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FINALLY! We have a date for the 22nd of the month. Keeping my fingers crossed that this part will be over before the end of the year. And I got a letter with no return address but the name on it was Enemy Jones. :laugh::laugh: I know it's OW. I haven't opened it yet. Pretty hefty so I guess she has a lot to say.

 

You can't make this stuff up!

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You can't make this stuff up!

 

 

If I had my imagination wouldn't have been this out there. I know how I think so I can't fanthom the inner workings of someone so self centered and stupid. She and WH have something wrong in their brains and hearts. I ask for good thougths. I have some health flair ups that I have to deal with. I am sure the stress is a big contributer but things are a little unsteady right now.

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If I had my imagination wouldn't have been this out there. I know how I think so I can't fanthom the inner workings of someone so self centered and stupid. She and WH have something wrong in their brains and hearts. I ask for good thougths. I have some health flair ups that I have to deal with. I am sure the stress is a big contributer but things are a little unsteady right now.

 

*good thoughts*

 

You're doing amazing. I'll admit I really needed some time to warm up to your story, but I look forward to seeing your updates because it's teaching me how to continue to be strong.

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FINALLY! We have a date for the 22nd of the month. Keeping my fingers crossed that this part will be over before the end of the year. And I got a letter with no return address but the name on it was Enemy Jones. :laugh::laugh: I know it's OW. I haven't opened it yet. Pretty hefty so I guess she has a lot to say.

 

OMG open it.

 

Fingers crossed and I hope you feel better too. This has taken it's toll on you on so many levels.

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Don't open it!!!! :( No need to read through someones poison pen drabble... just hand it over to your lawyer in case you need it for an RO...

 

Hugs to you peaks... I know I am on the flip side of your sitch but I see no excuse for her/his continued nastiness.

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OMG open it.

 

Fingers crossed and I hope you feel better too. This has taken it's toll on you on so many levels.

I did open it. I couldn't resist. It was straight up stupid. About 12 pages worth of stupid with pictures of her children telling me how I have destroyed their family. :lmao::lmao: She is heart broken of course. She thought WH loved her. She believed they would be a family. And in the next paragraph she loves her

husband with all her heart. Yada, yada, blah, blah blah. :sick: Lawyer has the letter.

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Geez..that is one messed up lady. What would be the purpose to write you? I could see if it were to vent at you or she wanted to try to prove she was a good person. All she did was show you she is a mess and how much karma is a bitch . She wanted everything. Her husband and yours. Now she has no one and a child who no one knows who the father is.Plus both men knows she has been with several men instead of just them...all at one time period.

 

I know many may not agree with me but I like payback. And she is being paid backed for her actions in a huge way. You didn't destroy her life, she did. You took control of your life back now she sees what it is like to not have control.

 

I hope your health issues are better peaks .

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I did open it. I couldn't resist. It was straight up stupid. About 12 pages worth of stupid with pictures of her children telling me how I have destroyed their family. :lmao::lmao: She is heart broken of course. She thought WH loved her. She believed they would be a family. And in the next paragraph she loves her

husband with all her heart. Yada, yada, blah, blah blah. :sick: Lawyer has the letter.

 

I knew you'd open it, how could you not??

 

How you destroyed her family? W..T...F. Speechless here. She is seriously demented and has mental issues if she is you blaming you!

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I knew you'd open it, how could you not??

 

How you destroyed her family? W..T...F. Speechless here. She is seriously demented and has mental issues if she is you blaming you!

 

Yes Peaks,

 

How could you do that to her after all that she did to help and preserve your marriage!

 

Oh wait.......

 

What?

 

I honestly don't think I could've opened it. I probably would have written "return to crazy-ass sender" and just dropped it in her mailbox.

 

Or just photocopied it and sent a copy to her BH.

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Yes Peaks,

 

How could you do that to her after all that she did to help and preserve your marriage!

 

Oh wait.......

 

What?

 

I honestly don't think I could've opened it. I probably would have written "return to crazy-ass sender" and just dropped it in her mailbox.

 

Or just photocopied it and sent a copy to her BH.

 

Wait, wait, wait!

 

I got it!

 

I did this to my ex-roommate who I am convinced was the most immature person alive on the planet at the time.

 

Have you ever realized that the more dramatic and insane the person, the worse their spelling and grammar is?

 

My Aunt's best friend received a letter from the OW pretending to be a LAWYER telling her that she couldn't expect a settlement or child support from her STBXH.

