Crazy Crab Posted November 29, 2013 Posted November 29, 2013 (edited) hey, my situation goes like this. dated this girl for almost a year. it was a great relationship, we were meant for each other and had plans to marry & have kids. after awhile, we both would argue constantly over various things. we had a few breaks in the relationship, but i'd always force us to get back, and work things out but always backfired, because i rushed the process. anyways, we had a big fight, and it was over for good with her. i went NC, but eventually we'd cross paths and argue about why the relationship failed. so i told her "fine, i'm gone. i'll find someone else." which i regret because now, i want her back. i tried many times to say i was wrong, but it was too late. my opportunities to make it work were gone, and i waited too long to tell her how i really felt. so ever since then i've been chasing her, but she's done, and she's gone NC on me for weeks now. i want her back, i realize now how much i love her. i know she really loved me and wanted us to end up together, but i hurt her and let her down. so many regrets. i have since left her alone since my last attempt. what should i do? Edited November 29, 2013 by Crazy Crab
elbe Posted November 29, 2013 Posted November 29, 2013 Sounds to me like her feelings gradually faded for you and now it is actually over for real. Might be time to start putting yourself back together and starting out anew.
Author Crazy Crab Posted November 29, 2013 Author Posted November 29, 2013 Sounds to me like her feelings gradually faded for you and now it is actually over for real. Might be time to start putting yourself back together and starting out anew. true. a couple of weeks ago she said she wants to work it out, but can't because her feelings are gone. i'm thinking that if i stop bugging her like i've been doing, she'll realize what she's giving up.
elbe Posted November 29, 2013 Posted November 29, 2013 true. a couple of weeks ago she said she wants to work it out, but can't because her feelings are gone. i'm thinking that if i stop bugging her like i've been doing, she'll realize what she's giving up. Yeah, people need their space sometimes. Just let her do her thing and make sure you are doing yours. Get well and meet new people at every turn. Don't sit around feeling bad for yourself.
Author Crazy Crab Posted November 29, 2013 Author Posted November 29, 2013 Yeah, people need their space sometimes. Just let her do her thing and make sure you are doing yours. Get well and meet new people at every turn. Don't sit around feeling bad for yourself. i agree, i didn't respect her space. she's pretty pissed at me now, ignoring me. i just really want this girl, i know she's the one. we couldn't see eye to eye on things, but i know we could work it out. i'm just afraid if i don't make a move someone else is gonna take her, you know
elbe Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 i agree, i didn't respect her space. she's pretty pissed at me now, ignoring me. i just really want this girl, i know she's the one. we couldn't see eye to eye on things, but i know we could work it out. i'm just afraid if i don't make a move someone else is gonna take her, you know Accept that this is a real possibility and begin to work on yourself. Start working out, eating right, educating yourself, etc. You need to be someone who she actually might want to be with. You might find another girl in the meantime who you get along with just as well or better...
Author Crazy Crab Posted November 30, 2013 Author Posted November 30, 2013 Accept that this is a real possibility and begin to work on yourself. Start working out, eating right, educating yourself, etc. You need to be someone who she actually might want to be with. You might find another girl in the meantime who you get along with just as well or better... i know, i just don't like the thought of her being with someone else. she told me if we were to have anything in the future, it has to be on her terms and to just do me for now. i'm so impatient with her, i need instant gratification.
Author Crazy Crab Posted November 30, 2013 Author Posted November 30, 2013 OP, there is no "one". There are lots of "ones". Making a move is clearly not going to make her come any closer. Waiting around for someone is a wasteof time. You need to move forward, and embrace the possibility of someone new. i'm trying to move forward. the thought of me finding someone new doesn't seem logical right now. my heart is still set on my ex girlfriend, it is what it is.. it's just hard letting go
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