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HeartbrokenNewbie

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Hi guys,

 

I really need some advice I visit these boards a lot and now I really could use some input.

 

My ex broke up with me after a fight 4 months ago we had been together for nearly 4 years and lived together, I also have a daughter that he was bringing up and 'playing dad too' we were arguing a lot prior to the BU, I made all the classic mistakes... didnt quite beg but text a LOT he ignored me in the most part unless it was about practical matters.. really cut me off cold. There was definitely no cheating involved.

 

I went into NC 3 weeks ago after one final message telling him what I thought of him.. it wasnt very pleasant but very articulately put! he has a new GF too now which began just before month 3 after our BU (poss rebound moving VERY quickly).

 

He contacted me asking about a practical matter a couple of days ago but I felt the practical matter was something he could have sorted himself, I took care of it but I did not acknoweldge the message nor that I had taken care of it (he will find out anyway). Then I received a phone call the following day which I ignored also.. Im not sure why he would want to hear my voice after the last thing I said to him a few weeks prior.

 

Anyway of course I do want to get back together but I feel I have tried everything and now my only option is to walk away and remain in NC as hard as it is!!

 

The problem I have is now that he has text and phoned I am starting to wobble that if it was a 'testing the water' exercise I could be making it worse by ignoring but I also understand the psychology behind it, I also must keep myself out of the picture whilst he has a GF...

 

Im scared he wont try again if it was a testing the water exercise... help me please x

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If he having a gf atm, i dont think his contact is solely because of you. And there is a huge chance that hes testing the water also or hes getting curious why u dont chase him anymore.

Anything can be the reason.

If he has a gf, dont reply

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