 

My Aunt was a high-school teacher. She wrote in red pen and corrected all of the spelling and grammar mistakes and put "C-, more effort needed. Better luck next time" on the note and then they returned it. ROFL.

 

Later that week "Sandra's" STBXH phoned back and flipped out on her LOL. Totally busted!

 

My roommate also had a fit about the note I corrected.

 

Please answer this: does she use "your" incorrectly?

 

As in "your to blame!"

 

That always cracks me up. I feel like sending something back like "no, YORE to blame. YORE always to blame. Just like in Days of YOU'RE!"

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I did open it. I couldn't resist. It was straight up stupid. About 12 pages worth of stupid with pictures of her children telling me how I have destroyed their family. :lmao::lmao: She is heart broken of course. She thought WH loved her. She believed they would be a family. And in the next paragraph she loves her

husband with all her heart. Yada, yada, blah, blah blah. :sick: Lawyer has the letter.

 

What a piece of work. I know that you are looking forward to the day when you can be free of this whole mess. I hope that WH does not pull another ridiculous stunt at Christmas as he did for Thanksgiving. Stay strong, Peaks!

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Her BS does seem like a good man. Wouldn't it be a riot if he and I got together? Seems somehow fitting though I know I just want to come out the other side of this with some of my humanity still intact and not wanting to be anywhere near either WH or OW ever again. I know this is probably an unrealistic wish but still I wish they would disappear and never be heard from again.

 

Read Shania Twain's story with her current husband... yeap, he was the husband of Shania's ex husband's OW... aaaand. the OW was her friend....

 

So... it does happen... you never know ;)

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I did open it. I couldn't resist. It was straight up stupid. About 12 pages worth of stupid with pictures of her children telling me how I have destroyed their family. :lmao::lmao: She is heart broken of course. She thought WH loved her. She believed they would be a family. And in the next paragraph she loves her

husband with all her heart. Yada, yada, blah, blah blah. :sick: Lawyer has the letter.

 

What you are witnessing in this letter are all the lies, delusions, and projections APs tell themselves so they can still feel like a victim, and/or not be such a bad guy responsible for the destruction of their own lives.

 

The unravelling of an unstable psyche......and it may not stop here.

 

What do you think was the goal of sending this missive to you?

 

To invoke sympathy? To have you consider stopping the divorce action? to assuage her guilt?

 

To not hate her?

 

I am frequently amazed how insecure APs can be in that despite their willing wanton participation in the destruction of the family, they still need you not to despise them.

 

Ironic, no?

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Wait, wait, wait!

 

I got it!

 

I did this to my ex-roommate who I am convinced was the most immature person alive on the planet at the time.

 

Have you ever realized that the more dramatic and insane the person, the worse their spelling and grammar is?

 

My Aunt's best friend received a letter from the OW pretending to be a LAWYER telling her that she couldn't expect a settlement or child support from her STBXH.

 

My Aunt was a high-school teacher. She wrote in red pen and corrected all of the spelling and grammar mistakes and put "C-, more effort needed. Better luck next time" on the note and then they returned it. ROFL.

 

Later that week "Sandra's" STBXH phoned back and flipped out on her LOL. Totally busted!

 

My roommate also had a fit about the note I corrected.

 

Please answer this: does she use "your" incorrectly?

 

As in "your to blame!"

 

That always cracks me up. I feel like sending something back like "no, YORE to blame. YORE always to blame. Just like in Days of YOU'RE!"

 

 

LOL:laugh:

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What you are witnessing in this letter are all the lies, delusions, and projections APs tell themselves so they can still feel like a victim, and/or not be such a bad guy responsible for the destruction of their own lives.

 

The unravelling of an unstable psyche......and it may not stop here.

 

What do you think was the goal of sending this missive to you?

 

To invoke sympathy? To have you consider stopping the divorce action? to assuage her guilt?

 

To not hate her?

 

I am frequently amazed how insecure APs can be in that despite their willing wanton participation in the destruction of the family, they still need you not to despise them.

 

Ironic, no?

 

I think her goal is to just go "woe is me" and think I will feel sorry about the situation. Maybe even not to be called during the divorce proceedings. I don't feel sorry, regret anything that is happening to "her" and my anger at her has not abated one bit. She is so arrogant and stupid.

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Read Shania Twain's story with her current husband... yeap, he was the husband of Shania's ex husband's OW... aaaand. the OW was her friend....

