SarahJames Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 get back into your life? Has anyone else experienced the exMM using the holidays/special occasion as a means to talk to you again? I made the mistake of replying (not to be rude). I truly thought he only wanted to wish me a happy holiday. Instead, he sent me a follow-up text asking me questions about my life. I find myself contemplating whether or not I should answer but...
Cinnimon Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 get back into your life? Has anyone else experienced the exMM using the holidays/special occasion as a means to talk to you again? I made the mistake of replying (not to be rude). I truly thought he only wanted to wish me a happy holiday. Instead, he sent me a follow-up text asking me questions about my life. I find myself contemplating whether or not I should answer but... Sarah, I would say if you still have feelings, I wouldn't respond any further. I think it will only leave you feeling hurt........I'm sorry, I know it feels terrible.
elbe Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 get back into your life? Has anyone else experienced the exMM using the holidays/special occasion as a means to talk to you again? I made the mistake of replying (not to be rude). I truly thought he only wanted to wish me a happy holiday. Instead, he sent me a follow-up text asking me questions about my life. I find myself contemplating whether or not I should answer but... Pretty typical manipulative game behavior. My ex used a really tragic death anniversary to try and get back in touch with me again. She didn't mention it or anything but it was obvious what the date was. I don't think I'll ever look at her the same again. What a cruel game. If it does happen it lets you know they are thinking of you and miss you - if you didn't know that already. 1
thecharade Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 Yep. It has happened. The hurt comes when I realize he's missing me and the fun of an A, not missing me as in willing to make any real changes or sacrifices. Ouch and ick. It stings less in the last six months since I've accepted the painful truth more, but it still hurts. And I'm about 14 to 17 months done with the A. (There was one brief slip up after three months.) They miss the extra sum'n sum'n. And the holidays are a good chance for them to try and get it back. 2
whichwayisup Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 get back into your life? Has anyone else experienced the exMM using the holidays/special occasion as a means to talk to you again? I made the mistake of replying (not to be rude). I truly thought he only wanted to wish me a happy holiday. Instead, he sent me a follow-up text asking me questions about my life. I find myself contemplating whether or not I should answer but... Don't answer. If you two are NC mode he should not have wished you happy holidays, no mistake there, that is him fishing to see if you're still interested. If you reply, tell him what has been going on etc, he'll more than likely back off and disappear into NC mode with you ... Until Christmas, then the cycle will start up again. Ignore. And, if he texts you at Xmas, ignore. The A is over and you two are not friends, so what is the point of keeping in touch?
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