Knightosphere Posted November 29, 2013 Posted November 29, 2013 Long story short: So I've met this girl online and we've dated for about 20 months (long distance) and in those 20 months we got engaged. Also in those 20 months she got along really well with a guy (lives like 2 states away or something). Guy has a crush on her and has been trying to win her over (sending her expensive gifts). I got mad at the guy for it and she defended for him saying that she's about her other friend that she can really talk to (mostly true) so I let it be. About a month ago, the guy came over to visit her and her family and they hung out until 3am in the morning by themselves almost every night while I stayed up waiting for her to text or call when she comes back home. The day that the guy left was the day she broke up with me saying that she still loves him (she had a crush on him some time before we got together) and that she needs to get her head together because her heart's torn between us two. Then a few days later I asked her if we would ever get back together again and she said no and that she's done and have made her choice, but she also said that I would always be a part of her and that she can't live without me but she can live without him and the reason why she broke up with me was because of my depression issues and she was afraid of losing me so she let me go for me to become stronger myself. Also, she says that she is still going to wear our engagement ring forever no matter what anyone else says and says that she'll never stop loving me but she might explore other relationships. We're still texting now and then but she'll be going to visit that guy in a few weeks and he booked her a ticket for it. And I have a strong feeling that they're gonna hook up (since she will be spending New Year's Eve at his place) which would utterly destroy me if I do hear the news from her. Am I assuming things or being paranoid? I'm 19, she's 20, and the guy's 21 Anyways, how do I deal with this right now? Any suggestions or advice on what I should do? NC? Also, I know that I might be missing some details so feel free to ask any questions for clarification. Thank you for taking the time to read this. And I happened to come across the "Grass is Greener" article which I think is what's happening: "The Grass Is Greener" Syndrome
Sparta Posted November 29, 2013 Posted November 29, 2013 (edited) Dude Really, ask yourself why you would want someone that doesn’t respect you or cares about you. What do you think they were doing at her place tell 3:00am talking come on buddy she is a slut and thank your lucky stars you didn’t marry her. Look its going to take time your young but you got to stay away NC (NoContact) at all. No text, FB, phone calls, And get any anything that belongs to her out. think buddy she completely a lost cause. everything that she just did to you. put yourself in someones else’s shoe if you just was told this by your Buddy, what advice would give him. Oh about the ring you should have asked for her to give it back. but really you should just NC her ass. Edited November 29, 2013 by Sparta 1
emi Posted November 29, 2013 Posted November 29, 2013 LOL dont fall for her crap. What the hell with '' gonna wear this ring and i will always love u forever'' Face it, she picked that dude over you, maybe because of his financial provision or something else. Who know? If i really love a guy, i wouldnt care about any other dude sends me expensive gift or i would receive it. What kind of friend will send you expensive gift without any ulterior purpose? Just leave the damn ring to her, dont ask back. Shes willing to keep the lame ring but she doesnt mind breaking your heart. Thats BS and definately not love Leave it, go NC. Its not worth the drama. 1
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