amorydiver Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 kay kay . here it is. I dated a girl for 8 months. she then moved outta state. I drove with her down to her new house, and helped her move in, stayed a week and when I left we had decided that we were broken up. (jan 2012) then we continue to talk and sext and whatnot, for nine months, I visited her, she came into town and we hung out everyday and did what comes naturally. but as we were so far apart we decided that we weren't going to do long distance. but as things went we ended up still talking to one another almost on a daily basis. now she has moved back home for the foreseeable future. we aren't together. and to be honest I don't know whether or not I would even want to be committed to this girl, as in make her my girlfriend again. ever. but. ive spent the last few nights sleeping over at her place, and have spent a ton of time with her, last night she says and I quote " I don't thing you would even want to date me again." I responded honestly " I donno, what I think about you right now" yadda yadda yadda, shes super sweet to me . yadda yadda yadda. shes full of mixed signals. she told me she didn't wanna date me when she came home, but it feels like shes either straight using me, or wants to see if I am still an option. thoughts? p.s. she has at times taken me to hell and back.
nevergoodenough Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 Relationships are about communication. Why don't you just go to her and lay your cards on the table? You are perfectly fine saying you don't know how you feel, then you go on to say maybe you are a game to her. Did you ever think maybe she doesn't know how she feels either? What is the point in being so negative? Just go and talk to her like the big boy you are, then you decide together what you want to do about the relationship. For God's sake, if you are old enough to sleep with her, learn to grow up and communicate with her like a big boy. 2
Author amorydiver Posted December 1, 2013 Author Posted December 1, 2013 yeah, we finally had a really good talk, and all is clear. she "loves me," but not "in love with me" & doesn't see a future with me/doesn't think she could ever marry me. we aren't going to be talking or anything anymore. time to move on. 1
nevergoodenough Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 Sorry to hear that, but at least you know now.
headinthecloud Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 yeah, we finally had a really good talk, and all is clear. she "loves me," but not "in love with me" & doesn't see a future with me/doesn't think she could ever marry me. we aren't going to be talking or anything anymore. time to move on. That's unfortunate. I'm sorry. Time to focus all those thoughts on you now.
Author amorydiver Posted December 2, 2013 Author Posted December 2, 2013 yea. it just sucks though. Overall I was really good to her, and she claims that there isn't really any good reason to break up with me...other than the fact that she's been through some **** in her life and feels the need to learn how to be alone. and she keeps throwing out this vibe that she's not completely done with me. . .
Author amorydiver Posted December 2, 2013 Author Posted December 2, 2013 the biggest thing is, and this is why im here. is that at heart im a big softie, and like all these post I see, when she calls or texts and really wants to talk I eventually give in, even though I understand that the relationship is dead. thus creating false hope on my end. I miss my friend.
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