Psychic nailed my exes feelings down to a Tee!

[Never Again]

Thing is, his free readings are not as detailed as his paid ones. He gives you a chance to feel connected with him as an introductory, a glance in what he could offer you. You pay $20 for a question and you get a very detailed, precise email back. And free follow ups.

 

Like I said in the other thread, I feel that his experience as a counselor is probably why he's as helpful as he is (That's why I suggested you give a disclaimer lol).

 

Personally, I'm a skeptic but I don't discount the spiritual or supernatural. Most of these people are just entertainers and fakes, but maybe (just maybe), there's some real insight or wisdom to be had. If people know what they could be getting, I see no harm and will never judge.

 

That being said, I'm wary of people that may take advantage of people in pain. A "seer" is just as bad as a "get your ex back guru" if they're purposefully extorting those in need.

 

Now, here's the thing I find interesting:

 

Folks here have jumped on the "this is a classic cold reading". Well, yes. Kind of. It's pretty vague and could be applied anywhere which fits.

 

But what's lacking is the "hook". Where's the incentive to have a paid session? I mean, there are obviously people that return to him so he's gotta have some charm to him, but from my limited experience with these kind of folks...if they really want to fleece you, they lay the hope on THICK.

 

There's always some sort of cliffhanger or missing nugget of wisdom that you MUST HAVE to keep you coming back.

 

Not saying this provides credibility...it's just interesting that he's not selling himself in his reading. I would've expected that.

 

Being 'confused' is such a BS reason for a BU. All it means is that your ex wanted to see what else is out there and still have you here to fall back on on. You're second prize. Sitting on the back burner. Get it? Not so confusing is it?

 

Meh. It happens, and it doesn't always mean they're looking for the "greener grass".

 

There are a lot of people out there that legitimately don't know themselves very well, or even what they want out of a relationship. They're unsatisfied because they don't know what they need, and when a relationship looks great on paper but still isn't fulfilling...well, it's confusing.

 

However, I stand firm on the opinion that if someone's confused about their feelings or the relationship...then they're not ready to BU. Breaking up at that point is just escaping - the classic "this is uncomfortable and I don't want to think about it!" stick your head in the sand approach to living your life.

 

It's not worth being with someone who can't handle REAL personal reflection.

[aaron11892]

I am so glad you had the opportunity to speak to Mondez. He is a great man. :-)

 

You have used him too? What did you ask him and what were his answers?

[BlessYourCottonSocks]

You have used him too? What did you ask him and what were his answers?

 

I have talked to him several times so I have a lot of information from him. I have only had 2 paid readings from him but he has followed up with me on several occasions just to show compassion and care. He has been a true friends, that's why I believe he isn't fake because he cares about people.

 

1) How does X currently feel about me? (and how would he likely see my moving in with him?) Again, this is really two questions but it's okay. His feelings for you have not greatly changed other than a sense of slightly more distance. He seems to be very aware of what your interest are and your intentions. He is not quite on the same page with you and so some of the feelings he's having are that of feeling pressed or pressured. He has some loving feelings for you which he pushes down and this shows me that he's fearful of falling in love and very fearful of being vulnerable to anyone for whom he has these sort of feelings. His mind was very strongly fixated on keeping a good amount of control over the development of the relationship. All of these factors would lead me to believe that he would not likely feel ready or willing to move in with you at the moment. I think he would even become angered or resentful as he's looking for a way to apply more reason for distance. I don't think it's outside the realm of possibility that he would likely react badly he is not totally comfortable with being that vulnerable in relationships. But, that is current energy and likely to change with a change in dynamics. He does not seem to be on the same page as you are as far as what this relationship would entail and he also seems to be fearful of opening up further. This would likely lead him to feel uneasy about moving in or taking such a deep step. And this uneasy feeling is what's likely to change to anger as a defense mechanism if he felt things were going faster than he could control. So, I would not advise this, or any sort of idea where you both move in together, until some of these fundamental issues get dealt with.

