Scoot Scoot Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 hi, i have a problem. i just can't seem to let go of my ex, and its effecting me in wanting to move on to someone else. whenever i meet new girls, and they flirt with me or whatever, i feel the need to resist. the reason being is that i'm still hooked and in love with my ex. it feels like i'm cheating. in my heart i feel my ex will come back someday, and i don't want to get emotionally invested in someone else, at all.
Iguanna Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 It seems you need some time to figure out what you want. Why don't you take some time off without flirting with other women? This need will come back to you naturally, you don't have to push it. 2
sun1972 Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 how long were you together and how long have you been split up? maybee it is simply too soon.
aaron11892 Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 You need time to heal. I felt the same a week after my ex dumped me. I was flirting with girls but all I could think about was her and constantly comparing them. Almost 3 months down the line I am happy to go out and flirt, obviously i still compare them to my ex a little but I don't feel bad about doing it anymore. The bitch left me so I can do what I want.
Author Scoot Scoot Posted November 28, 2013 Author Posted November 28, 2013 It seems you need some time to figure out what you want. Why don't you take some time off without flirting with other women? This need will come back to you naturally, you don't have to push it. i want my ex. i know i should be finding someone else, but my heart wants what it wants. i'm not pushing anything, women are the ones who flirt with me.
Author Scoot Scoot Posted November 28, 2013 Author Posted November 28, 2013 how long were you together and how long have you been split up? maybee it is simply too soon. the thing is we broke up in June... it still feels like it now, as it did back months ago.
sun1972 Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 the thing is we broke up in June... it still feels like it now, as it did back months ago. sometimes it can take a long time i remember someone i nearly dated properely 'A' we met just once...things went a bit further than i intended. We had to be fair chatted online a few months previously. I decided she wasnt for me. Five months later she mailed me to see how i was.. i was dating by then, she said she couldn't talk to me because her feelings hadnt faded!! So we are all different. If you dated this woman for a while, and it was good.. give it plenty of time and it will fade. Oh yeah, i got a friends request from 'A' a year ago, she is now happily married, so she moved on fine- eventually
d0nnivain Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 She's not stopping you from meeting other women. YOU are stopping yourself. At some point & it has been almost 6 months you need to at least intellectually embrace the fact that she's probably not coming back. Once your brain gets, your heart should follow. For now, if you aren't ready to date again, you aren't ready. 2
Logan oO Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 hi, i have a problem. i just can't seem to let go of my ex, and its effecting me in wanting to move on to someone else. whenever i meet new girls, and they flirt with me or whatever, i feel the need to resist. the reason being is that i'm still hooked and in love with my ex. it feels like i'm cheating. in my heart i feel my ex will come back someday, and i don't want to get emotionally invested in someone else, at all. I'm dealing with healing at the moment myself. Although that being said i remember what it was like when my first real love ended. I dated a few girls, and had the same problem. The thing is that you are subconsciously wanting the 'love' feeling with the girl(s) you meet, and where it is not present (because love takes time to develop) your thoughts regress to a time when you had that 'love'. Honestly you should just have a couple of smirnoff ice's before a date and you'll be fine, nice and relaxed and all your thoughts should be focused on enjoying the time with this new possible addition to you life
Author Scoot Scoot Posted November 28, 2013 Author Posted November 28, 2013 I'm dealing with healing at the moment myself. Although that being said i remember what it was like when my first real love ended. I dated a few girls, and had the same problem. The thing is that you are subconsciously wanting the 'love' feeling with the girl(s) you meet, and where it is not present (because love takes time to develop) your thoughts regress to a time when you had that 'love'. Honestly you should just have a couple of smirnoff ice's before a date and you'll be fine, nice and relaxed and all your thoughts should be focused on enjoying the time with this new possible addition to you life i think my problem is that, everyone including my ex want me to find happiness with someone else and i only want to be with my ex.
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 hi, i have a problem. i just can't seem to let go of my ex, and its effecting me in wanting to move on to someone else. whenever i meet new girls, and they flirt with me or whatever, i feel the need to resist. the reason being is that i'm still hooked and in love with my ex. it feels like i'm cheating. in my heart i feel my ex will come back someday, and i don't want to get emotionally invested in someone else, at all. No one is stopping a damn thing but you and you alone. 2
mandyxo Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 i want my ex. i know i should be finding someone else, but my heart wants what it wants. i'm not pushing anything, women are the ones who flirt with me. I know exactly what you mean. I can't let go of my ex. I tell myself im moving on but it's him i constantly think about. & i have guys interested in me but i have no interest whatsoever. All my friends tell me i need someone better. Deserve better. & maybe i do, but i can't help but love him and want him still.
felicity1 Posted November 29, 2013 Posted November 29, 2013 All my friends tell me i need someone better. /QUOTE] We all need partners who want to be with us. Why would we want partners who don't want to be with us? It doesn't make sense. When your partner leaves, you grieve as much as you need to and slowly begin to let go. You can't keep holding on. It's self-destructive.
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