Jenny1234 Posted November 29, 2013 Posted November 29, 2013 I think the day is here. I've finally given up all hope after 7 months post breakup. We kept in contact via text weekly for 6 months...about a month ago he became more distant and ignoring most of my texts. I don't know what is going on with his life...it drove my nuts for the last few weeks...but today after hearing nothing on thanksgiving I've finally given up. You dont want to hear from my anymore...wish has been granted. I'm hoping in a few days I feel more liberated! I've been living my life..dating.. Pushing forward but I still had a small glimmer of hope. It's finally dead! Goodbye forever! Good day sir! 2
cavalier99 Posted November 29, 2013 Posted November 29, 2013 Wooo hooo. Took me 7 months of NC to get over my EX. Maybe 7 is the lucky number. Cav
Author Jenny1234 Posted November 29, 2013 Author Posted November 29, 2013 Not bad! Be prepared for the next wave <3 Oh I know these waves...I've been riding the emotional rollercoaster for a long time....one minute up...next minute down. I'm hoping they pass sooner now
Author Jenny1234 Posted November 29, 2013 Author Posted November 29, 2013 Wooo hooo. Took me 7 months of NC to get over my EX. Maybe 7 is the lucky number. Cav 7 actually is my lucky number! Let's hope and pray this it or for my sanity:)
AnyaNova Posted November 29, 2013 Posted November 29, 2013 I think the day is here. I've finally given up all hope after 7 months post breakup. We kept in contact via text weekly for 6 months...about a month ago he became more distant and ignoring most of my texts. I don't know what is going on with his life...it drove my nuts for the last few weeks...but today after hearing nothing on thanksgiving I've finally given up. You dont want to hear from my anymore...wish has been granted. I'm hoping in a few days I feel more liberated! I've been living my life..dating.. Pushing forward but I still had a small glimmer of hope. It's finally dead! Goodbye forever! Good day sir! You really can't start healing until you are in complete NC. It may have been seven months since the breakup, but you are only one month into your healing, since the contact kept you in "hope central." I kept in contact with my ex through September, when we had our last meeting and our last true contact. I don't count July when I count healing time. I start in September, September 7th to be exact. So the waves will keep coming, but the difference now is, if you are militant in keeping your NC, you will actually make some progress and truly start to feel better eventually. I can honestly tell you as bleak as it seems now, that eventually you will look back on this day (as I do, mine) as a great thing. Because it allows you to face the future, and eventually you will be able to contemplate a new relationship with someone else. 2
Author Jenny1234 Posted November 29, 2013 Author Posted November 29, 2013 You really can't start healing until you are in complete NC. It may have been seven months since the breakup, but you are only one month into your healing, since the contact kept you in "hope central." I kept in contact with my ex through September, when we had our last meeting and our last true contact. I don't count July when I count healing time. I start in September, September 7th to be exact. So the waves will keep coming, but the difference now is, if you are militant in keeping your NC, you will actually make some progress and truly start to feel better eventually. I can honestly tell you as bleak as it seems now, that eventually you will look back on this day (as I do, mine) as a great thing. Because it allows you to face the future, and eventually you will be able to contemplate a new relationship with someone else.[/quote The last week has been a hard for me....I'm marking my new beginning today on thanksgiving. Only moving forward now. I need to shake all of this
BC1980 Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 It also took me 7 months. It happened when I finally gave up hope. I don't wish the last 7 months on anyone, but I'm really proud of the person I have become. 3
Author Jenny1234 Posted November 30, 2013 Author Posted November 30, 2013 It also took me 7 months. It happened when I finally gave up hope. I don't wish the last 7 months on anyone, but I'm really proud of the person I have become. That's what finally happened to me...I gave up hope.....I'm too busy working on a new and improved self! Must keep pushing forward
BC1980 Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 That's what finally happened to me...I gave up hope.....I'm too busy working on a new and improved self! Must keep pushing forward It's funny, but, once that hope is gone, you feel like you can move forward. Before, I kept taking 2 steps forward, one step back. I felt mired in quicksand. It's sometimes scary to think of my future alone, but I do know that I am on a different path now.
Author Jenny1234 Posted November 30, 2013 Author Posted November 30, 2013 It's funny, but, once that hope is gone, you feel like you can move forward. Before, I kept taking 2 steps forward, one step back. I felt mired in quicksand. It's sometimes scary to think of my future alone, but I do know that I am on a different path now. I felt same way... Like I was stuck in the mudd. It is scary to be single but i try to think of the postives, the possibilities, the adventures.
mtnbiker3000 Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 We kept in contact via text weekly for 6 months... Please don't go back to this 'contact.' This is very damaging to your healing and recovery and in all probability has slowed the process significantly. Although you have been BU for 7 months, your real healing and recovery is only a month old. Now you've got this great jump on NC. Keep it going and be prepared for many ups and downs and wanting to break NC. Do NOT do that... **Just noticed Anyas post above stating the same thing. Oooops!!!
mtnbiker3000 Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 You really can't start healing until you are in complete NC. It may have been seven months since the breakup, but you are only one month into your healing, since the contact kept you in "hope central." I kept in contact with my ex through September, when we had our last meeting and our last true contact. I don't count July when I count healing time. I start in September, September 7th to be exact. So the waves will keep coming, but the difference now is, if you are militant in keeping your NC, you will actually make some progress and truly start to feel better eventually. I can honestly tell you as bleak as it seems now, that eventually you will look back on this day (as I do, mine) as a great thing. Because it allows you to face the future, and eventually you will be able to contemplate a new relationship with someone else. ^^ Exactly this. From someone who was in LC for 7+ weeks and NC for 8+ months. The difference is night and day!!
Author Jenny1234 Posted December 1, 2013 Author Posted December 1, 2013 ^^ Exactly this. From someone who was in LC for 7+ weeks and NC for 8+ months. The difference is night and day!! Hopefully I will be there someday soon! I've cut the contact...it's useless anymore for me...did nothing but set me back
JDPT Posted December 1, 2013 Posted December 1, 2013 Wooo hooo. Took me 7 months of NC to get over my EX. Maybe 7 is the lucky number. Cav I sure hope so. I'm at the 7 month marker and well....I don't know Gotta keep hope alive, hope that this discomfort will eventually subside that is... 1
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