 

 

Before you think about moving in with him, you both would have to get a sense of shared mutual expectation. You both have to be on the same page as to what you both are wanting out of this relationship before I would advise you to even think about moving in with hims. His mind seems to be focused a lot of aspects of his life outside of being in a committed relationship so he has to be a bit more settled and certain of what he wants before this would work well. Also, there has to be an improvement in the communication where he learns how to validate you and show you in his actions and his words how he feels about you. Even though you are aware he cares about you, you still question this because he's so inconsistent. This will work to develop insecurity in you over time which would end up causing conflict in your communication with him and sabotaging the relationship. So, before you think about moving in or think about moving forward, first try to work on the communication so that he can begin understanding your point of view, and in time empathizing with your position on things.

 

 

Only through empathy can he change his actions to shore up the communication and make you feel more more loved. Because the feeling of happiness is basally your body's way of telling you that you feel safe and secure. And that can't happen until you feel he's validating you and comprising with you. And that can't happen until the communication changes and you both get a sense of shared expectations. It's not impossible but it's not as simple as talking to him. I sent you tips in our first reading. I really hope you look over them and try to use them when you and he do talk so that you and he can begin merging your ideas into a consistently progressing relationship where you both can feel safe to open up to your feelings. But it has to start by learning how to communicate with him in a different way. I know you care about him but if you want this to work, you're going to have to focus on what is not working to heal these problems before you move forward.

 

 

This can only happen by improving the communication, getting a shard sense of expectations and working to compromise on the things on which you both agree. Keep your focus and attention on the present as this as the time where you have power to change your situation. The past can't be changed and the future has not happened. So, focus on here and now where you can effectively shift the paradigms of your relationship. He cares about you a lot but he's terrified of allowing his loving feelings to take over. And he does not seem capable with moving in right now and would likely not want to commit to that type of obligation right now. But it's not beyond chance or beyond where you both can go. Look over the notes I sent you from our first session. I would advise you to come up with a date where you can be comfortable saying that if things don't change for the better where you can actual feel more secure than you will move on. But while that date is coming, work on things with the tips I sent you. I also included a few more tips after this reading I sense may help. The problems I see are real but fixable. And there are genuine feelings here, so it's possible that things can move in the direction you need. But you have to focus on what you have power over to get to where you want to be. Be strong, love. ((HUGS)) if you need clarifications (unlimited_ or follow ups (2 per paid reading), let me know and email me. Talk soon.

 

 

Mondez Durden

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Hey, sorry. I'm not in the office and so I am sending this from my phone. I think the lines of negative feelings I saw may lie in his deeper fears that the relationship will progress quicker than he wants. There are some fundamental issues in this relationship, but they are not beyond fixing. He does seem to care about you, but he's fearful of things moving too quickly. If you are moving in with him now, then now more so then ever you both will have to deal with some of the fundamental issues you are having with communication so that you both can feel safe and secure.

 

 

You have to remember, one's behavior and how we react to things has a lot more to do with how we feel about ourselves then how we feel about other people. His fear is based on his own issues. He is simply thinking that this will likely force him into a situation where he may become mire obligated over time than he's certain he's wanting. But, it's already happening now so if you learn how to communicate with him more effectively it will help him rid himself of that unnecessary, and silly fear, before it ends up causing problems with this new arrangement.

 

 

I don't want you to be too stressed out about this. I just want you to deal with the fundamental problems I see before they end up causing more distance. And almost all the problems you have are centered in two areas; his fears and communication barriers. Deal with the one thing you can actually help, the communication barriers, and his fears will get better in time. Hope that helps explain things a bit further.

