her boyfriend breaks up with her all the time. She said they would have broken up three years ago if she just let it go when he said he didn't want to talk anymore. She fought for him and that's why their still together. Just a thought...

 

The sad thing is that you listened to that and felt it was a positive occurrence. I mean, you are so far in la-la land right now that you should do what you want. It's obvious that you are going to keep posting garbage until someone tells you want you want to hear, so I'll try -- beg, cry, plead, yell, stalk, do whatever it takes bro. Because true love yo.

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No need to be condescending *******s. If you don't want to help, just don't. What kind of human being sees someone hurting and wants to make them feel worse. Sorry for bothering you guys with a post, it won't happen again.

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No need to be condescending *******s. If you don't want to help, just don't. What kind of human being sees someone hurting and wants to make them feel worse. Sorry for bothering you guys with a post, it won't happen again.

 

We have helped. Five pages worth of help lol. We keep telling you. You are the one not listening and STILL asking the same question, so we are having some fun at your expense. You dont really want to listen so were telling you to go with what you feel. Call her now. Text her now. Tell her she is the only one in the world. Then and ONLY then will you see what we have been telling you for five pages.

 

Here comes that anger we talked about again....

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OK, we'll close this on a positive note. Thanks for your participation.

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