welchgrit Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 (edited) Hello everybody, Please I would appreciate your advice. I meet this girl two months ago. She is cute and above all I like her personality. I can spend the entire day with her and still miss her immediately we part. Im 25, I have had my own fair share of fun with girls, but this the first time I have really liked a girl this much. There is a point in a man's life when you want to love and be loved. I got tired of sex without love and have been really searching for love for about 8 months until I met her. I have a good sense of humour and really swept her off her feet the first day we meet. got her number, but didn't call for about 10 days. When I eventually called, she showed a lot of interest and actually suggested we hang out which I turned down (was busy on that day). We eventually hanged out few days later. got talking and got to know and like each other. Asked her out. We have hanged out about 5 times in one month and she has visited me once. No sex yet, I have not actually made the move... though she is very sexy and likes erotic dresses. We have made out several times, but I always stop it (just before she does) and remind her that its one step at a time. I can be cocky sometimes but with fun and humility. She is an actress in training (university), dancer and model. I don't like the idea of dating a girl in that industry. I get jealous easily and could be very emotional. Besides I have 2 friends who are local producers and they do a lot of ****s with female celebrity wanabes. When I was in school (same university) there was a popular saying: If you need a guarantee one night stand, just take a hot girl in acting dept out... and we did a lot of crazy things with girls in the dept. Im already 100% in love with this girl, but am scared. She does not seem to reciprocate (I think she is just fun of me and enjoys my company). I make ALL the calls. She does not call or text back, some times she misses my call and won't call back. She shows a lot of passion and emotion when ever we are together, but seems to forget completely about me after the date or when I don't call. I can call everyday. Then stop for 1 week and she won't call back. When I eventually call, she will tell me how she missed me, loves me, why didn't I call, etc. Is she acting it... She is an actress and trained in the act of 'make believe'. I really like her but Im scared because of some red flags: -She is an actress and dancer (bikini) -She has more male friends than female friends (She told me this and I can see). She has a lot of male friends and even hugs and flirts with them in my presence. (Then calms me down by introducing me as her boy friend) - When am at work at the hospital running nite shift, she is also at work - all night rehearsals, dance shows, clubbing with *just friends*, etc - I only club once in 10 days. -Everything about her ignites jealously in me and I dont like that part of me. P.S: I have some hot female friends too. She almost kills herself whenever I tried using any of them to make her jealous. When am driving, she does not even allow me glance at another girl. She will act as if I committed a crime. And getting deeper in this relationship would be counter productive for me. Im scared, but I really like her and enjoy her company. What should I do. If what I wanted was just sex or to play games with her, I will just let it flow. BUT thats not what I want. What do you think? I appreciate your sincere comments and advice... :cool:Thank You for your time. Edited November 30, 2013 by welchgrit
d0nnivain Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 It sounds like you don't trust her. If that's the case, you can't have a future with her. So you have some decisions to make: Do you want something real & are you willing to risk trusting her & possibly getting hurt to make that happen? or Do you want to end it now (or turn it into something more casual)?
Author welchgrit Posted December 10, 2013 Author Posted December 10, 2013 Thank You for your comment It sounds like you don't trust her. If that's the case, you can't have a future with her. So you have some decisions to make: Do you want something real & are you willing to risk trusting her & possibly getting hurt to make that happen? or Do you want to end it now (or turn it into something more casual)?
Khyla Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 This is always a problem with ppl in the entertainment industry. My daughter is and she has actually been deeply hurt by guys who got the impression she wasn't all that serious in recipricating their feelings. Ppl in this industry have very busy schedules, and are always networking, and may appear disinterested in a serious relationship when that is farthest from the truth. You have to be a guy who is comfortable with the fact that she is always "loving", flirting and hugging everyone. If you really love her, you will love everything about her, including how she handles her relationship to others. If you are overly possessive and jealous it won't work out.
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