 

Mondez Durden

 

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I'm very sorry to hear this, love. I want to convey my absolute heartfelt apologizes that you are going through this painful time. But, I want to be clear: I have tried very hard to convey to you the issues at hand. I tried to explain that there was a fundamental fear of commitment in him which is common when someone sabotages his relationship as he's just done here. Sabotage means to destroy subversively. It's easy to end a relationship by saying you simply don't care about the other person. It's a lot harder to actually talk about all the issues and fears you have. I felt resentment toward feeling pressured. I tried to explain this in a way that would not make you feel scared. I don't want anyone to stress out about what you can't control and so I try my best to convey the problems I see without causing panic. But, I want to be clear, I was very honest about the problems here. I can't see the future so I am uncertain what I could have done to prepare you for this any more than telling you to run from him when you came to me due to the issue I saw in the connection which would have been advise not listened to if I had done that. I don't know where I was wrong but I do know this is painful for you. If you need to talk, I'm here. I'm sorry you're going through this, love. Let me know how you're doing. I don't know if you are feeling anger at me for not seeing this coming, but know that I tried to help you repair what was a damaged connection. That's all I could do. And all I can do now is provide you counsel and a loving ear if you need. If you are angry and simply need to vent, then vent at me. Whatever you need. Just know that this was not as simple as he never cared and this was all a big joke. Life is never that simple.

 

Mondez Durden

 

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This wasn't a paid reading, this was him just following up with me and giving me advice:

 

I've been doing this for nearly 15 years and I can tell you that not many people are self aware of why they do the things they do so try not to get too caught up in HOW he decided to convey this to you. And don't take any of this as some message to his devotion to your friendship because how he behaves towards you has a lot less to do with how he feels about you than you think.

 

I was a licensed counselor for the state of Georgia up until 4 years ago when I let my license expire. Before that, I still did this for a living but I also worked in more formal areas as a life coach and consultant. I was a counselor at a homeless gay teen shelter here in Atlanta, a child advocate for the Fulton county court system and a cognitive behavioral therapy facilitator for couples. And the one thing I've learned from all these very connected fields of psychology is that people don't really behave based on how they see others. This is a common belief we have as a species about others, and even about ourselves, but it's not true. I hear people say things like, "she made me angry." But in actuality, no one can spark that anger in you unless you allow it. And more so importantly, depending on how you see yourself, that anger may never come.

 

And example of this reality I like to give it this: If you are a person who suffers from extreme low self esteem and you walk into a room full of people right when they are erupting in laughter, you might assume they are laughing at you even if that's not the truth. You would react and behave from that moment on as though this is true, maybe even feeling a bit shy or angry around some of the people later. So, even if this is not real, it becomes your reality and shapes your behavior. Now, imagine if you were someone who is very self accepting of yourself (not self esteem. that's a trap as you need something outside of yourself to have self esteem. I mean self acceptance where you accept who and what you are no matter what). Imagine that you're this person of true self acceptance, and you walk into a room where this happened. You might automatically assume a really funny joke had just been said and you missed it. You might even ask around to see what was said to get in on the joke. But you likely would not assume it was you who was the joke. The incident may even make you feel jovial if you are naturally a very gregarious person. So, as you see by this simple example, humans react to circumstances based on how we see ourselves more so than how we see everyone else.

 

Try to keep this in mind when dealing with any of your social interactions. His behavior is due to how he sees himself, not how he sees you. He choice to let you know this over text was because of a fear of conflict and guilt he feels. He waited until he could not take his fears any longer before he talked to you about it and that's why it feels so sudden when your intuition told you there were problems here long before this or you would not have come to me. The way he's doing this was because he didn't want to deal with this, not because he didn't care enough about you to tell you face to face. These situations are never as easy as he loves me or he does not and that's the reason he did what the did. A person does what he does based on internalized thoughts he has about himself that you could never fully understand. But know that you can only look into your behavior as a source of critique because how he reacts is not due to you. I'm saying that we lie to ourselves and it's not as simple as he does not care about me enough to do this or that. I hope you well.

 

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These situations are a lot more nuanced than they may seem and it's harder for people to truly converse about what they are feeling. I'm truly sorry he was not able to convey his deeper feelings to you. I don't want to make it seem as though all things were great and he didn't mislead you, but I do want to say that I did sense genuine feelings from him to you. But the fear was stronger than the hope that he could actually feel comfortable opening up. I know he says one thing and then does another but this has never been about how he feels about you. It's about how he feels about himself and how he sees where he is in life. This does not make it better but I hope it takes some of the sting away. ((HUGS))

 

 

I have so much more, but I'll stop at that for now...

