Guy I'm dating does weird things sometimes?

[ddlovexx]

Hey there.

 

Just to start off let me say I've been seeing him for a little over a month now. After two weeks we got into a relationship and I broke it off two days later saying it was moving too fast. So we're still dating, but I'm not ready for anything serious. Okay, anyway..

 

So sometimes he does really weird things that kinda turn me off. Sometimes he's great and cuddly and sweet and then sometimes he's kinda cold and weird. For example he kinda made a big deal about me coming to his family's for Thanksgiving, said he really wanted me to come, couldn't wait to see me, etc. So but then he kinda ignored me a lot of the time. Went outside to play with his cousins all day (no biggie, I mean, whatever) but just didn't seem as excited to see me as he said he was.

 

So then (I wasn't expecting this) he asks me if I'm gonna stay the night. Okay so I do, but I went home first to change. So we're cuddling watching TV and he's like "so, go brush your teeth before we fall asleep" and I was like "I did before I left my house... brushed and mouthwash." He was like "No you didn't" and I"m like "??? Yes I did." I could even still feel the mintiness on my breath. I got kinda annoyed but went upstairs and rebrushed.

 

Then we wake up in the morning, I go upstairs brush my teeth and use the bathroom and come back down. Still in bed we're kinda wrestling around but he's tickling me and being kinda annoying and then he makes another comment about my breath. I was like "Now you're just messing cause I just brushed" and he's like "yeah right."

 

I don't know but to me it's so f'n weird. I've never had anybody be like this and I'm kinda a hygiene freak myself. And then he like wrestles me and cuddles me but it gets to the point where it's annoying and I'm like "babe, stop, enough." and even when he stops I'm kinda just turned off and ready to go home. He asked me to stay for breakfast today and I was like I have to go home and take care of some stuff.

 

Sometimes he's sweet and nice and sometimes he's annoying and does weird little things like that. Or for example he won't let me sleep at his place with clothes on. He doesn't forcefully advance or anything like that and sometimes we don't even do anything... but like jesus christ I want to sleep with my clothes on sometimes. He's 30 years old.

 

Any input? One day I'm into him and the next I can't wait to go home. What the hell...

[oldshirt]

#1. Move on and go back on the market and keep looking. You can still go out on a date with him when the mood strikes if you want but it's obvious he's not "the one."

 

#2. Have a very trusted friend or relative who tell it to you straight and who will love you no matter what take a whiff and let you know if you have actual halitosis or not.

 

Actual halitosis is not alleviated simply brushing your teeth or taking a swig of Scope.

[ddlovexx]

I'm pretty sure I don't. I think he's just weird. I've never had this kinda problem before... some guys have even gotten TOO close too early in the morning. eww

 

but thanks.

 

Yeah I don't think he's the one but I don't see harm in dating him. Until it runs it's course or something...

[elbe]

Lol, sounds kinda crazy. I think a lot of it is normal "getting to know you". Assuming you guys don't live together a lot of those boundaries haven't been discovered yet. I love how he says your breath smells and then smothers you, lol. Just sounds like clashing personalities although he does seem to have a controlling side. Nobody likes a dictator. Try laying down the law yourself.

[Neville107]

ddlovexx- This isn't the same "We can give it a shot" guy is it?

 

If it is - please refer back to your previous thread and the responses.

 

Sweetie - he's using you. He's a manipulator and you should just next his a**. Once again, you go somewhere and he ignores you. Every time you do that, it sends a message that it's okay to ignore you since there are no consequences. He's playing the jump through hoop game with you - today it's your breath, tomorrow it will be your socks, the day after it'll be your underwear. It's all a game to him - he doesn't really like you - please understand his behavior is all negative. Where is the love? or the like for that matter. This guy is just jerking you around because he can and has no feelings for you. He doesn't respect you and that's why he treats you this way. He doesn't care and only wants you for arm candy and whatever else he can get from you. What do you get from him? Yeah, nothing but BS.

 

Show him the door and give him the boot. There are plenty of single guys out there that would love to date you and will treat you with respect. Be done with this guy and find someone else that will make you a priority in their life. I'm single

Edited November 29, 2013 by Neville107

[ddlovexx]

I don't think he's using me really and I'm sure he cares somewhat. As soon as I broke up with him he turned the tables. And I know his family and friends now.

 

I dunno, the whole thing's just weird sometimes. blegh.

[mishy]

he sounds like a bit of a creep. He sounds like he is going to end up being very controlling, i mean TELLING you to clean your teeth and sleep naked. Thats how it all starts. I got a creepy feeling reading this story so if i were you id move on and find someone else. You should trust your gut on this one

[spiderowl]

He sounds crazy and hard work. What kind of guy dictates what you wear in bed? What kind of girl listens to a guy dictating something like that to her? If someone is continually messing you around and making you feel uncomfortable, why put up with it? Are the good bits worth all that?