 

So... it does happen... you never know ;)

 

 

I do know her story. I was just thinking out loud. That is a can or worms I would rather stay closed. :)

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What a piece of work. I know that you are looking forward to the day when you can be free of this whole mess. I hope that WH does not pull another ridiculous stunt at Christmas as he did for Thanksgiving. Stay strong, Peaks!

 

 

I doubt he is brave enough to try. He has been warned of the consequences by many parties.

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Geez..that is one messed up lady. What would be the purpose to write you? I could see if it were to vent at you or she wanted to try to prove she was a good person. All she did was show you she is a mess and how much karma is a bitch . She wanted everything. Her husband and yours. Now she has no one and a child who no one knows who the father is.Plus both men knows she has been with several men instead of just them...all at one time period.

 

I know many may not agree with me but I like payback. And she is being paid backed for her actions in a huge way. You didn't destroy her life, she did. You took control of your life back now she sees what it is like to not have control.

 

I hope your health issues are better peaks .

 

A little better but new meds. We are hoping for the best.

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Have you ever realized that the more dramatic and insane the person, the worse their spelling and grammar is?

 

You made me laugh out loud.

 

My STBXW doesn't have great spelling and grammar in the first place, but her new man is such a drama queen. And after cracking her emails and seeing all the nonsense he sends her, it's quite hilarious. He's a 47 year old drama queen with the spelling of a 7 year old.

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I think her goal is to just go "woe is me" and think I will feel sorry about the situation. Maybe even not to be called during the divorce proceedings. I don't feel sorry, regret anything that is happening to "her" and my anger at her has not abated one bit. She is so arrogant and stupid.

 

Her situation IS sorry..only it's not your fault. She created this mess.

 

Maybe she should use her energy and words on cleaning up her mess instead of bothering you. What's done is done anyway..not like you could take it back, even if you wanted to.

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What you are witnessing in this letter are all the lies, delusions, and projections APs tell themselves so they can still feel like a victim, and/or not be such a bad guy responsible for the destruction of their own lives.

 

The unravelling of an unstable psyche......and it may not stop here.

 

What do you think was the goal of sending this missive to you?

 

To invoke sympathy? To have you consider stopping the divorce action? to assuage her guilt?

 

To not hate her?

 

I am frequently amazed how insecure APs can be in that despite their willing wanton participation in the destruction of the family, they still need you not to despise them.

 

Ironic, no?

 

It goes beyond wanting to not be despised though; she seems to think that SHE is the injured or wronged party. I can't wrap my brain around that way of thinking.

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It goes beyond wanting to not be despised though; she seems to think that SHE is the injured or wronged party. I can't wrap my brain around that way of thinking.

 

I can't either, it really makes no sense to me. What fantasy land the OW must have been living in to think that Peaks ruined her life for her. She ruined it for herself and continues to do so with her stupidity.

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It goes beyond wanting to not be despised though; she seems to think that SHE is the injured or wronged party. I can't wrap my brain around that way of thinking.

 

I lived this in my sitch....so I know it is or can be true.....

 

She seemed like a sweet, shy, divorcee.....who I assumed must have been a victim of his mid-life crisis....and PROJECTED she too must have been a victim of his like I was.....so, I left her alone and leveled both barrels of my anger and rage at him.

 

it was only in time....and lots of digging did I realize she was so NOT the victim....despite her claims to the contrary....I am a former investigative journalist, so I could not STOP digging. I needed the truth of my life....

 

My fWS was NOT her first affair with a MM...and her fH, that she said was the cheating spawn from Hell, sailed happily into the sunset with his last AP, in a true exit affair, and is seemingly happy with his new family and SO DONE WITH HER...l

 

She uses men to achieve whatever is her next goal....Plumbing? Electric? House sale? Does not matter if he is married or not..... WHATEVER it takes....

 

had one phone call, more rah two years after DDAy, two weeks after she blatantly brok NC to see if he was interested in restarting th affair.

 

Called her out....she was screaming he lied to her every day....hated me, our children.....HIM!

 

Contempt, arrogance, crazy, over-the-top dramatic histrionics......

 

yeah, I know and have lived personality disordered.....Not what I thought AT ALL...

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WW had the perfect life. A loving, kind husband. An enamoured MM who gave her lots and lots of attention. Apprently fun with other guys. And then PnV had the audacity to bring everything to light thus ending her perfect life forever. Clearly she is unhinged. And desperate. It is very very sad. I feel the worst for her husband.

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