[BlessYourCottonSocks]

Sorry, I have been running late today but I am finally catching up a bit. I really want to convey that his feelings for you have less to do with his inconsistent behavior than you think. Again, one's behavior is derived more so from his core beliefs about himself, life, and the world than it does from his conscious thoughts. The conscious thoughts one has, like thinking about someone moving in with him, may trigger a subconscious feeling of which he's not totally aware. The conscious thought he's having is on the surface of his mind. It may affect some basic communication. But one's overall behavior is controlled by his subconscious feelings, not his conscious thoughts. This is a fact about human psychology. A person's behavior is due to internalized beliefs about himself, life and the world, not due to conscious thought he has. I can consciously want to go on vacation with a friend, but if I believe that people in general can't be trusted then I may feel nervous about going and even end the plans on going. I may not really KNOW that I feel fear because that feeling is so integrated into my very consciousness. So, it would manifest as maybe resentment toward my friend for not paying me all the money he owed for his half of the trip. That may be something that if I had a very positive core belief of others would not affect me and I would simply tell my friend to pay me before we leave for the trip. But, if my core belief is that people will take advantage of you if you let them, even if this is not true, I will react to my friend not paying his part of the bill quickly with more resentment or even to pull back from the trip as opposed to a person who has a more fundamentally positive view of friends.

 

So, if you have someone who has a core belief that he will end up being rejected if he is opens himself to love, then when he meets someone who he feels deeply for this triggers a subconscious feeling of anxiety. The feeling of anxiety is from his core belief that by opening up to you he will end up being rejected by you. Now, he's not aware of his core beliefs, only of the feeling of being anxious or scared when thinking of truly committing himself to you. When a person is not self aware it is hard from them to catch these subconscious feelings and address them. So, they often avoid their fears or simply sabotage relationships.. Self awareness is the psychological equivalent of being enlightened, which is to understand yourself fully, your actions and behavior. Most of us react and do things without REALLY looking deep into the subconscious feelings that's causing us to behave as we do. And this is the same thing you're going through with Jordan. His core beliefs do not allow him to feel safe that vulnerable to you so he's seeking to sabotage the relationship. But, he's not doing it on purpose. He's trying to seek distance and control.

 

1. If he really isn't in love with me and struggles to make me happy because it conflicts with how he feels, then why is he with me, why was he so sweet, loving and attentive last night when I was trying to move on without him?

 

This is answered by my intro: he does still love you greatly. I hope I was able to explain his inconsistency and duplicity better in the intro and how it works with human behavior. So, yes, he loves you, but love is not going to be enough as love is the very trigger that's causing him to be so afraid. He's trying desperately to have a relationship while also trying to free himself from the scary obligations of a relationship so that he can feel safe. You can't change thank, unfortunately, or heal him. All you can do is seek out control where you have it. You can tell him directly to treat you as a friend and create very strong boundaries to assume this happens. The only reason I assume you've not done that so far is because you would prefer he not treat you only like a friend. The problem is when you allow him to treat you like a friend in one aspect of your relationship but like a girlfriend in another, then you are actually fostering a lot of these unhealthy behaviors as he will only justify his behavior and therefore never question himself enough to become more self aware of how unhealthy his acting.

 

So, before you do anything, you have to sit down and decide what you want. TRULY what you want. Sit and write down your feelings and be brutally honest with yourself. If you don't believe you can simply be friends with him at this point, then it's time to address that and decide how to move forward. If you think you can be friends with him then it's time to accept that, create VERY strong boundaries of behavior for you both, and begin letting go and in time dating other men. If you decide this, it's not advisable to live with him and this is something you would have to face eventually as well. But, before any of that can happen, you have to stop focusing on his behavior because you have no power to change it. Start focusing on where your power lie. Decide which way you'd really want this to go and then you will know what to do. Accept that if you truly feel you can not only be friends with him than living with him long term is not likely going to end up being a good idea. You can't move forward until you deal with where you are, either accept it as it is, or accept that he's putting constraints here and pulled back. But if you only focus on his actions and what he's thinking about, things you have no power to change, then you will effectively give yourself no power to change your present. ((HUGS)).

