smichelle23 Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 So I met someone thru a mutual friend, he is very attractive and I think i am way more into him than he is into me...Anyways, we have been on three dates. After the first date it took him about two weeks to contact me where he asked me on a second date. After the second date as he was walking me back to my car where we chatted for a bit he kissed me. I felt a connection after that second date, I thought to myself the wheels are in motion and he likes me which I wasnt too sure of before. After the second date I saw him once more during the week, very casual just kind of hung out in my car, chatted face to face and kissed some more. That same week we made plans to go out that weekend but things got complicated with him and it never happened. He then tells me that he thinks im way more into him than he is to me and that he likes when we go out, he has fun but hes not looking for a relationship at the moment. That just threw me off completely...I was sooo pissed yet so sad. It sounded to me that he didnt know what he wanted because he kept going back and forth, well the night ended and he kissed me, not like any of the other times weve kissed, it was different. So, Im thinking to myself...ok? there is still a chance. So then, a week after we go on a group date. He meets my parents when he goes to my house to pick me up, we go to the movies and has yet to hold my hand which i found to be so strange. The movie is over and as he drops me off Im anticipating a kiss like the one before, very passionate and in some way turn me on but instead I get a peck on the lips followed by..."thats all you get" I got out of that car so fast! I was so upset but I really didnt wanna make a scene. I invite him to a family gathering he kind of plays it cool and says he cant, didnt make a big deal about it. He texts me on and off throughout the day, I really just wait for him to initiate it but he is a very boring texter. Ive really dont know what to expect after the three dates, are we just friends? Are we dating?....Why the hell wont he hold my hand?! And wtf did he just give me a peck on the lips the last time me went out?!
todreaminblue Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 this guy is playing games.......step back from him...find someone genuine.....deb
elbe Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 I think this guy just wants to get in your pants and is disappointed that he hasn't been able to make that happen. He is avoiding the family things because he has no intention on sticking around. Be very aware of his stance as he told you he's not looking for a relationship. Don't get your hopes up and get hurt. Some guys don't realize that feelings come with sex for most women.
devilish innocent Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 I'm sorry to have to say this, but he doesn't like you the way you like him. He hasn't been changing his mind. You've just been reading more into his actions than you should have been. An occasional date and kissing, even intense kissing, doesn't mean he goes home and thinks about you at night. For some guys, it's just another way to pass the time. He's been pretty consistent in telling and showing you that that's the case here. Yet, you keep ignoring him and wanting to believe there's more to it. You have to accept that this dream you have of a mutual emotional connection developing isn't going to happen with this guy. He's flat out said that. And you've kept getting hurt and disappointed because you ignored that warning. You could try to just "have fun" as well, but I don't see that working out too well for you. I expect you'll only continue to develop feelings for him. Then it will be even harder to let go the farther along the relationship progresses. As annoyed as you are with him for not holding your hand or giving you more of a kiss, he is doing you a favor. A lot of guys would have strung you along until after you'd slept with them. If you're already upset by the situation now, I hate to think how painful it would be for you after things had gotten to that point. He's asking you out because he doesn't mind spending time or being physically intimate with you as long as that's all there is to it. It's not going to be just that for you, so let him go. You don't have to settle for what he's willing to offer. You'll meet other guys who want the same thing as you. Move on, and forget the ones who hurt you.
ExpatInItaly Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 So I met someone thru a mutual friend, he is very attractive and I think i am way more into him than he is into me...Anyways, we have been on three dates. After the first date it took him about two weeks to contact me where he asked me on a second date. After the second date as he was walking me back to my car where we chatted for a bit he kissed me. I felt a connection after that second date, I thought to myself the wheels are in motion and he likes me which I wasnt too sure of before. After the second date I saw him once more during the week, very casual just kind of hung out in my car, chatted face to face and kissed some more. That same week we made plans to go out that weekend but things got complicated with him and it never happened. He then tells me that he thinks im way more into him than he is to me and that he likes when we go out, he has fun but hes not looking for a relationship at the moment. That just threw me off completely...I was sooo pissed yet so sad. It sounded to me that he didnt know what he wanted because he kept going back and forth, well the night ended and he kissed me, not like any of the other times weve kissed, it was different. So, Im thinking to myself...ok? there is still a chance. So then, a week after we go on a group date. He meets my parents when he goes to my house to pick me up, we go to the movies and has yet to hold my hand which i found to be so strange. The movie is over and as he drops me off Im anticipating a kiss like the one before, very passionate and in some way turn me on but instead I get a peck on the lips followed by..."thats all you get" I got out of that car so fast! I was so upset but I really didnt wanna make a scene. I invite him to a family gathering he kind of plays it cool and says he cant, didnt make a big deal about it. He texts me on and off throughout the day, I really just wait for him to initiate it but he is a very boring texter. Ive really dont know what to expect after the three dates, are we just friends? Are we dating?....Why the hell wont he hold my hand?! And wtf did he just give me a peck on the lips the last time me went out?! No, you're not dating. I wouldn't make plans to see him again because it's clear he isn't really interested. He already told you he doesn't want a relationship and he doesn't feel strongly about you. Listen to him; look at his actions. They all back up what he said. 1
d0nnivain Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 You went on some dates. You are not dating. You are certainly not exclusive. He already told you where he stands, yet you seem to be waiting for him to change his mind. It's highly unlikely that he will. If you want more, he's not your guy.
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