johncourtz Posted November 29, 2013 Posted November 29, 2013 So going on 4 weeks NC and yesterday my Ex's sister hits me to wish me a happy thanksgiving and tell me how much or a great man and father i am, and that i will always have a friend in her. She even said that she's sorry for the way her sister handled everything. I wasn't going to respond as i have cut contact with anyone related to her, but i texted her back a simple Happy Thanksgiving as well and told her thank u for the kind words. Hope i didn't do anything stupid. Just confused still as to how everything happened but life goes on and it is getting easier day by day.
elbe Posted November 29, 2013 Posted November 29, 2013 I don't believe this is anything to think twice about.
Author johncourtz Posted November 30, 2013 Author Posted November 30, 2013 i suppose i knew the answer to my own question while even writing this. I don't know why good people gotta go thru this nonsense. SMH 1
d0nnivain Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 It sounds like you have every reason to hold your head up & be proud of how you are handling the whole situation. Good for you. 2
Author johncourtz Posted December 4, 2013 Author Posted December 4, 2013 Rough night last night..woke up at 3 and couldn't get back to sleep. Last week sometime i got a knock at my door at 2am but by the time i got up to get to it that person was gone.. False hope has me believing it was prob my ex, but she hasn't reached out at all so I'm sure it wasn't. Finally coming to the realization that after 3 years she left me for her Ex, which means i wasnt good enough for her. I MUST move on for my own sanity...most days I'm good, but today i feel horrible.
amaysngrace Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 Meh why do you put her on a pedestal and say you aren't good enough for her? Her own sister said you're a good man and went out of her way to wish you a happy day. And she herself spent three years with you. Most people I know wouldn't waste three years of their life on someone who isn't good enough. You need to stop beating yourself up. And take her off the saint list while you're at it. 2
Author johncourtz Posted December 4, 2013 Author Posted December 4, 2013 Meh why do you put her on a pedestal and say you aren't good enough for her? Her own sister said you're a good man and went out of her way to wish you a happy day. And she herself spent three years with you. Most people I know wouldn't waste three years of their life on someone who isn't good enough. You need to stop beating yourself up. And take her off the saint list while you're at it. I aint beating myself up by no means..im saying it as if she felt the need to bounce on me with her ex who btw is a younger drug dealer dude, then maybe i wasnt what she was looking for. i waisted 3 years of my life and had my daughter around this woman and in the end this is what i get? Of course the person i want to take notice doesn't care if im even alive anymore, but you're right about one thing. Im slowly but surely removing her from that pedestal. It aint easy cutting off those feelings. Especially when you think you've connected with someone on alot of diff levels. Thks for the comment.
Grumpybutfun Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 I aint beating myself up by no means..im saying it as if she felt the need to bounce on me with her ex who btw is a younger drug dealer dude, then maybe i wasnt what she was looking for. i waisted 3 years of my life and had my daughter around this woman and in the end this is what i get? Of course the person i want to take notice doesn't care if im even alive anymore, but you're right about one thing. Im slowly but surely removing her from that pedestal. It aint easy cutting off those feelings. Especially when you think you've connected with someone on alot of diff levels. Thks for the comment. John: Maybe if she attracted that type of man then you are blessed that she is out of your life. I know this hurts, but if that the type of man she wants, then she was obviously messed up anyway. You deserve better. G p.s. You handled her sister's kind words very well. We all know we can't be responsible for our family's choices. I am sure this is embarrassing to her sister.
Author johncourtz Posted December 6, 2013 Author Posted December 6, 2013 John: Maybe if she attracted that type of man then you are blessed that she is out of your life. I know this hurts, but if that the type of man she wants, then she was obviously messed up anyway. You deserve better. G p.s. You handled her sister's kind words very well. We all know we can't be responsible for our family's choices. I am sure this is embarrassing to her sister. This is true. I know that she's extremely naive and that guy took advantage of her before. It's only a matter of time before he does it again. Seems like she'd rather deal with the challenge of someone who wants her as a trophy than to accept genuine love. Regardless no matter how much it stings its out of my hands now. Maybe it's God's will to remove her for something better. At least i learned over the past 3 years that i don't want to be alone and i value family. I hope that i can find someone who's genuine, wants the same and can accept me faults and all, and my child as well. I really wish it would've worked out... i really wish we could've stayed friends, but he insisted she block me and anyone we have in common out of her life. So sad, but she's not my concern anymore. I just wish i could turn off the love and erase all the memories.
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