 

He loves you. But love is not always enough. There has to be self awareness to understand why he's so afraid. Hell, he has to be more self aware to even understand he's afraid. He has it in him to be self aware but only he can get there. And that may take a long time. One never knows.. Focus on where you have power and in that act things will become a lot more clear. I hope this helped. Talk soon.

 

Mondez Durden

 

I really think you would likely get more benefit if we spoke as I can convey more information. I am hesitant to tell anyone what she should do, but from what I'm seeing I fear you will be more damaged by this arrangement than if you were to simply being pulling back. So, I can't answer that for you but I can tell you that if you don't begin to move on, this situation is likely to end worse than it would if you were to begin pulling back now. I don't see many paths from the trends around this leading to a resolution you'd like or feel safe with, so protect yourself. Love is not as easy as we'd like, and we must be willing to walk away from it if its embrace leaves us more insecure and scarred than when we first encountered it. Be strong, sister. You may already know what you should do, but may simply not want to do it. Remember, we can't pick and choose the situations we end up in, only how we proceed from what we know. Look at what you're seeing, look at what you know of what is happening and ask yourself if this is making you happy. And if not, then you may already know the answer to your question. You may simply want to be given another option. ((HUGS)) Happiness is the goal we collectively seek as a species. Not to be with a specific person, but to feel happy. And if you're not feeling that, then question yourself why. And what can you do to change it.

[AShogunNamedMarcus]

This person has a good understanding of human behavior and what motivates it.

 

This person might also be very empathic and able to put him/her self into many situations and can see things from different perspectives.

 

The info seems like basic stuff though. I've mentioned surface emotions and core emotions before. Not because I've learned about them, but because it just makes sense to me. I like to break things down and look beneath the drama. This guy is doing the same thing.

 

Some of those questions were rather leading.

[Wings Of Love]

Whether or not this psychic was genuine or not, should not be the point here. There are those who don't believe, and those who do. No need to insult those who do, we all have our own beliefs.

 

The fact is, the OP got a free reading that ultimately has given him an answer that is helping him to let go and move on. If it is helping him, then I really don't see the problem here.

 

Good luck to you OP.

[AnyaNova]

Im going to do a little experiment. I am going to email him again under a completely different email address and will give him a random girls name but ask him similar questions to what I asked and I'll see what he has to say.

 

Who is he? I am almost game to try it, just to see if it is more cold reading as well.

[BlessYourCottonSocks]

Who is he? I am almost game to try it, just to see if it is more cold reading as well.

 

Mondez Durden :-) Google him.

 

I'm really interested in what he says to you! Share with us when he replies :-)

[mtnbiker3000]

However, I stand firm on the opinion that if someone's confused about their feelings or the relationship...then they're not ready to BU. Breaking up at that point is just escaping - the classic "this is uncomfortable and I don't want to think about it!" stick your head in the sand approach to living your life.

 

It's not worth being with someone who can't handle REAL personal reflection.

 

Exactly! When someone is in love, they don't leave a RS based on being confused. They will work at it. They will fight for it. If they simply bail and use being confused as a reason, I feel this, again, is total BS. It's simply a cop-out.

[AShogunNamedMarcus]

Who is he? I am almost game to try it, just to see if it is more cold reading as well.

 

Can I have a crack at the questions before you reveal the answers? I'd like to compare.

[MoooOinkBaaa]

There is no spoon.

[Never Again]

Exactly! When someone is in love, they don't leave a RS based on being confused. They will work at it. They will fight for it. If they simply bail and use being confused as a reason, I feel this, again, is total BS. It's simply a cop-out.

 

I agree.

 

However, a lot of people find it difficult to determine if the love they feel is sufficient. They wrack their little brains, agonizing over if what they feel is "it". Cuz, you know, there's a "special feeling" that let's you "just know" ::eye roll::

 

I find those kind of people to be frustrating.

 

If course, I'm biased in my frustration. My ex was the definition of this kind of dumper.

