FrostBlaze Posted November 29, 2013 Posted November 29, 2013 (edited) I've had some other topics around here, short story....sortof. Girl got dumped by BF, i hooked up with her, more like she hooked up with me, hunted me down. I allready knew her for a few years, we were just friends. At first nothing, with time more feelings came, i ended up falling for her. She started talking about her ex, i knew stuff was going to go bad, i felt it. She left me because she said she didn't feel love for me ... i said my farewell knowing full well she was going back to try her EX. She wanted to go back to just friends like before and keep contact. 1 month later, i see them, obviously back 2ghether, i notice she blocked me all over/removed. I tried to talk with her and see what's up, i find it rude to just block without telling me... so i send a email. She answers but very cold and robotic like, short answers. Doesn't want to talk to me, can't be friends, never felt anything for me. Only be friends if her bf says it's okay. THe guy probably forced her to cut ties with me, or idk...probably for the better anyway, but still. I couldn't get a direct answer out of her, that guy is always near her...following her texts/msn.(from what she told me, control freak) Now i am left puzzled and can't get over it as fast as i had hoped, i didn't get some clossure and answers. Anyone been through something similar?:| I was a reboundee, despite the hurtfull things she said...i wonder if it's true. This question is for people who have been in rebound relationships, did you ever care for the reboundee?:| or you just tossed them away. Srsly i can't get over this because of some slight confusion, did she at least care? Or i ended up loving someone that never felt for me... Not only that, but now i have also lost her as a friend...bummer. Edited November 29, 2013 by FrostBlaze
elbe Posted November 29, 2013 Posted November 29, 2013 Anyone been through something similar?:| Well, YEAHH... Think about it from her boyfriend's point of view. He probably didn't want to break up the first time around, she thought she had feelings for you, she lived her fantasy and it was different in her dreams... She realizes her mistake, goes back to her Ex, tells ex what happened, and ex says please do not talk to him anymore (for obvious reasons). Friendship between Men and Women as adults, particularly after a brief romance, is nearly impossible without residual feelings. Clearly you still have feelings for her but she is back in her committed relationship. You didn't really lose a friend, you broke up with a crush. It's time for you to move on.. go ask out that girl you've always dreamed about yourself.
Author FrostBlaze Posted November 29, 2013 Author Posted November 29, 2013 Tis what i am doing, i am moving on, but i find it hard because as i mentioned the question puzzles me. Did she ever actually even care? Idk why this question won't let me be. Why i asked if anyone that was a Rebounder ever actually cared for the reboundee...or not. I keep telling myself she was just a B and probably didn't, but it ain't helping me xD.
elbe Posted November 29, 2013 Posted November 29, 2013 Tis what i am doing, i am moving on, but i find it hard because as i mentioned the question puzzles me. Did she ever actually even care? Idk why this question won't let me be. Why i asked if anyone that was a Rebounder ever actually cared for the reboundee...or not. I keep telling myself she was just a B and probably didn't, but it ain't helping me xD. Nah, she cared. She practically left her boyfriend because she had some burning desire to be with you. It's just after the fact her feelings changed and she felt she made a mistake. Sometimes these things end with our tails between our legs. It's not to be taken personally..
Author FrostBlaze Posted November 29, 2013 Author Posted November 29, 2013 I think i might of made myself slightly misunderstood, she didn't leave him for me. He left her, for idk what fight they had. Then she needed some counseling because she was hurt and as i said, i allready knew her for a few years. She contacted me, me being sympathetic and noticing something is wrong, i comforted her. Then she kept following me, flirting, initiating contact etc. I refused her at first, i knew where she was going, but i fell for it in the end because we talked more intimate stuff and figured out we had a lot in common...i mean a lot. Had a inside joke "clone". So i really thought it would work OUT since we were so alike(i mean it, clones), why i fell for her >_>. And that she was like "if i had met you before my ex, it would of been different". Well thanks for the reply's man , would appreciate more imput from different people in similar situations. o/
CrJsc88 Posted November 29, 2013 Posted November 29, 2013 Yeah, I had a rebound girl and didn't have feelings for her after the fact we hooked up. I tried but they just weren't there. I can tell the other person was really into me but I just didn't see myself with her. I really think you just need to move on and accept it how it is. These types of situations happen.
Recommended Posts