Inspiration for Everyone

[Armyguy123]

A quote I like to live by everyday;

 

"Don't let someone be your priority, while allowing yourself to become their option."

 

Never settle, you are too worth it.

 

 

 

 

In terms of working and improving yourself here's a little analogy I came up with;

 

Always trade up. Your not gonna trade in your used car and settle for one that will not last or could be in worse condition than the one your trading in. Don't settle for a new "car", just to have a "car".

 

But in order to afford this new "car" you need to work hard, get your confidence up, and earn that new and shiny one that's built to last. Or else your just gonna end up upset at the dealer looking for a new "car" in no time over and over.

 

Your "car" had a good run but it kicked out and quit on you, its time to put your time and energy into yourself in order to afford a new and better one. You may have loved that "car" and had no intention of getting rid of it.

 

If you put too much time and energy into fixing the "car" that quit on you, you're just gonna end up losing more and more time and energy, and end up unhappy with no "car" at all.

 

(No smartass, but what if I'm a good mechanic and can fix the car comments, in this story the car is totaled there is nothing you can do to repair it)

 

Long story short;

Don't settle for a relationship just to be in one.

 

There's nothing you can do to change your ex's mind.

 

The only thing you can control is yourself and your ability to improve yourself and attract even better potential significant others.

 

Don't force anything.

 

Time, space, friends, and yourself are your allies in this fight. Lean on them as much as you possibly have to.

 

(I am trying to live by this every day, I know it is a lot easier said than done)

[Armyguy123]

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[mikejensen3355]

It just hurts so much dude. And it's distracting me from fun times I should be having. And I know she's not coming back. So many posts talk about NC and how that could make the ex come back. I know it's over and I wish this grieving **** was over. I just want it to be over, I don't even care about a new relationship anymore. I just wish this feeling was gone.

[Armyguy123]

I'm three months in and it still hurts. But its finally feeling a little better.

 

I advise at NC at all costs. I didn't for 2 months than went one week without NC and she came back asking for me back then we agreed to start things slow and talked everyday for 2 weeks, then when it came time for her to prove to me she meant it she broke it off and hurt me even more.

 

Its gonna hurt, it still hurts me a lot and I'm a soldier. I've gone through some pretty stuff physically and mentally. (Thankfully have not been deployed yet, because of college and now flight school training, hats off to those guys)

 

Take it day by day and try don't let it stop you from pressing forward in your life.

 

People are telling me how much better I look and how much better I'm doing. I've lost 15lbs and hit the gym hard to get in peak shape. But the old saying for me holds true.

 

"Fake it to you make it"

 

If you see no progress seek help. There is no weakness in it. This is coming from a soldier who's job it is to be "TOUGH" there's no shame in seeking help. Its actually more proactive and mature.

 

Karma will work things out in the end.

 

I feel most people on LS are good natured people bc they are so grief stricken that they come here to seek help and help others.

 

It is the hardest thing I've gone through, but I can look back and say I am better now than I was 3 months ago.

 

I have moments of weakness, but you have to find ways to overcome them. For me I go to the gym to turn negative into positive.

 

Even if the person that left you isn't on your side, know that everyone on here is on your side no matter who did what or who said what.

[Salvatore85]

Good for you man! After reading your thread I'm happy to see you're healing. That's what I've come to love about this website, you get to see people heal and it's very inspiring. Loveshack as odd as it may seem has made things a lot easier for me. A bunch of really good people with great information willing to help others just because.