 

They're often searching for an "in love feeling" instead of a bond of friendship, respect, love and support (with a splash of attraction every once in awhile).

[BlessYourCottonSocks]

Mondez Durden said it best. Even if he isn't "real" he gives amazing advice.

 

I agree.

 

However, a lot of people find it difficult to determine if the love they feel is sufficient. They wrack their little brains, agonizing over if what they feel is "it". Cuz, you know, there's a "special feeling" that let's you "just know" ::eye roll::

 

I find those kind of people to be frustrating.

 

If course, I'm biased in my frustration. My ex was the definition of this kind of dumper.

 

They're often searching for an "in love feeling" instead of a bond of friendship, respect, love and support (with a splash of attraction every once in awhile).

[crederer]

No offence, OP, but it sounds like the situation for pretty much any break up ever.

[mtnbiker3000]

I find those kind of people to be frustrating.

 

If course, I'm biased in my frustration. My ex was the definition of this kind of dumper.

 

They're often searching for an "in love feeling" instead of a bond of friendship, respect, love and support (with a splash of attraction every once in awhile).

 

My ex did this too. I now realize she really had no deep feelings for me or care about me or my wants and needs. She simply used, deceived and manipulated me to fill her wants and needs only. As soon as she 'used' me up, I was out of the picture. No remorse. No empathy. Nothing. I find this very hard to understand and accept.

 

It's kind of like the guy who uses the woman for sex. Feeds her just enough to keep her hanging on, but never really cares about her. Well, this is what my ex did to me. But rather than sex, she used me for other intimate needs. Support. Comfort. Security. Familiarity. Attention. Etc...

 

Now's shes gone and on to another and probably another for this same goal (I speculate, anyway). In a way, I kind of feel bad for her. What a ****ty way to live

[AnyaNova]

My ex did this too. I now realize she really had no deep feelings for me or care about me or my wants and needs. She simply used, deceived and manipulated me to fill her wants and needs only. As soon as she 'used' me up, I was out of the picture. No remorse. No empathy. Nothing. I find this very hard to understand and accept.

 

It's kind of like the guy who uses the woman for sex. Feeds her just enough to keep her hanging on, but never really cares about her. Well, this is what my ex did to me. But rather than sex, she used me for other intimate needs. Support. Comfort. Security. Familiarity. Attention. Etc...

 

Now's shes gone and on to another and probably another for this same goal (I speculate, anyway). In a way, I kind of feel bad for her. What a ****ty way to live

 

You too, huh?

 

My ex broke up with me initially because he didn't feel anything the night before while kissing me. One stupid night. Didn't think to stick around and see if it might be temporary (which given his recent crashing of my gym--he lives in a different town, so it was rather obvious), I suspect perhaps the lack of feeling was indeed very temporary.

 

And he crushed the relationship we had under his heel because of it.

[Sugarkane]

I went to a psychic a few years ago at an annual event in my city, just for fun. None of it came true and it was a huge rip off. Not happy.

[Never Again]

Can I have a crack at the questions before you reveal the answers? I'd like to compare.

 

I sense a fun game here!

 

I sent in a free question because I'd to see how close you'll get!

 

Let me know when you're ready and I'll let you take a crack at it first lol

[KatZee]

I went to a psychic a few years ago at an annual event in my city, just for fun. None of it came true and it was a huge rip off. Not happy.

 

This is a prime example of what I was talking about... how some people don't understand psychics and what it is they actually do; and it backs up my last post perfectly.

[AShogunNamedMarcus]

It works because he only has to be right some of the time. He's probably right most of the time.

 

If someone has an unusual experience and the psychic gets it wrong, it is in the minority. He loses that one customer, but the majority of relationships have the same issues. If he hits the truth even 50% of the time, he can get repeat customers who then pay him.

 

Uncertainty is what it comes down to. He knows that you are seeking him out because you are uncertain of something. Your question tells him what you are uncertain about, and he's able to draw on his experience to figure out the underlying psychology.

 

Remember, he has done this almost every day for years. The people that come to him as a counselor all have problems. He recognizes patterns and shared circumstances by his clients and is able to predict how most situations will unfold.

 

His answers are vague and he always leaves a way to explain himself if he's wrong. When he's wrong, he sends an email explaining how sorry he is, that he's there for you with emotional support and ((HUGS)), and that you shouldn't be angry with him because he did tell you things could change 10 seconds after you walk out the door. He also encourages you to keep contacting him when you are upset. I imagine people could start to bond to him emotionally.

 

Every time you respond, you give him more information. That's how his readings get more accurate over time. You are giving him more to go on. In one of the exchanges above, the messages to the psychic were left out. I bet those messages were loaded with tidbits of info. He doesn't need very much to paint a vague picture.

 

I'm concerned that he's not working as a psychologist right now. He can make decent money. That leads me to question if he's able to hold that kind of job. If he isn't, what is so wrong with him that he isn't able to sit and listen to someone's problems in a professional office setting. Red flag.

[Never Again]

It works because he only has to be right some of the time. He's probably right most of the time.

 

If someone has an unusual experience and the psychic gets it wrong, it is in the minority. He loses that one customer, but the majority of relationships have the same issues. If he hits the truth even 50% of the time, he can get repeat customers who then pay him.

 

Uncertainty is what it comes down to. He knows that you are seeking him out because you are uncertain of something. Your question tells him what you are uncertain about, and he's able to draw on his experience to figure out the underlying psychology.

 

Remember, he has done this almost every day for years. The people that come to him as a counselor all have problems. He recognizes patterns and shared circumstances by his clients and is able to predict how most situations will unfold.

 

His answers are vague and he always leaves a way to explain himself if he's wrong. When he's wrong, he sends an email explaining how sorry he is, that he's there for you with emotional support and ((HUGS)), and that you shouldn't be angry with him because he did tell you things could change 10 seconds after you walk out the door. He also encourages you to keep contacting him when you are upset. I imagine people could start to bond to him emotionally.

 

Every time you respond, you give him more information. That's how his readings get more accurate over time. You are giving him more to go on. In one of the exchanges above, the messages to the psychic were left out. I bet those messages were loaded with tidbits of info. He doesn't need very much to paint a vague picture.

 

I'm concerned that he's not working as a psychologist right now. He can make decent money. That leads me to question if he's able to hold that kind of job. If he isn't, what is so wrong with him that he isn't able to sit and listen to someone's problems in a professional office setting. Red flag.

 

It also seems that he sets the seekers mind at ease by explaining that the problem must lie in the "damage" of the dumper. They have had bad previous experiences, are fearful of opening up, or don't know what they want.

 

It's comforting to the seeker because then they feel that they've done no wrong. Their ex was simply incapable of handling a real relationship.

 

For entertainment purposes, at least he's realistic. I have heard of many "psychic folk" that'll pour on the false hope to get people calling back. However, it definitely seems that he pulls a lot from the questions.

[AShogunNamedMarcus]

Then again, $20 doesn't seem too bad for a therapy session.

 

Not sure why he calls it psychic. I can't see where any of his knowledge would come from super-natural abilities.

[Never Again]

Then again, $20 doesn't seem too bad for a therapy session.

 

Not sure why he calls it psychic. I can't see where any of his knowledge would come from super-natural abilities.

 

I imagine that he labels it as clairvoyant because he can "see" how people feel. Instead of calling it conjecture or the "likely case", he can say he KNOWS.

 

That being said, I've got a response to my free question if you'd like to take a crack - I've been looking forward to see how close you get :-p

[Am4Real]

One can author horoscopes and know absolutely nothing about Astronomy!!

[Am4Real]

I see you've met Tammy and Jimmy Baker as well.

 

 

He went to him and for the next few months all he did was rehash over and over what he had been told. He basically sat around checking boxes off on his calendar waiting for some event that the psychic told him could happen. And when it DIDN'T happen, it threw him into a depression.

 

Some people are so ready and willing to grasp onto hope, false promises, and tons of people don't really even understand what a psychic is. NO psychic can accurately foretell the future, because everyone on this planet has free will.